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Having a pop? i was just laughing at the joke he made, which to be frank was actually pretty funny.

Apologies if i have caused you any offence.

I should've added a smiley. I meant my comment to be entirely humourous my friend! I forget this is the Internet and things can be taken the wrong way on occasions. :biggrin2:

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Gurfateh.

The topic seems to have diverted onto something completley different however back to the original post.

It is a very personal relationship between husband and wife. She might have been shy in front of all relatives holding hands etc.but you dont need to take that as a rejection or cause for concern. She has only known you for 8 months and your not married atm.

Only you can gauge where you both are in the relationship both mentally and physically. It is for you both to decide how you should move your relationship forward. There are some helpful suggestiosn but the best way forward would be to speak to her about it, if you can wait it out at least wait until you are married. I am not sure how many bibia would be happy to speak about physical relationships before marriage.

You seem like an understanding and respectful person so perhaps just giving her some space until she can settle into your home and family before discussing your relationship.

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sorryji, for the diversion, its innergear's vocabulary, bless him.

YEs ur right @ advisor, not many would speak b4 marriage. One has to understand the reservation that has to take place b4 marriage.

I dont think u have any problem, its just that u feel u have been knocked back by her, as she cried. Dont think its because of you, its not.

Its probably because her being a Singhni that she has been very reserved, and been standing by her morals, and respect for herself, which is very great.

Try to understand it from her side too, that It is very difficult for her to all of a sudden adapt to a stranger, when all her life, she has been with her family.

Not all girls are confident in talking, or their interpersonal communication may not be as u expect it to be. Thats all because of the environment that she has been in, and as a person she is a shy person.

Just be urself on your wedding day, dont worry about physical relationship too much, as that will stress u more and u dont want that b4 your wedding.

You could try to talk to her on a one to one basis, and just tell her how u feel. But say it so as not to offend her. Tell her how that u feel low, and that you think its coz of u, as u have told us here.

Also give her moral support, tell her u will be there for her no matter wat, and in sukh and dukh, she probably is very very nervous about the whole situation as u are. And the crying maybe part of a panic attack. The more she will feel less vunerable to watever she is fearful of, the more comfortable she will feel around you.

Good luck and may waheguru give u happiness in ur marriage.

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

I would recommend reading a book named "Grahsat Dharam Sikhiya" written by Master Tara Singh Ji which is a must read for everyone single or married. I haven't read this book yet, but I have heard a lot about it. The content of this book is heavily based on the following books as mentioned by Master Tara Singh Ji on the very first page:

  1. Science of a new Life
  2. What a young man ought to know
  3. Confidential talk to a young man
  4. Human Physiology

This book is available to read at Panjab Digital Library for free at the following link:

http://www.panjabdig...t+Dharm+Sikhaya

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

Sewak

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