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sadh sangat jee,

just hoping someone can help mee.. i dont feel like talking to anyone.. more likely just keeping to myself and doing my bani and simran and going on my laptop to listen to katha/kirtan. But my parents are really concerned.. think im going to disconnect from them and not wanna talk to them. but the thing is i just dont feel like talking.. feel like i got no one in this world without Guru Maheraj Jee. and my mom gives me crap for this.. and so do my friends.. saying im changing and that im not the same. Sangat Jee any advice pleaase?

fateh

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Guest AjeetSinghPunjabi

how old are you ??

it could be because of hormonal changes in your body.

Go out , meet new people and unless you are suffereing from clinical depression , you will very soon be jolly and happy :)

And if you are suffering from clincal depression , ask your parents to take you to psychologists .

You are lucky to have a family and friends .. so don't waste the time you have on this planet by being sad :biggrin2:

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So if they want you to talk. Perfect talk about Guru Sahib and Sikh history. But be careful, sometimes it can turn into you are trying to teach others and you can lose yourself in the ego. So start every sentence with Satguru said, Gurmukhs said, I learned from Satguru, I learned from a Gurmukh, Rehat says.... This way you always give credit back to Satguru and tell yourself, I am the lowest of the low. Talk to your mom about what took place throughout the day, but then put a SIkhi spin on it. Like how Satguru would have handled the situations you were put in. This will make your mom happy and you can continue on SIkhi by analyzing your actions. Ask your mom about specific events of Sikh history. Use a similar strategy with your friends. Eventually they will get the point that regular talk is boring for you and might just get the hint that I also should start reading Gurbani to see why she is so deep into it.

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Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

Kaur ji don't worry everyone goes through this phase in life and it's natural for parents and friends to be concerned.

You just need to strike a BALANCE between Spiritual and Temporal world.

While at home do what your parents expect from you as their child.

When you visit Gurdwara, join Saadh Sangat, listen to Keertan-Katha, sing Gurbani, volunteer for Seva.

Make new friends there and converse with them.

This will make you feel better.

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

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So if they want you to talk. Perfect talk about Guru Sahib and Sikh history. But be careful, sometimes it can turn into you are trying to teach others and you can lose yourself in the ego. So start every sentence with Satguru said, Gurmukhs said, I learned from Satguru, I learned from a Gurmukh, Rehat says.... This way you always give credit back to Satguru and tell yourself, I am the lowest of the low. Talk to your mom about what took place throughout the day, but then put a SIkhi spin on it. Like how Satguru would have handled the situations you were put in. This will make your mom happy and you can continue on SIkhi by analyzing your actions. Ask your mom about specific events of Sikh history. Use a similar strategy with your friends. Eventually they will get the point that regular talk is boring for you and might just get the hint that I also should start reading Gurbani to see why she is so deep into it.

I kinda agree with this, making conversations on what is important to you, will drill it in to them, that you are more interested in Sikhi and less the world, but on the flip your Mum and Dad are your Gurus and should be respected as such, do what they say like help around the house help with the dishes be around more so they see your around and not just locked in your room, I kinda used to do this, but im lucky i have alot of mates who follow Sikhi.

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sadh sangat jee,

just hoping someone can help mee.. i dont feel like talking to anyone.. more likely just keeping to myself and doing my bani and simran and going on my laptop to listen to katha/kirtan. But my parents are really concerned.. think im going to disconnect from them and not wanna talk to them. but the thing is i just dont feel like talking.. feel like i got no one in this world without Guru Maheraj Jee. and my mom gives me crap for this.. and so do my friends.. saying im changing and that im not the same. Sangat Jee any advice pleaase?

fateh

Although it is very good that you are constantly listening to Kirtan, etc., don't become withdrawn from the world. You can still keep Doing Naam Jap while talking to people and stuff. Remember, Guru Nanak Dev Ji told us not to become like Sadhus, withdrawn from the world and hermit like. Sikhs are part of the world they inhabit

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dont worry, just keep doin as much simran and bani as you can.................... the phase your in regarding not wanting to talk to anyone that will pass and change a number of times over the years, its absolutley no problem........you dnt need to go out looking for friends or ppl to socialise with or talk to, or boys to talk to or anything, just do what you sed your doing and make time to sit in the sangat and sing kirtan

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vjkk vjkf,

thank you everybody!

its not that im depressed.. or dont like company.. im fine if someone is sitting in the same room with me but i just dont enjoy talking :s i dont know why.. ive been trying to figure out why im feeling like this.. but i myself have no clue! i dont exactly sit in my room.. i sit out in the living room and just relax so if someone does talk to me i talk but other than that i just dont :s. and yes, im trying to help my mom out as much as possible and be there for her to help. But i dont want to talk.. or almost feel like i dont have the energy to. and yes not sitting alone by myself. But the thing that kind of worries me.. is if i dont start talking my friends and family think im ignorning them.. and slowly we will drift away. cause this is what is currently happening.. and my fam is telling me to balance my life before i completly lose everythhing. but i dont feel alone or anything.. just no intrest in talking. nd defiently no.. i dont need attention from others to feel loved in order to talk.. dont need to look anywhere such as boys to get attention.. thats a definet no!

vjkk vjkf

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Sant Baba Jarnail Singh ji Khalsa would not talk when he was in the earlier stages of doing Bhagti. Sant ji would sit in his room for countless hours doing Bhagti. When he came out of his room, he would speak nothing of the world and eat little. Then go back and keep doing Bhagti.

This is an important stage in your jeevan and the best thing to do is keep quiet (as your atma is telling you), have full faith in Satguru (you won't drift away from family), and keep doing Bhagti. Many people don't even get to this stage or many take western advice at this stage and lose many blessing they would have got. Then it's back to square one for them.

Like Satguru says, if you want to play this game of love with me, then don't pay attention to public opinion (includes family) and give me your head. Satguru is guiding you closer to him. Many can't go for a second without talking because their mind is always racing....they have no peace in them. Some can't sit for a second with their eyes closed because they think this world is reality. A Gursikh can sit for hours quiet with their eyes closed because they know on all four sides they are protected by Sri Vaheguru Ji Maharaj and Maharaj is inside them.

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^ this post really made me happy :) Sant Jee is amazing.. and im nothing compared to them or anything of that sort.. but people say that i think im better than them or that i think im higher than them so thats why i dont talk to them.. but no thats just ridicuous.. my thinking has never even gone there that were on diffrent levels :/ and yes, thank you so much.. im going to continue doing what i am doing.. s'aall Guru.

vjkk vjkf :)

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I think its more of a phase tbh i had this as well its all nice but you need to really surround yourself i get you tho sometimes i cba to talk and prefer being alone n quiet maybe you should find a hobby or somethin i dnno but dont not talk to your parents !

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^ it's not that I don't talk to my parents.. I talk to them.. just don't feel like talking other than hi and such.. but it's not I don't like company.. I have a lot of company.. just don't feel like talking .

fateh :)

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^ it's not that I don't talk to my parents.. I talk to them.. just don't feel like talking other than hi and such.. but it's not I don't like company.. I have a lot of company.. just don't feel like talking .

fateh :)

Coolio well do what you thinks right penji

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waheguru ji...............you are lucky... guru ji di apar kirpa tuhade te.......don't change urself.........you are on the right track...that's the main purpose why we got this human life... to give our complete self to Guru ji.............family n friends will continue to do the same things....they won't change....so accept them as they are.....don't ever think they'll agree with you............that's your test........if you look at Guru Nanak dev ji's physical jeewan.....no body said Guru ji's doing right.....some said...nanak baurana ho gya and spoke ill of him......rab de raah te chalan valeyaan nal duniya de vichar ni kade ralde...na rale ne. na ralange.........

bhagtaan te sansriyaan jorh kade na aaya

waheguru ji kirpa banayi rakhan.....

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i will suggest, carry on going inwards.. wen ur redy to come back, u will! :)

but wen u come back, everything will have changed .. :) wil be the same, but just less than what it was wen u was there. :)

so enjoi it while it lasts!!!!!!

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