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Good thread. I'm a Singhni who's always been able to pull herself out of down states in the face adverse situations... but for the last few weeks I have been suffering from clinical depression for the first time in my life. It is entirely different to anything I've experienced.

A mental change means that I can't "pull myself out" of sadness, and logical reasoning won't make any difference to my down state. I'm not suicidal, but I can see how my thinking has changed and my mind has taken to a rather negative disposition. Now I'll be going to my GP to get advice, probably on how to raise the serotonin levels in my brain.

Maybe interestingly, I've not told anyone about this problem. I know there's a stigma attached to depression and people seem to belittle it, thinking it to be no more than a sad state that you can pull yourself out of. People don't understand. So those with depression have to try to fight it alone... it's not right.

Depression can be dealt with in two ways, medication and talking, you can see a counsellor who will be able to talk through your emotions and how did the depression kicked in itself. The counsellor will be able to establish the key areas of how depression started and walk you through it by therapeutic work which can be a way of talking through your problems.

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Depression can be dealt with in two ways, medication and talking

No. Depression can be dealt with by many other means also, E.g :

1) Naam Simran

2) Exercise

3) Hard work

4) Social life ....e.g regularly going to gurdwara, mixing with your fellow sikhs in the langar hall, socialising with your fellow sikhs by preparing langar, seva etc

OP, at the end of day, there is actually great wisdom in the words "snap out of it". Like everything else in life, depression becomes a habit. It becomes a habit to always see the glass as half empty. To change the habit the hard bit is taking the first steps to doing the things in the above list. A depressed person will always put off doing those things. Once he or she takes those first steps however, positive thinking can become a habit.

What the depressed person needs to realise is that there are many many people out there who make a living on people being 'depressed', and many others that depend on it in order to be able to put good things on their c.v (voluntary work). Drug companies with their drugs......doctors with their pay per patient.....professional counsellors with their fees, do-gooders looking to put something good on their resume etc etc. It doesn't serve any of their's self-interest to tell you that you don't need any of them and the solution is in your own hands. They are vampire parasites that feed on your 'illness'. I say to thee, therefore, just snap out of it !

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No. Depression can be dealt with by many other means also, E.g :

1) Naam Simran

2) Exercise

3) Hard work

4) Social life ....e.g regularly going to gurdwara, mixing with your fellow sikhs in the langar hall, socialising with your fellow sikhs by preparing langar, seva etc

OP, at the end of day, there is actually great wisdom in the words "snap out of it". Like everything else in life, depression becomes a habit. It becomes a habit to always see the glass as half empty. To change the habit the hard bit is taking the first steps to doing the things in the above list. A depressed person will always put off doing those things. Once he or she takes those first steps however, positive thinking can become a habit.

What the depressed person needs to realise is that there are many many people out there who make a living on people being 'depressed', and many others that depend on it in order to be able to put good things on their c.v (voluntary work). Drug companies with their drugs......doctors with their pay per patient.....professional counsellors with their fees, do-gooders looking to put something good on their resume etc etc. It doesn't serve any of their's self-interest to tell you that you don't need any of them and the solution is in your own hands. They are vampire parasites that feed on your 'illness'. I say to thee, therefore, just snap out of it !

No offence, but you have very little insight and empathy. I feel sorry for anyone who reads your post and doesn't feel able to 'snap out of it' because its just not that simple. Benti, to those out there that do feel emotionally low, there are people out there that want to help you to help yourself (and not for the selfish reasons the poster above claims).

Isnt if funny how you speak of vampire parasites yet you're doing a masters aren't you?

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No. Depression can be dealt with by many other means also, E.g :

1) Naam Simran

2) Exercise

3) Hard work

4) Social life ....e.g regularly going to gurdwara, mixing with your fellow sikhs in the langar hall, socialising with your fellow sikhs by preparing langar, seva etc

OP, at the end of day, there is actually great wisdom in the words "snap out of it". Like everything else in life, depression becomes a habit. It becomes a habit to always see the glass as half empty. To change the habit the hard bit is taking the first steps to doing the things in the above list. A depressed person will always put off doing those things. Once he or she takes those first steps however, positive thinking can become a habit.

What the depressed person needs to realise is that there are many many people out there who make a living on people being 'depressed', and many others that depend on it in order to be able to put good things on their c.v (voluntary work). Drug companies with their drugs......doctors with their pay per patient.....professional counsellors with their fees, do-gooders looking to put something good on their resume etc etc. It doesn't serve any of their's self-interest to tell you that you don't need any of them and the solution is in your own hands. They are vampire parasites that feed on your 'illness'. I say to thee, therefore, just snap out of it !

this is probably the worst post ive seen on this whole forum

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Clearly WSL has no clue what he is talking about, but he seems to think that he is an expert on the matter. Did that come off as a shock? It shouldn't have as the post is very much in line with how he normally posts.

Come to think of it, such behaviour runs rampant in our culture. I am talking about a high level of ego seen in Punjabi people who have higher level of education. I have lost count of how many times I have seen this with my very own eyes. I do always say, 'parai naal akal ni aundi'.

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No. Depression can be dealt with by many other means also, E.g :

1) Naam Simran

2) Exercise

3) Hard work

4) Social life ....e.g regularly going to gurdwara, mixing with your fellow sikhs in the langar hall, socialising with your fellow sikhs by preparing langar, seva etc

OP, at the end of day, there is actually great wisdom in the words "snap out of it". Like everything else in life, depression becomes a habit. It becomes a habit to always see the glass as half empty. To change the habit the hard bit is taking the first steps to doing the things in the above list. A depressed person will always put off doing those things. Once he or she takes those first steps however, positive thinking can become a habit.

What the depressed person needs to realise is that there are many many people out there who make a living on people being 'depressed', and many others that depend on it in order to be able to put good things on their c.v (voluntary work). Drug companies with their drugs......doctors with their pay per patient.....professional counsellors with their fees, do-gooders looking to put something good on their resume etc etc. It doesn't serve any of their's self-interest to tell you that you don't need any of them and the solution is in your own hands. They are vampire parasites that feed on your 'illness'. I say to thee, therefore, just snap out of it !

Dude, your posts used to be rude, but now they are getting to a point of being insensitive and in some cases even hurtful towards those who seem to be in pain. And I agree with HDSH, its not one single bit surprising.

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