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Satsriakal everyone

I am a sikh boy,20 years old and I am a proud gursikh who has lately had an urge to trim my beard. I have been doing a lot of research on this but have not come across a reasonable argument. Why is it that me making a personal life decision of trimming my beard might move me away from my sikhi in the eyes of others. The reason why I would want to trim my beard is because I would feel more comfortable and neat. I proudly wear a turban and will always carry on wearing it with pride and honour.

Some of the reasons which I came across were that our Gurus kept their honour and many sikh men have given their lives to protect this honour. I completely agree with this and I understand we should never move away form the religion but slightly trimming the beard just to be more comfortable and make it look neat? is that not acceptable?

other reason was that we should respect how god has created us and should live in the natural form but then should we not factor in the advancements and change accordingly? if we live naturally only then is it not also wrong to get medical treatment? and so many other things we do in our daily life for instance even cutting out nails?

I am sorry if I have said something wrong but I would like to make it clear that sikhi is in my heart,trimming my beard will not change the sentiment one bit and I encourage you to counter what I have said as it will only help me take this decision.

thanks a lot :)

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If you've taken Amrit you're forbidden to trim/color your beard. If being comfortable and acceptable is what you're looking for, for a second think of what else you said. You talked about the Shaheeds

1 Simple answer to this: Because Guru Gobind Singh Ji gave hukum to keep our Kesh !!! End of story for me really Your choice at the end of the day though !!! To get your answer you should really be

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Bro, don't cut your beard. That's my advice but in the end it's up to you.

Please don't be offended by what I say now but I have a point to make. What you said about wanting to wear your turban proudly, in my brutally honest opinion, what is the point? What is the point if you cut your beard? Maybe there is, if eventually you want to grow your beard again but otherwise it is a bit silly don't you think?

I notice this quite often amongst our folk. Once I was wearing a patka (I have a full open flowing beard) and my relative remarked about her son (who is a trimmed beard turban wearer) that he is the good boy amongst us. She said because he is the one wearing a turban. Eerrm, hello, where's his dhari aunty ji? I have seen this mentality alot. It's like the turban is more important than kesh (dhari). They are completely missing the point of wearing the turban i.e., it is all about looking afer the kesh. Dhari comes into this too. The beard is what separates us from the women. It is a secondary sexual characteristic just like the mane of a lion. If you look after it and shape and comb it and use a bit of oil and what not, nothing can look better than a beard.

It's your decision, I'm not going to jugde you for it.

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Why do u want to trim it? Thats not good excuse, that god didnt do perfect job of making you. They did, they gave u everything you need, its us that start messing around with ourselves to look cool, or to fit in with the world. Im not perfect but if u already have a beard and never trimmed it, my advise would be dont look at others, u can tie it, if u feel that tempted. But once u start trimming its goin to be hard to grow it again. I did th same thing with my hair and its so hard to keep it long, or grow it. Dont mess it up, your young and lucky to have such a nice beard.

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Bro, don't trim your dhari! I was going through the same stuff at home, my parents kept telling me I looked messy and untidy etc, that I looked old, but all I remembered was that Sahib Sri Guru Gobind Singh Ji gave me their look, their bakshish is Kesh!

Just keep on remembering the kurbania the shaheeds have given for us so we can stand today with a joora on our head and

a dhari on our face!I

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Most people are just lazy to keep their hair and beard clean and find the easy way out by getting rid of them.

Personally, I feel more lazy growing my hair lol.

In reply to OP, I think as someone who has recently started to let his hair grow after many years of being bold and clean-shaven I think i can relate to OP somewhat. I'm not very good at reading into what people are saying but to me, _random guy_ it sounds like you've made up your mind already about what your going to do but your just weary of what others might think.

First thing i say is dont worry too much about what other people "might" think. Think about how you actually feel about this which sounds a bit selfish really, but its you who will be affected. You give comfort and neatness as reasons to trim your facial hair, but I think you need to look a bit deeper into this cus IMO you can have a 20ft beard but still keep it neat lol if you look after it.

Also think about 10yrs time, will you still be trimming your beard? how will you feel doing that for so long?

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Short answer is it's easier to keep beard than to trim and try to grow it back later. It was the biggest regret of my life.

You can still keep it tidy and neat without trimming.

In the end, you're trying to justify your own actions to please yourself. Posting on here is only to help justify your decision further. You're trying to make yourself feel better. In the end, it will come down to you and you alone. You can't pin this on anyone except yourself.

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Veer u wil trim ur beard and then u will find theres something else that isnt perfect or neat or is messy. Then ul trim that. But what if your nose is too big? Or ur eyes too small? Will you cut and trim them too? Your kes are a part of your body. They too are your body parts.

In my opinion, my perception, a full flowing dhara looks amazing! Looks neat and beautiful just how our Dasam Pita would want us to look. Veer it all comes down to opinion and perception. The difference between us and people who cut their kes is, we are the Lions, the Singhs, the Leaders, and those who trim and cut their kes are sheep. They cut their kes so they can fit in, look like others. Seriously, what a sad sad life!

Can you imagine asking those same questions to Dasam Pita? Could you imagine Guru Maharaajs response?

Veerji Ardas kar that Maharaaj gives you strength to cut away these urges you are having.

Pul chuk maaf ji

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Satsriakal everyone

I am a sikh boy,20 years old and I am a proud gursikh who has lately had an urge to trim my beard. I have been doing a lot of research on this but have not come across a reasonable argument. Why is it that me making a personal life decision of trimming my beard might move me away from my sikhi in the eyes of others. The reason why I would want to trim my beard is because I would feel more comfortable and neat. I proudly wear a turban and will always carry on wearing it with pride and honour.

Some of the reasons which I came across were that our Gurus kept their honour and many sikh men have given their lives to protect this honour. I completely agree with this and I understand we should never move away form the religion but slightly trimming the beard just to be more comfortable and make it look neat? is that not acceptable?

other reason was that we should respect how god has created us and should live in the natural form but then should we not factor in the advancements and change accordingly? if we live naturally only then is it not also wrong to get medical treatment? and so many other things we do in our daily life for instance even cutting out nails?

I am sorry if I have said something wrong but I would like to make it clear that sikhi is in my heart,trimming my beard will not change the sentiment one bit and I encourage you to counter what I have said as it will only help me take this decision.

thanks a lot :)

trust me, i know from a lot of mone sikhs who are my mates, they always question why on earth a dastar wearing Sikh choose to trim/cut beard. Even they realise it doesnt sit right

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what if your mustache is 4 inches long like mine and gets in your mouth covered with spit and food and gets pulled out painfully when you accidentally bite down in it??

then you do this:

:D

hey if this Singh sahib can do it...cant we?

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