i dont want to leave my family

[Guest ravinder]

I got engaged to a gursikh girl in a arrange one in last January .she is born in Canada and lives there from birth , we at the start talked about setting here in Punjab and all agreed upon it but with time she told me ,she don't want to settle here and just want to live in Canada only , I just don't know what to say now , when my parents talk they sometimes says go settle on Canada and live there and sometimes they are emotional like a child should stay with their parents .I don't know I m just confused I mean its my first love and she is good natured but I want to be here for my parents I don't want to leave them at their old age like this ,I m just don't know what to do ,

[TheFancyBanana]

take them with you.

[chatanga]

why get engaged liek this in the 1st place bhaji?

[Guest]

You can't take the whole family with you.Its not easy for the whole family to come and it might take years.

[VanHelsingh]

I got engaged to a gursikh girl in a arrange one in last January .she is born in Canada and lives there from birth , we at the start talked about setting here in Punjab and all agreed upon it but with time she told me ,she don't want to settle here and just want to live in Canada only , I just don't know what to say now , when my parents talk they sometimes says go settle on Canada and live there and sometimes they are emotional like a child should stay with their parents .I don't know I m just confused I mean its my first love and she is good natured but I want to be here for my parents I don't want to leave them at their old age like this ,I m just don't know what to do ,

Have you been telling your potential wife she's your "first love"? Probably one of the reasons she's asking you to uproot and come over to her. :biggrin2: She knows she's got you wrapped around her finger, lol. Nah, I'm just messing.

Let's be honest though, females do it all the time (leaving their family for their husband) so at least we know how it feels for them!

[Guest]

She should come and live in India.

[Unbreakable]

what a waste of thread. sounds more like a script of one of Harbhajan Maans films...

[luckysingh99]

what a waste of thread. sounds more like a script of one of Harbhajan Maans films...

Lovely, ....he.he.ey.heey.hahaahaaahaa.

Maybe you should both get married and move in the middle or settle half way !!!

like Belgium !!!!

That way you will be the same distance from punjab as she is from Canada.

Balle.. balle..what a plot.. what a movie story line.

[S1ngh]

I have to give mad respect to the Topic Starter who is showing utmost respect to his parents.

I would advice you to move to Canada and then call your parents there. Canada is better than India.

Have a open talk about this with your fiancé.

[Only five]

Moving your parents to canada will not be easy. I won't judge your fiance, but many women don't want their in-laws living with them for thousands of reasons. Better make sure your wife is on board for moving your parents to Canada before marriage. If not, then you need to understand that parents come before any fiance or wife. And it does take many years to get your parents into Canada.

Don't make a quick decision and think this through carefully. Best thing to do is get your parents to understand, whether your live in India or Canada, you want them with you. They will understand exactly what you want and will help you tell your fiance what you want and make sure she doesn't back out once she is married to you. Again not judging your fiance, but i have seen it many times, where one side promises something like this and then refuses once they get what they want.