Naam Simran While Engaged In inappropriate Activity

[Guest gupt]

I try to move away from lustful activities as I feel that it makes us forget about God. But you cannot always control Kaam. For this reason, sometimes while engaged in sexual activity, I start chanting Waheguru's naam in my mind. My question is, which is worst? (or is it ok? )remembering God or completely forget God while doing such deeds.

I am not amritdhari. I am mona and have an urge to become amrithdari sometime in future when I am completely ready. The sexual activity above, I am referring to is just 'fooling around' with my gf and not sex. I am going to marry this girl next year. Please give me your thoughts only on the above posted question only.

thanks

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

[m4ndy]

ਆਸਾ ਮਹਲਾ ੫ ॥

aasaa mehlaa 5.

Aasaa, Fifth Mehl:

ਨਿਮਖ ਕਾਮ ਸੁਆਦ ਕਾਰਣਿ ਕੋਟਿ ਦਿਨਸ ਦੁਖੁ ਪਾਵਹਿ ॥

nimakh kaam su-aad kaaran kot dinas dukh paavahi.

For a moment of sexual pleasure, you shall suffer in pain for millions of days.

ਘਰੀ ਮੁਹਤ ਰੰਗ ਮਾਣਹਿ ਫਿਰਿ ਬਹੁਰਿ ਬਹੁਰਿ ਪਛੁਤਾਵਹਿ ॥੧॥

gharee muhat rang maaneh fir bahur bahur pachhutaavahi. ||1||

For an instant, you may savor pleasure, but afterwards, you shall regret it, again and again. ||1||

ਅੰਧੇ ਚੇਤਿ ਹਰਿ ਹਰਿ ਰਾਇਆ ॥

anDhay chayt har har raa-i-aa.

O blind man, meditate on the Lord, the Lord, your King.

ਤੇਰਾ ਸੋ ਦਿਨੁ ਨੇੜੈ ਆਇਆ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥

tayraa so din nayrhai aa-i-aa. ||1|| rahaa-o.

Your day is drawing near. ||1||Pause||

ਪਲਕ ਦ੍ਰਿਸਟਿ ਦੇਖਿ ਭੂਲੋ ਆਕ ਨੀਮ ਕੋ ਤੂੰਮਰੁ ॥

palak darisat daykh bhoolo aak neem ko tooNmar.

You are deceived, beholding with your eyes, the bitter melon and swallow-wort.

ਜੈਸਾ ਸੰਗੁ ਬਿਸੀਅਰ ਸਿਉ ਹੈ ਰੇ ਤੈਸੋ ਹੀ ਇਹੁ ਪਰ ਗ੍ਰਿਹੁ ॥੨॥

jaisaa sang bisee-ar si-o hai ray taiso hee ih par garihu. ||2||

But, like the companionship of a poisonous snake, so is the desire for another's spouse. ||2||

ਬੈਰੀ ਕਾਰਣਿ ਪਾਪ ਕਰਤਾ ਬਸਤੁ ਰਹੀ ਅਮਾਨਾ ॥

bairee kaaran paap kartaa basat rahee amaanaa.

For the sake of your enemy, you commit sins, while you neglect the reality of your faith.

ਛੋਡਿ ਜਾਹਿ ਤਿਨ ਹੀ ਸਿਉ ਸੰਗੀ ਸਾਜਨ ਸਿਉ ਬੈਰਾਨਾ ॥੩॥

chhod jaahi tin hee si-o sangee saajan si-o bairaanaa. ||3||

Your friendship is with those who abandon you, and you are angry with your friends. ||3||

ਸਗਲ ਸੰਸਾਰੁ ਇਹੈ ਬਿਧਿ ਬਿਆਪਿਓ ਸੋ ਉਬਰਿਓ ਜਿਸੁ ਗੁਰੁ ਪੂਰਾ ॥

sagal sansaar ihai biDh bi-aapi-o so ubri-o jis gur pooraa.

The entire world is entangled in this way; he alone is saved, who has the Perfect Guru.

ਕਹੁ ਨਾਨਕ ਭਵ ਸਾਗਰੁ ਤਰਿਓ ਭਏ ਪੁਨੀਤ ਸਰੀਰਾ ॥੪॥੫॥੧੨੭॥

kaho naanak bhav saagar tari-o bha-ay puneet sareeraa. ||4||5||127||

Says Nanak, I have crossed over the terrifying world-ocean; my body has become sanctified. ||4||5||127||

[VanHelsingh]

You've got to be kidding me. I think you're taking the pashaab.

[Guest readgurbaniforanswer]

we are meant to do simran all the time. so defo keep doing simran. gurbani states there is no moment to not do simran. there is no reason no matter what you are doing not to do naam simran. every bit of gurbani is telling us one command which is to always do naam simran ALL THE TIME. for example

ਨਾਨਕ ਨਾਮੁ ਨ ਵੀਸਰੈ ਕਰਮਿ ਸਚੈ ਨੀਸਾਣੁ ॥੪॥੧੯॥

Nānak nām na vīsrai karam sacẖai nīsāṇ. ||4||19||

O Nanak, never forget the Naam, the Name of the Lord; the True Lord shall bless you with His Mark of Grace. ||4||19||

And

ਨਾਨਕ ਨਾਮੁ ਨ ਵੀਸਰੈ ਕਰਮਿ ਸਚੈ ਨੀਸਾਣੁ ॥੪॥੧੯॥

Nānak nām na vīsrai karam sacẖai nīsāṇ. ||4||19||

O Nanak, never forget the Naam, the Name of the Lord; the True Lord shall bless you with His Mark of Grace. ||4||19||

and

ਮਨਹੁ ਨ ਨਾਮੁ ਵਿਸਾਰਿ ਅਹਿਨਿਸਿ ਧਿਆਈਐ ॥

Manhu na nām visār ahinis ḏẖi▫ā▫ī▫ai.

Never forget the Naam, the Name of the Lord, from your mind; night and day, meditate on it.

[xtremesingh18]

If you have an urge to become Amrithdari, then you shouldn't be doing anything physical with your wife to be.