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I Have Never Been Fond Of Marriage, Seeing Arranged Marriage Puts Me Off!


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i am a young 18yr old girl and i do not like marriage... i know that this might sound very werid but i have never like the idea of arranged marriage and CASTE!! i get so put off by the idea it really makes me angry, even just the isea of tlaking about marriage with my parents really gets me annoyed... why is it tat you have to be a certain caste to marry someone.... and why is it that when you hit 18 all your parents can think about is getting you hied off to somoene you dont know... love is supposed to be about two people getting to know each other throough a process, and finsing one another, NOT having your f aily decided when you need to get married... i am so put off by marriage its unbeilvable, there is noone to look up to, its how i feel... anyone feel the dame way or is there anyone that can help my warped views change....

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I don't think it’s normal for your parents to get you married now or to even think about it when you are still so young. And there is no caste in sikhi so caste shouldn't be an issue.

And I'm sorry but this isn't a fairy tale, there is no chance or very little chance for you to find someone who you actually love. In fact you'll put yourself through hell doing all this dating nonsense. Most of the time people wound up divorced even when they think they found the one. Better to stick to arrange marriages. And I don't understand why people make arrange marriages seem so bad, you still have your choice if you want to marry that person, no one will force you and you can still get to know that person.

Just focus on more important things in your life right now.

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i am a young 18yr old girl and i do not like marriage... i know that this might sound very werid but i have never like the idea of arranged marriage and CASTE!! i get so put off by the idea it really makes me angry, even just the isea of tlaking about marriage with my parents really gets me annoyed... why is it tat you have to be a certain caste to marry someone.... and why is it that when you hit 18 all your parents can think about is getting you hied off to somoene you dont know... love is supposed to be about two people getting to know each other throough a process, and finsing one another, NOT having your f aily decided when you need to get married... i am so put off by marriage its unbeilvable, there is noone to look up to, its how i feel... anyone feel the dame way or is there anyone that can help my warped views change....

FATEH

I used to be like this! Kind of.

I never thought that it was okay to find someone yourself, but marriage was a HUGELY embarrassing topic for me, and if anyone dared to mention it I would either put my fingers in my ears and start humming loudly or leave the room. Very mature, I know. The thought of getting married petrified me because my parents had the worst marriage ever, so my view of marriage was very warped. I thought it was just arguments and fighting and blah blah blah.

I think in a couple of years time, once a few of your close friends have got married and you have seen how the process works you may feel differently. That's how things changed for me. Also, the person you marry will not be a complete stranger..you will have a good year or so to get to know them so don't panic. The fact that your family are going to find you someone is a huge blessing..there are some very dodgy people out there, so you're lucky that your parents/brothers will thoroughly check out someones background before you live in that household. I think we're very very fortunate..

With regards to caste..it's a load of rubbish but unfortunately people are silly and still follow it.

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Innergear, let me answer your question. iz bogus iz wong anz poopoo dees daz juz wnz ickscuzez to hav loz galfend aanz bois.

If you didnt understand me theres something seriously wrong with u loool :biggrin2:

wht uz unz blaad iz gotz eryz wrdz lik

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wht uz unz blaad iz gotz eryz wrdz lik

Dats bogus ur-ine geezerr blaad plop plop

I agree. to avoid all the embarrasement/awkwardness involved with love/arranged marriages, I'm avoiding marriage as well.

Good step!

Singles 4ever!!

I don't know why women are even for marriage, they get nothing out of it......

tru dat, wenz iz ceez deez mareed coupons, am lik - SISEEZZZ!! Singers 4eve!!! lik, u knw

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Innergear, let me answer your question. iz bogus iz wong anz poopoo dees daz juz wnz ickscuzez to hav loz galfend aanz bois.

If you didnt understand me theres something seriously wrong with u loool :biggrin2:

Well I'll be darned! I never knew Kaal Ji had it in him. A man of hidden talents. :biggrin2:

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Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

gupt101,

Gurbani says

ਸੰਜੋਗੁ ਵਿਜੋਗੁ ਧੁਰਹੁ ਹੀ ਹੂਆ

Union and separation are ordained by the Primal Lord God.

Therefore -

"Love nothing but that which comes to you woven in the pattern of your destiny.

Adapt yourself to the life you have been given and love the people with whom destiny has surrounded you."

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

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