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Get married. That is the best solution to this problem. In earlier generations people got married earlier as a result this wasn't a big problem, now this is a problem because people put marriage off t

The solution is not to get married although getting married at 18 is a good thing for Sikhs. Start early in the married life and this leaves more time for bhagti then and later. You need to change y

Most replies I’ve read all wholly wrong, I think people are (due to lack of knowledge) missing the point, I’ve seen a video where they believed that Guru Gobind singh jee had lust and that the flow of

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BAS =» Big A$$ Smile

BBL =» Be Back Later

BBN =» Bye Bye Now

BBS =» Be Back Soon

BEG =» Big Evil Grin

BF =» Boyfriend

BIBO =» Beer In, Beer Out

BRB =» Be Right Back

BTW =» By The Way

BWL =» Bursting With Laughter

C&G =» Chuckle and Grin

CICO =» Coffee In, Coffee Out

CID =» Crying In Disgrace

CNP =» Continued (in my) Next Post

CP =» Chat Post(a chat message)

CRBT =» Crying Real Big Tears

CSG =» Chuckle Snicker Grin

CYA =» See You (Seeya)

CYAL8R =» See You Later (Seeyalata)

DLTBBB =» Don't Let The Bed Bugs Bite

EG =» Evil Grin

EMSG =» Email Message

FC =» Fingers Crossed

FTBOMH =» From The Bottom Of My Heart

FYI =» For Your Information

FWIW =» For What It's Worth

GAL =» Get A Life

GF =» Girlfriend

GFN =» Gone For Now

GMBA =» Giggling My Butt Off

GMTA =» Great Minds Think Alike

GTSY =» Glad To See You

H&K =» Hug and Kiss

HABU =» Have A Better 'Un

HAGN =» Have A Good Night

HAGU =» Have A Good 'Un

HHIS =» Hanging Head in Shame

HUB =» Head Up Butt

IAE =» In Any Event

IC =» I See

IGP =» I Gotta Pee

IMNSHO =» In My Not So Humble Opinion

IMO =» In My Opinion

IMCO =» In My Considered Opinion

IMHO =» In My Humble Opinion

IOW =» In Other Words

IRL =» In Real Life

IWALU =» I Will Always Love You

JMO =» Just My Opinion

JTLYK =» Just To Let You Know

KIT =» Keep In Touch

KOC =» Kiss On Cheek

KOL =» Kiss On Lips

L8R =» Later

L8R G8R =» Later 'Gater

LHM =» Lord Help Me

LHO =» Laughing Head Off

LHU =» Lord Help Us

LMAO =» Laughing My A$$ Off

LMSO =» Laughing My Socks Off

LOL =» Laugh Out Loud

LSHMBB =» Laughing So Hard My Belly is Bouncing

LSHMBH =» Laughing So Hard My Belly Hurts

LSHTTARDML =» Laughing So Hard The Tears Are Running Down My Leg

LTNS =» Long Time No See

LTS =» Laughing To Self

LUWAMH =» Love You With All My Heart

LY =» Love Ya

MTF =» More To Follow

NRN =» No Reply Necessary

NADT =» Not A Darn Thing

OIC =» Oh, I See

OL =» Old Lady (significant other)

OM =» Old Man (significant other)

OTOH =» On The Other Hand

OTTOMH =» Off The Top of My Head

PDS =» Please Don't Shoot

PITA =» Pain In The A$$

PM =» Private Message

PMFJI =» Pardon Me For Jumping In

PMP =» Peed My Pants

POAHF =» Put On A Happy Face

QSL =» Reply

QSO =» Conversation

QT =» Cutie

ROFL =» Rolling On Floor Laughing

ROFLAPMP =» ROFL And Peeing My Pants

ROFLMAO =» ROFL My A$$ Off

ROFLMAOAY =» ROFLMAO At You

ROFLMAOWTIME =» ROFLMAO With Tears In My Eyes

ROFLUTSROFL =» Unable to Speak

RTFM =» Read The F****** Manual!

SETE =» Smiling Ear To Ear

SHID =» Slaps Head In Disgust

SNERT =» Snot-Nosed Egotistical Rude Teenager

SO =» Significant Other

SOT =» Short Of Time

SOTMG =» Short Of Time Must Go

SWAK =» Sealed With A Kiss

SWAS =» Scientific Wild A$$ Guess

SWL =» Screaming with Laughter

SYS =» See You Soon

TA =» Thanks Again

TGIF =» Thank God It's Friday

TCOY =» Take Care Of Yourself

TILII =» Tell It Like It Is

TNT =» Till Next Time

TOY =» Thinking Of You

TTFN =» Ta Ta For Now

TTYL =» Talk To You Later

WAS =» Wild A$$ Guess

WB =» Welcome Back

WTH =» What/Who The Heck (or sub an 'F' for the 'H')

YBS =» You'll Be Sorry

YG =» Young Gentleman

YL =» Young Lady

YM =» Young Man

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The solution is not to get married although getting married at 18 is a good thing for Sikhs. Start early in the married life and this leaves more time for bhagti then and later.

You need to change your lifestyle. Why do some Gursikhs have no problem with it and you do? I serious don't know how people get time for watching tv and movies, when rehat maryada tells us to study rehat, do simran, complete our nitnem, contemplate over Gurbani, listen to kirtan, study other religions, do seva, make an honest living, etc.

When in public walk with your head down and do Vaheguru simran. Speak little, eat little and the correct food, eating out increases the 5 vices, sitting in bad sangat increases the 5 vices. Take what you do daily and write it down. The problem is in your daily routines and the solution is in changing your daily routine to one that is more focused on become a Gursikh and helping others reach the state of Gursikh as well.

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AFAIK =» As Far As I Know

AFK =» Away From Keyboard

ASAP =» As Soon As Possible

BAS =» Big A$$ Smile

BBL =» Be Back Later

BBN =» Bye Bye Now

BBS =» Be Back Soon

BEG =» Big Evil Grin

BF =» Boyfriend

BIBO =» Beer In, Beer Out

BRB =» Be Right Back

BTW =» By The Way

BWL =» Bursting With Laughter

C&G =» Chuckle and Grin

CICO =» Coffee In, Coffee Out

CID =» Crying In Disgrace

CNP =» Continued (in my) Next Post

CP =» Chat Post(a chat message)

CRBT =» Crying Real Big Tears

CSG =» Chuckle Snicker Grin

CYA =» See You (Seeya)

CYAL8R =» See You Later (Seeyalata)

DLTBBB =» Don't Let The Bed Bugs Bite

EG =» Evil Grin

EMSG =» Email Message

FC =» Fingers Crossed

FTBOMH =» From The Bottom Of My Heart

FYI =» For Your Information

FWIW =» For What It's Worth

GAL =» Get A Life

GF =» Girlfriend

GFN =» Gone For Now

GMBA =» Giggling My Butt Off

GMTA =» Great Minds Think Alike

GTSY =» Glad To See You

H&K =» Hug and Kiss

HABU =» Have A Better 'Un

HAGN =» Have A Good Night

HAGU =» Have A Good 'Un

HHIS =» Hanging Head in Shame

HUB =» Head Up Butt

IAE =» In Any Event

IC =» I See

IGP =» I Gotta Pee

IMNSHO =» In My Not So Humble Opinion

IMO =» In My Opinion

IMCO =» In My Considered Opinion

IMHO =» In My Humble Opinion

IOW =» In Other Words

IRL =» In Real Life

IWALU =» I Will Always Love You

JMO =» Just My Opinion

JTLYK =» Just To Let You Know

KIT =» Keep In Touch

KOC =» Kiss On Cheek

KOL =» Kiss On Lips

L8R =» Later

L8R G8R =» Later 'Gater

LHM =» Lord Help Me

LHO =» Laughing Head Off

LHU =» Lord Help Us

LMAO =» Laughing My A$$ Off

LMSO =» Laughing My Socks Off

LOL =» Laugh Out Loud

LSHMBB =» Laughing So Hard My Belly is Bouncing

LSHMBH =» Laughing So Hard My Belly Hurts

LSHTTARDML =» Laughing So Hard The Tears Are Running Down My Leg

LTNS =» Long Time No See

LTS =» Laughing To Self

LUWAMH =» Love You With All My Heart

LY =» Love Ya

MTF =» More To Follow

NRN =» No Reply Necessary

NADT =» Not A Darn Thing

OIC =» Oh, I See

OL =» Old Lady (significant other)

OM =» Old Man (significant other)

OTOH =» On The Other Hand

OTTOMH =» Off The Top of My Head

PDS =» Please Don't Shoot

PITA =» Pain In The A$$

PM =» Private Message

PMFJI =» Pardon Me For Jumping In

PMP =» Peed My Pants

POAHF =» Put On A Happy Face

QSL =» Reply

QSO =» Conversation

QT =» Cutie

ROFL =» Rolling On Floor Laughing

ROFLAPMP =» ROFL And Peeing My Pants

ROFLMAO =» ROFL My A$$ Off

ROFLMAOAY =» ROFLMAO At You

ROFLMAOWTIME =» ROFLMAO With Tears In My Eyes

ROFLUTSROFL =» Unable to Speak

RTFM =» Read The F****** Manual!

SETE =» Smiling Ear To Ear

SHID =» Slaps Head In Disgust

SNERT =» Snot-Nosed Egotistical Rude Teenager

SO =» Significant Other

SOT =» Short Of Time

SOTMG =» Short Of Time Must Go

SWAK =» Sealed With A Kiss

SWAS =» Scientific Wild A$$ Guess

SWL =» Screaming with Laughter

SYS =» See You Soon

TA =» Thanks Again

TGIF =» Thank God It's Friday

TCOY =» Take Care Of Yourself

TILII =» Tell It Like It Is

TNT =» Till Next Time

TOY =» Thinking Of You

TTFN =» Ta Ta For Now

TTYL =» Talk To You Later

WAS =» Wild A$$ Guess

WB =» Welcome Back

WTH =» What/Who The Heck (or sub an 'F' for the 'H')

YBS =» You'll Be Sorry

YG =» Young Gentleman

YL =» Young Lady

YM =» Young Man

Thankyou ji, this was very helpful.... :waheguru:

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Very true. In fact I think this is also the best solution for the promiscuous behavior of our youth especially our girls who date Muslim boys. Just get them married at a younger age and problem solved. It is very natural for boys and girls at that age wanting to get into a relationship as a result they search for and get BF and GF for themselves and put Khay at the heads of their perents. Instead of that, wouldn't it be better to just get a husband and wife for them? It is very unnatural for humans to marry at late 20s and 30s. We need to come back to the basics of our religion and traditions.

Very true. In fact I think this is also the best solution for the promiscuous behavior of our youth especially our girls who date Muslim boys. Just get them married at a younger age and problem solved. It is very natural for boys and girls at that age wanting to get into a relationship as a result they search for and get BF and GF for themselves and put Khay at the heads of their perents. Instead of that, wouldn't it be better to just get a husband and wife for them? It is very unnatural for humans to marry at late 20s and 30s. We need to come back to the basics of our religion and traditions.

You are soo funny. Get them married at a young age, and then just wait for the divorce. Silly advice.

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Tis iz so much right cos i wan 2b of marrie but no 1look @me cos i 2young . But it wud stop the thoughts i hav in my hed . My hed thoughts hurt ma hed sumtyms . I lyk lookin @gals an boyz t2 but it ok cos den i c god in dem ;-)

Tis iz so much right cos i wan 2b of marrie but no 1look @me cos i 2young . But it wud stop the thoughts i hav in my hed . My hed thoughts hurt ma hed sumtyms . I lyk lookin @gals an boyz t2 but it ok cos den i c god in dem ;-)

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Well wat can one say apart from Beauty is in the eye of the Beholder.

Everybody has different perceptions of what is or who is beautiful.

They may look beautiful to you, but to somebody else they probably wouldnt even look twice.

The more u try to stop urself from looking at them the more frustrated u will get, and add more tension to your life.

You cant walk around with ur eyes closed a isolate yourself from the world, there will always be something to distract you.

You have to learn urself, and that will come with time as u get older. sorry do not know ur age so assuming you are a young man/boy.

Every where u look there will be beautiful girls but its all about how u observe the situation.

Ask yourself why do you like looking at the?

Is there anything else u can draw ur attention towards that will have the same effect to make u feel relaxed?

Whats so special about the beauty that makes u relax, I bet if u sat down and did a list you would come out with lots of things that make u feel the same, apart from the physical attraction bit.

It is part of nature to see these things and have these feelings, but also to control your mann, and ur thoughts. You have to do that by urself, there is no technique that works for all, but u have to find ur own technique.

Seems like u feel guilty if a beautiful girl walks by and u look at her. Why do u? ask urself these questions.

Je kudi tere muh te thapar mareh tere samne aake, fir ni beautiful lagni...ha ha ha..

The whole world is beautiful think of it like that, despite not having a beautiful face, other people are beautiful, its just that u are not trying hard enough to see the true beauty of people.

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Actually i am not being able to draw a line which is right and which is wrong. Now suppose i go to Bus and i see two empty seats. If i have the option of sitting close to girl or boy , i will prefer to sit with girl. Even if i don't do anything but something inside me will tell me to sit there.

I have seen many times that even when i was sitting somewhere in class / centre etc then sometimes Girls sit near me rather than near some girl. Does that mean that those Girls are bad or i am bad if i prefer that way

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Hahaha oh my! I said "lmao" because I think it's silly to tell someone to get married because they can't stop looking at the opposite sex. How about no- learn to control your urges, don't just get married so you can satisfy your sexual desires with your wife. :| Sikhi is about discipline, not finding ways around things.

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Bhaji scooter, im not sure if you have any sisters but how would you feel if that was your sister being stared at by some singh across the street or in a bus? Im sure you would not be happy about it would you? Also think of it this way these girls are some ones daughter and i am very sure parents would be fuming if they knew you were looking at their daughter in whatever way you do. Its not nice for any brother, sister, mother or father to see any girl go through that. I have many pretty sisters and yes i have seen guys looking at them and it makes me angry that they look at my sisters like they are objects of beauty, sometimes i feel like a security guard always trying to protect my sisters from guys, but. Guys staring at my sisters (like you do) they feel uncomfortable. So benti to guys who do things like this is to keep your guys to yourself and focus your mind on bani and your sikhi. Instead of wasting precious time looking at girls, do something productive like paath and simran, talk to God about how you feel as he is everywhere and always there when you need him. Well bhaji this was just my two cents and hopefully...maybe you and any other singh will think twice before staring at girls, and if you do not understand what i am saying now, then maybe when your sister gets stared at or when you have your own daughters then maybe you will understand what i meant....bhul chuk maaf karna....

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