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Hi, I was wondering if any of you could help me with this question as it has been bothering me for way too long now.

This might be a bit long, so bear with me.

Basically, I'm a 19 year old girl who is NOT amrit dhari and not very religious (i cut my hair etc)

however, I have always believed in God and go to the gurudwara and pray more than I used too.

Anyways, I have committed many sins throughout my teenage years and not so long ago, I did some

things with a guy and I am not exactly proud of it..

Now, of course..this regret and guilt is killing me and I do not have anyone to reach out but God himself.

However, I seriously feel ashamed in front of him for the "lust" activities I have been through.

I just can't deal with this anymore, I've been super depressed and the guilt is literally finishing me off from the

inside day by day. I asked God for forgiveness but I have not come to peace with myself. You could say, I am a girl

that beats herself down over and over again. My sins have been big but my regrets/apologies are even bigger, believe me.

Okay...so the main question, I guess...How do I ask for forgiveness? How will I know I have been forgiven?

Does God even forgive these sins? I want to start on the right path...how do I control my mind/thoughts/actions?

Could I ever cleanse my soul from these sins or will I have to go through the bad things because of this? (Karma)

I've seriously realized all the things I have done were really bad! At this point, I would like to change myself but

don't even know where to start...I just keep calling myself "stupid, <banned word filter activated>, worthless" etc :(

Confused & lost, please help!

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So often we look at our past so much that we forget there is a present and a future as well. What has passed can not be changed, focus on the present which will in turn make your future better. The

Bhenji since you have realized your mistakes and want to go on the right path, read gurbani pray do seva. God will forgive you the instant you ask for forgiveness in total remorse. Stay strong and rea

sins are washed off through meditation on Naam and attendance in the satsangat. I guarantee you that peace lies down this road.

i've done somethings I'm not proud of and made myself very depressed etc in the process which also has a negative effect on the body. i think you can make things worse for yourself like this as theres only so much stress your mind/body can bear. Its good that you have some regret for your actions but dont be too hard on yourself so you harm yourself. Making a few mistakes here and there doesnt make you a bad/evil person. For some people it may be neccessary to make mistakes in order to learn and teach others from your own experience to help them also.

You cant go back and change things.You've recognised some of your mistakes. Now look to improve yourself. Everyday is an opportunity to better yourself. Also take time to reflect on how your in this Mortal body but your actually an Immortal being so how is your experience relative to that?

Some very good suggestions in posts above mines also.

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Guest Kaur

I am a 17 year old girl and i cant help but masturbate. I know it is wrong and recently i have been getting better. But sometimes i just slip and afterwards, i regret it so much. I am constantly worried and i dont know what to do. How do i stop this? and how can i ask for guruji's forgiveness?

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I am a 17 year old girl and i cant help but masturbate. I know it is wrong and recently i have been getting better. But sometimes i just slip and afterwards, i regret it so much. I am constantly worried and i dont know what to do. How do i stop this? and how can i ask for guruji's forgiveness?

I just recently turned 18 but yeah I'm dealing with the same issue as you bhenji. I just do ardas to guru ji to protect me from maya and just ask for forgiveness when u do ardas. Guru sahib is bakhshanhar he is a forgiver, we are not perfect and we will never be perfect, only guru ji is perfect.

I am a sinner, You are the Forgiver. ||1||

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kaam karoDh mohi vas kee-aa kirpan lobh pi-aar.

When you are under the power of sexual desire, anger and worldly attachment, or a greedy miser in love with your wealth;

chaaray kilvikh un agh kee-ay ho- aa asur sanghaar.

if you have committed the four great sins and other mistakes; even if you are a murderous fiend

pothee geet kavit kichh kaday na karan Dhari-aa.

who has never taken the time to listen to sacred books, hymns and poetry

chit aavai os paarbarahm taa nimakh simrat tari-aa. ||4||

-if you then come to remember the Supreme Lord God, and contemplate Him, even for a moment, you shall be saved.


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Guest Barpreet Singh

hey guyz i am a skih and i am only yet 15 1/2 but i *edit* those other years may be because i have been starting to pray now... so please help me get god;s foregiveness and i'll be blessed please help get rid of this thing foreever!! Satnam shri waheguru!!

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I have committed all these sins and I no I have been punished. ... I have recently lost my wife at a young age

I loved her very much and wonder has this all happened because I was unfaithful to her I..drink...smoke... I wanna find away out I am left with my children and want

Forgiveness but don't know what to do ......I believe in god I just don't know . My head is that screwd I look at other women I need to get out of this stupid thinking and stop all ov this

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I have committed many sins too, esp related to kaam. I am such a low life and seems that I have destroyed my human life. Just relying on Guru ji to give me the strength so that I can follow his hukam. But I cannot believe how mad I had gotten, I realize my mistakes but still...I just keep doing ardass and believe one day things will be better

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go to satsangat everyday. there is salvation there and shelter. the energy of meditating in sangat is immensely powerful. over time this energy will build up the power inside of you, you will be empowered to change your bad habits and to stand tall again.

when dealing with wrongs from the past i find that two things are very very important. one is to forgive others and ourselves too. the second is to learn what we can from it. sometimes people ask why did this happen? b/c we almost never receive confirmation of the reason why this question can destroy our peace of mind. don't bother asking it. it's bhana, leave it at that and ask what can i learn from this? how can i use this to make me a better person/sikh?

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i also have made loads of sins in my life and am only 14 yaers old but reading theses stories and comments have shown me that the guru will forgive me if i really mean it from the bottom of my heart i really want to change so waheguru to that i will go down the right path and start again

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Sat Sri akal sangat ji,

Please mainu Dasso ke main kive apni galtiyaan di maafi manga.

Main apne jeevan sathi nu hurt kitta hai. Jinna ne mainu rabb naal jodya,main ohna nu hee enna hurt kitta k ohh mainu chadd rahe hai.

Main apni life vich bahut galtiyaan kariya par ohna ne mainu maaf kar dita si kyonki main ohna nu sab sach dass ke maafi mangi si. Hun Ek din, mere Mann vich vichar aa gaya apne past vich dekhen da, jisde karke ohh hurt ho Gaye te kehnde main ohna da saccha pyaar deserve nai kardi.

Mere to galti ho gayi sangat jee, main ohna to door nai reh sakdi. Please sangat jee, mainu meri galti di maafi de do, mere Pati nu mere to door na karo.

Please mainu Dasso main ki kara?

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