Made a stupid mistake, now heavily regretting it.

[13Mirch 1,221]

Today I made a very heavy, easily avoidable and massively stupid error which will probably prove fatal to me. There is this girl at school who I want to be friends with. Shes smart and serious. I like her. Today a few individuals at school found out. By tomorrow probably she will know, but this thought just struck me; I am looking for a girlfriend when it's not allowed. What do I do? What do I say to her tomorrow and above all how do I repent in the Guru's eyes? Basically my peers managed to get this stupid thing out of me, I like her.

[sat 544]

Do Ardas say your sorry, say no more about it, do Naam jaap, if the girl confronts you tell her the truth and that nothing more will be said and you are sorry.

and move on.

Your man is trying to take u away from Waheguru ji dont let it win and ignore it , tell it hai mana tu jyot saroop hai apna mool pehchan.

WJKK WJKF

[Gurpreet14 319]

Luving some1 does not take u away from waheguru....

Luving or liking some is no harm.... Luving with purity is all u need.......

Luv is God n god is Luv :D

Note - Try doing whatever u can to avoid it.... but i must say when ur heart starts speaking in behalf of u... its very difficult to ignore it :stupidme: :stupidme:

[VanHelsingh 1,991]

@ Gurpreet - Who said it was love? It could easily be lust. And what is love in this day and age? I think many people confuse what is actually a base, animal attraction to a person's external features as love --- I don't class that as love at all.

[Gurpreet14 319]

@kaljugi

Who said it was lust then...... It can he Luv ..... I dont know y people here talks about lust wen some1 just try to share some feeling that he feels for significant 1...

If a liking b/w boy n girl is termed as lust.... den... i must say... nobody in this world is away from this lust...

[13Mirch 1,221]

@ Gurpreet - Who said it was love? It could easily be lust. And what is love in this day and age? I think many people confuse what is actually a base, animal attraction to a person's external features as love --- I don't class that as love at all.

It feels like love. I don't have wet dreams about her or anything like that.

[waheguru12345 11]

just do ardas to guru ji and ask him to kepp your laaj intact, also repeat this shabad and all this problem will dissapear

sloku ]
salok ||
Salok: piq rwKI guir pwrbRhm qij prpMc moh ibkwr ]
path raakhee gur paarabreham thaj parapa(n)ch moh bikaar ||
The Guru, the Supreme Lord God, preserved my honor, when I renounced hypocrisy, emotional attachment and corruption. nwnk soaU AwrwDIAY AMqu n pwrwvwru ]1]
naanak sooo aaraadhheeai a(n)th n paaraavaar ||1||
O Nanak, worship and adore the One, who has no end or limitation. ||1||

[VanHelsingh 1,991]

It feels like love. I don't have wet dreams about her or anything like that.

Yes, you're right. It's love... :blink2:

[13Mirch 1,221]

just do ardas to guru ji and ask him to kepp your laaj intact, also repeat this shabad and all this problem will dissapear

sloku ]

salok ||

Salok: piq rwKI guir pwrbRhm qij prpMc moh ibkwr ]

path raakhee gur paarabreham thaj parapa(n)ch moh bikaar ||

The Guru, the Supreme Lord God, preserved my honor, when I renounced hypocrisy, emotional attachment and corruption. nwnk soaU AwrwDIAY AMqu n pwrwvwru ]1]

naanak sooo aaraadhheeai a(n)th n paaraavaar ||1||

O Nanak, worship and adore the One, who has no end or limitation. ||1||

Yes, I have been doing ardass about my laaj.

[Mat Pulo Rai 32]

Today I made a very heavy, easily avoidable and massively stupid error which will probably prove fatal to me. There is this girl at school who I want to be friends with. Shes smart and serious. I like her. Today a few individuals at school found out. By tomorrow probably she will know, but this thought just struck me; I am looking for a girlfriend when it's not allowed. What do I do? What do I say to her tomorrow and above all how do I repent in the Guru's eyes? Basically my peers managed to get this stupid thing out of me, I like her.

You have to ask yourselfthe question, are you happy with the feelings you have towards the other sex? The 5 demons are the reasons for lust, are you happy being moulded to follow these

sins, if you have convinced yourself Yes, then in a way you have picked your path, but from Guru jee's perspective lust is a no no

Lust is, is subjecting a certain view of what you view to be attractive, whether it be the way they look, their eyes there body frame and so on, so you are failing to see that

they are the Form of God. And indulging in any sin leads to humiliation in this life and the other, personally i find it heart breaking to see Sikhs with the

uniform of our Guru doing things which taint the Pureness of Sikhism, so when doing things remember one thing we are the ambassadors of our faith and what we

do reflects on our Gurus.

[Beginner 96]

Sometimes maya and love can feel like one another. Ask yourself this: If she says something like "Oh, I don't like people who support Khalistan" or "I like to drink every now and then", will you still feel that love?

Getting into relationships can be distracting, IMO, it can focus your heart away from God. THOUGH if its the right person, another spiritually-oriented person, it can help you both get further along your journey to God

[13Mirch 1,221]

You have to ask yourselfthe question, are you happy with the feelings you have towards the other sex? The 5 demons are the reasons for lust, are you happy being moulded to follow these

sins, if you have convinced yourself Yes, then in a way you have picked your path, but from Guru jee's perspective lust is a no no

Lust is, is subjecting a certain view of what you view to be attractive, whether it be the way they look, their eyes there body frame and so on, so you are failing to see that

they are the Form of God. And indulging in any sin leads to humiliation in this life and the other, personally i find it heart breaking to see Sikhs with the

uniform of our Guru doing things which taint the Pureness of Sikhism, so when doing things remember one thing we are the ambassadors of our faith and what we

do reflects on our Gurus.

Its not the physical aspect but her mind, and who she is. U know if someone could sense her aura then it will be very warm.

Sometimes maya and love can feel like one another. Ask yourself this: If she says something like "Oh, I don't like people who support Khalistan" or "I like to drink every now and then", will you still feel that love?

Getting into relationships can be distracting, IMO, it can focus your heart away from God. THOUGH if its the right person, another spiritually-oriented person, it can help you both get further along your journey to God

She is probably aware of my strong political views, Khalistan etc but I am sure she will be interested in Sikhi. She just doesn't drive up the courage to ask.

I think shes one of those non-spiritual people who discover spirituality and than love it.

Don't think drink is on her to do list but will find out more.

[13Mirch 1,221]

Its just that I have never received such a warm signal, smacking of a religious-like purity from anyone else. If she was a Sikh I would say we would all instantly classify her as a Gurmukh, as per the agreeable attributes we all agree upon to define a Gursikh. I am very, very confused as to what to do.

[luckysingh99 1,221]

Read chritrpakhyian !!!

:biggrin2:

[Gurpreet14 319]

If she is a non-sikh..... i must say.. its not easy... to make her follow sikhism ...........

Nowadays sikhs are not ready to be true sikhs... its almost impossible for a person having a non sikh background to be sikh ... until n unless.... there is some inner voice giving strength to that person to be sikh

Being khalsa is very tough not coz u need to keep hair... but u need to rise ur standard to be a khalsa in every aspect....

Dad...... u made ur children's life so tough.. chalo koi na.... "Teri raaza ch mai raazi... Teri Meherbani"