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I've actually gone to Sikhi camps with a half Punjabi half Black girl. The dad married black person to become pakka, then remarried with punjabi, so she had half-sisters. It was cool seeing a black person speak punjabi. But I felt sad for her, cause being half-n-half is so hard and i would personally hate it. Cause u can't hate who u are, and don't fit in completely....

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How is this any different from any other interfaith marriage intervened by Singhs up and down the country (UK)?

And convert? So she is willing to take amrit to make it easier for the community to accept...

Perhaps you should explain the difference between Amrit and Christian Baptism.

With Amrit, your a totally changed person who has to keep rehat, a totally new life.

With Baptism, you change your clothes and your name and thats it.

If you were an amritdhari punjabi wanting to marry an amritdhari black girl, nothing wrong at all.

Pul chuk maaf ji

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I have not taken Amrit, I do plan to, but right now I have not. I was born into a Sikh family but not really taught much about Sikhi (Father had cut hair and was also born in this country (UK) so is very western), and what I did learn was from my Mother. I've learnt more and more as I've gotten older, and now I'm approaching 30 I have a hunger to learn more and am doing so off my own back.

My partner and I have experienced a lot of racism from my Sikh brothers and especially from my Sikh sisters when visiting Gurdwara's or out and about, and I've seen a very ugly side to our community that I feel ashamed of and one that has brought her to tears on more than one occasion. The fact that she tolerates this and stays with me makes me feel empowered and certain that she's the one I'm meant for.

All I hope is that I become a better Sikh every day, and that my Partner and kids share that journey with me.

Onwards and upwards.

_M_

I have not taken Amrit, I do plan to, but right now I have not. I was born into a Sikh family but not really taught much about Sikhi (Father had cut hair and was also born in this country (UK) so is very western), and what I did learn was from my Mother. I've learnt more and more as I've gotten older, and now I'm approaching 30 I have a hunger to learn more and am doing so off my own back.

My partner and I have experienced a lot of racism from my Sikh brothers and especially from my Sikh sisters when visiting Gurdwara's or out and about, and I've seen a very ugly side to our community that I feel ashamed of and one that has brought her to tears on more than one occasion. The fact that she tolerates this and stays with me makes me feel empowered and certain that she's the one I'm meant for.

All I hope is that I become a better Sikh every day, and that my Partner and kids share that journey with me.

Onwards and upwards.

_M_

hi, i have had a similar treatment where my partner is black and when we go to the gurdwara they frown at us and it is embarassing when the community behaves in such a manner. i try and convince my partner that he will be accepted eventually and our kids will keep thier hair just as i have all my life but we sikh community do not accept someone with a different skin colour to us.a sad reality of life.

but on a positive, we have to answer to God and not the community we live in, so i care not what people think of me or us, i just hope people's mind sets can change for the better and look at his 'gun' and look beyond the skin colour.

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first thing first Racial or any kind of discrimination is not allowed in sikhi tenets

Hence the commonity should not take any opposite stand on this count nor the parents

Next , the boy is yet to take amrit , the girl wants to convert to sikhi for the sake of

continuing relationship and the boy does not want to force his views on Girl, both

are taking a stand which should be appriciated by all .

why not go for the marriage , as your pov about each other is so understanding,

study the sikhi togather and then take amrit togather , or take time to learnabout

sikhi togather ,go for amrit togather and then get married take your own time to

find the right alternate

i feel you have the goodwishes of the sangat posting their views here

best wishes

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