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For some reason, these days I have been having this urge to leave my house. But I have nowhere else to go. It seems to me that no one in my family wants me to be home and that leaves me thinking to just run away. I have never shared this with anyone before other then one of my closest friend. All she tells me is that why would you do such a thing. But I have no answer for that. Sometimes I tell myself that why would I feel such an urge to go anywhere else when Rajan Ke Raja Maharajan Ke Maharaja Dhan Guru Granth Sahib Jee is parkash at the house. I also have this intense feeling all the time that I want to go to Sachkhand Sri Harmandar Sahib. Sometimes I spend like an hour crying just to go there. I have been there only once but I was to young to remember anything. I want to spend my entire life at Darbar Sahib and do bartna de sewa and jorean de sewa. This is the only goal in my life but how do I get this opportunity?

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get a part-time job... save up... then go. Pretty simple.

you have a saroop at your house, one can assume your family is to some degree religious.

So take one of your parents with you.

The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. "Bob Moawad"

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I think this is some kind of depression if you think your family dosnt want you there.

Go ask them and express anything, confirm it if its just your mind making stuff up due to depression or they really dont want you.

and about going to Shri Harmandar Sahib try go in the summer holidays alone or with a friend or organise someone from your local gurdawara.

If you dont have the money then get a job and work remember guru ji said kirt karni meaning do work get any kind of job... to earn money for the ticket and other stuff.

To be honest it sounds like depression just do lots of japji sahibs and other banis and do some simran, listen to kirtan and also try some yoga it helps depression, find some videos on youtube.

Just dont think about the urge try thinking about Waheguru remember you can do darshan from anywhere just to lots of simran and read lots of bani and you might have darshan of shri Harmandhar sahib in your dream etc...

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youth these days don't contribute much at house helping parents, rest of the family members and then they feel unwanted.

The problem is with you.

You have to be contributing, even if its doing dishes with the mom or gardening or moping or vacuum cleaning the house.

I know way too many people who don't feel wanted in family but at the same time, they want to be served even a glass of water by mom or sister.

I can easily tell from your wording that you are a young man who basically does not move a thing in a house.

Too many youngesters and many adult men (as even if they are parents of bunch of kids or grandparent), they think houshold chores are only job of ladies of the house and feel ashamed to do dishes and then complain they feel unwanted.

Very simple solution. Mak yourself useful to yourself and to others.

Food appears on your plate everyday for 3-4 times a day. There is someone in the house who does do lot of work to make that food move from grocery store to your mouth. WHO are THOSE people??

ever think being part of that team who does make it all possible.

Too many times we remember that Gurbani says to meditate on GOD, but we forget Guru Nanak Dev ji's first principle. There is reason why he put it first before others.

Kirat karni

Naam Japna

Vand chhukna.

Follow it in that order. Don't skipp the first one and then expect connection to GOD or happiness in life. It won't come.

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Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

Khalsa ji,

I think you need a change from routine.

If you are old enough then go for a Sikh or Khalsa camp.

This will give you a chance to do Simran, Saadh Sangat and Seva.

On top of it you will meet, discuss and learn from Charhdikala Singhs & Kaurs.

Or like others suggested plan a vacation with family, relatives, friends or Jatha to Amritsar in future.

Would like to share my little knowledge that Bibian aren't allowed to do jorean di seva at Sri Harmandar Sahib, bartan jine marji manjo ji.

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

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