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i need advice on age gap relationships. It is okay if the girl is older than the guy when it comes to marriage? i like this guy and he likes me too we have a age difference of 4 years. we personally don't feel it and lucky i look younger then him so it works out perfectly and also we are at the same level when it comes to education. we"re both in the process of completing our studies and starting our careers. I wanted to know if its okay or not before we talk to our parents about it and if Guru ji said anything about age gap?

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Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

Norm is, guy should be older due to financial reasons.

Service class & professionals require a number of years after studies to secure a good job or income.

I think you should look for someone whose 3 to 5 years older, financially independent and ready for marriage.

Waheguru ji ka khalsa

Waheguru ji ki fateh

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True love is ageless.Times have changed there is no longer woman has to be younger. I am pretty well sure there is nothing in Gurbani about this. You should both be so bright in your Gursikhi way of life. Remember there is an ending to everything including marriage. My second wife is not my age she is 18 years youger than I. Even if she was 18 year older than me, I am sure true love will block the age gap. Do what your mind says, if you don't you would regret, You will wish I had married him and another person in your life might not be the right one for you.

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i believe, since our gurus had marrages (tho at a yongue age, and the marrage process was different), had marages at a age range majorly being 4 years, id say, four years either side of your age. irrespective of gender..

however, now, my own take, if u get on, then thats ok. i know people with big age ranges, and it works... one is 7 years, another, 12, another 13 years.

one is 17 years.. i believe this is totally rong..

so as an over arching statment to answer ths question, if the one you wan to marry is less than 16 (>because(!) of the law that u cant consumate with), then ts ok..

meaning, if there is no way that they would be as old as your son/daughter could be, then its ok.. so, 12/12/14, its ok. that aint no way gona be your daughter.... so ask urself the q, would you have had sex at 12 /13/14 to bring a child into the world? everyone says no to this question.

so, because u could have a kid at 16, by 17, this means that this is the limit. because, you do not want to have a relationship with somone that old/yongue, becaus they could well have been your child.

please excuse my incohearency.. im so tied.

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TO run into married life one should be emotionally and financially strong , further look for

other compatibilities like thinking, family background, language etc if you both feel the same

way about so many things , only age shouldnot be the main issue

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Age gaps only matter when you are both at a young age. A four year age gap is huge when one is 18 and the other is 14. But when one is 34 and the other is 30 then it doesn't look that big a deal. From your post about both of you being ready to leave education and pursue your careers then I assume you must be in the age range 20-24. If so, then that's not such a big gap. The only issue is that traditionally the man has always been older and whether this is an issue depends on how traditional both families are. I mean in a cultural rather than religious way. But if it's not an issue for his family and yours then I would say go ahead. If it is an issue then you could try and wait a few years until your are both older and the age gap becomes less relevant. Good luck in whatever decision you both make.

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chief comander of the naga baba's from juna akhara sri sri 1008 mahamandalshwar said ones.

Age have nothing to do with it. When you both live from your hart and have a spiritual lifestile you can come togethere to share your inner life in the outside world. Hope that you have both a great life with lots of surrenderings in it.

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