Kuriya Wearing A Patkha But Still Remove Hair!

[kaur12345]

Slowly changing my life around and getting more into Sikhi, Something I've wanted an answer to but never understood if this is right or wrong, I'm getting more into Sikhi and reading more into it for example reading Bani and listening. Just as a learner and developing myself and hopefully plan to take Amrit.

Question that I've always never understood: Why do some Kuriya wear a Patkha and walk around but still do their eyebrows or shave and cut their hair? What will they gain from this? I say to myself if you wear a Pukta it should be a start where u should have stopped doing all the hair removing stuff...I'm, I right?

My opinion I don't see the point in someone doing this what do they gain? I asked a random Penji "why do you cover your head with a Patkha?" As she does wears makeup and cuts her hair etc. Her reply to me "My boyfriend is a Gursikh he wants to marry someone that covers their head so I wear a patkha so his family will expect me!" I was a bit stunned by that reply I think she missed the true meaning of covering our head...

I on the other hand cover my head with a Patkha when making food and serving the family, doing path, or going to camps. I've also had Gursikhs come to stay over my family house and have full respect for them and they have always said keep it up and take Amrit one day because they seen and know me. But one said "you don't need to have something on your head to prove that you do Naam, Sewa etc it's all about the inside not the outside, you need to have the heart and mind"..Is this person right to have said this and true?

I had a issue where another a few Amritdary Penji's were being very judgemental towards me when they met me, it's a normal thing because I have it all the time I greeted them with a Fateh it wasn't what they expected as I didn't wear a Keski seemed a outsider to them so they looked and judged straightaway thinking what is this kuri doing why is she here but they were family friends. So they watched me threw out the day as they were guests and we all done Rhearass together and thankful I've learnt a lot of path with the help of family I requested id do the Ardass with a bit of help as I'm still young learner tent to forget a few bits after they apologised to me and said Penji why don't u wear a Keski.

I felt do I need to wear a Keski to prove that I do my Path wake up at Amritvela and do Sewa for people? I think when I'm ready to wear a Keski I will! Isn't it right to know as much first about our Sikhi and then take Amrit I think like that I first would like to learn and be ready for this but some take Amrit and then learn but we all are learning something new every day. I don't know much as I'm learning so would be great for Gursikhs to give me there view on this.

Forgive me if I've said anything wrong.

Gur Fateh.

[S1ngh]

I think the point is that it is sad to see amritdhari bibian doing what they are not supposed to do. There is no point of being amritdhari but then at the same time breaking the codes. There are also tons of modern daastar wearing bibian who makes eyebrows often.. Don't wear daastar if you are not proud of what you are.. The whole point of our life is to live simple and disciplined life and to avoid such superficial things.. same goes with singh !

[gurmukhsodhi]

But one said "you don't need to have something on your head to prove that you do Naam, Sewa etc it's all about the inside not the outside, you need to have the heart and mind"..Is this person right to have said this and true?

If there is a seed inside the earth, how could it possible that plant would not grow outside.

ਜੇਹਾ ਅੰਦਰਿ ਪਾਏ ਤੇਹਾ ਵਰਤੈ ਆਪੇ ਬਾਹਰਿ ਪਾਵਣਿਆ ॥੭॥

Whatever He places within them, that is what prevails, and so they outwardly appear. ||7||

[Guest Balhaaree]

Vaheguru Jee Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Jee Kee Fateh "Kaur 12345" bhenji you're doing the right thing by covering your head and not doing any kurehat or beadbi of kes. I know a lot of Bibia who goes to Sikh camps, be counselors, do speeches, presentations for the young kids at the camp but not follow what they preach them. You think if they cut their hair themselves, do their eye brows and tell the kids to keep their hair, not to shave or do their eyebrows, Is that really gonna make sense to the kids.

In my opinion if you call yourself a Sikh, you have some responsibilities such as to look like and live like a Sikh. If you say I am covering my head for a Sikhi reason then you must represent Sikhs. It really does not make sense to continue doing eye brows, trimming hair & wearing make-up and still trying to say I am covering my head for a "sikhi"reason. I wouldn't comment on the bibi who just want to cover her head for a guy or to make his family happy.

However bhenji I also started off with covering my head with chunni & pathka while learning nitnem & how to take proper care of kakkaars. Since Everybody is different. It will just come to you when you 'll feel ready to wear dastaar too. Some people change inside first then start changing on outside.

May Vaheguru jee forgive us & give us sojhi to follow His Rehat properly