Dont Know What To Do.

[Guest Agony auntie]

Perhaps because of overly sexualised society only a very rare person who has ultimate control of their mind would b immune us poor souls must turn to whatever help we can get even resorting to this forum so here we are in this situation not unique. If u only 16 bro then marriage is a bit off. My advice is do well in your A's get a top job and let the world know sikhs arent just a bunch of drop outs !

[dalsingh101]

Paji thank you for understanding. I live in the UK. Wolverhampton. I am 16years of age

Look, if you are genuine, you should try and understand some things (which will probably be difficult if not impossible for you right now - who knows?)

Firstly at you age your body is going through A LOT of hormonal/physical change that can make attraction to the opposite gender seriously strong. Like the effects of powerful drugs.

This 'effect' is exactly what makes people of other less conservative cultures than ours, engage in stuff that leads to teenage pregnancies and whatnot. It also causes a lot of naive apneean to end up getting used and abused.

Being a nihung I presume your family will be against you dating, plus at your age you will NOT be mature enough to handle a relationship in any case. If you start doing teenage ashikeean with the bana it will be proper twisted and you will get a lot of stick for it.

You are in a tricky position because no one will take you serious because of your age. Best to keep away as your feelings/emotions are likely to be overwhelming because of the hormonal changes you are going through. If you feel an abnormal sense of loss at the thought of this it is because of them - not because you are 'in love'. Later maturity will allow you to see things in a better perspective. In the meanwhile keep yourself extra busy with other stuff that preoccupies your brain and keep distance from her in case you give in to temptation.

Sorry I can't be of much help, but just be careful you don't ruin your reputation or make your family go cuckoo.

[Avtar95]

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh

Probably one of the best things to do is to do mool mantar or vaheguru da jaap. I know how you feel we all go through this phase but after a couple of months it wears off.As bhaji said in the previous post keep yourself busy and most of all do ardas and ask maharaj for protection. THIS IS KAM. thats all not love. (and hormones)

I hope this was helpful and i am deeply sorry if i said anything wrong. Bhuk Chuk Maaf

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh

[rightpath]

Singh...just do ardaas to waheguru that you stay in the right path...yu know that Sikhi is against love before marriage!! Singh you Dunt want to dissapoint Pitaji and

Mataji (guru gobind Singh ji and mata sahib Kaur ji) Singh ji why will you want to do things that yu will have to do Pesh and regret later on life.,my point is before to late...remember waheguru and that yu are guruji roop and you can't even think or imagine guruji doing this!! My advice is that forget tht girl! Stay friends if yu want to..but Dunt even think about goin out with her...yur mind is playing with yu before things get worse stop it!

Bul Chuk maf I hope I helped!

[UKnihang]

Thanks for the replies.

I will do as the sangat says.

[Guest Favj protector]

Do some weights to get rid of some of that excess testosterone !

[OhTwadi]

Do some weights to get rid of some of that excess testosterone !

Wrong. Doing regular weight training will result in more free flowing testosterone in the body.

Running is much better to regulate hormones in the body.

[HDSH]

Closing as you have started another thread on the same topic.