will you help

[Guest seekingAnswer]

Hey I am 25 old young man from a sikh family . My family is not that religious

I have always felt attracted towards men physically emotionally and sexually . I dont feel desire for women . Infact I feel I am being cheated because my parents want me to marry off to a girl

They dont know that I am not into women at all

What should or can I do ?

[MOD]

I'm not sure if this is Sarabjeet Singh making the same posts over and over again, but if it is this thread will be closed.

Hopefully sangat can have a civilized and proper discussion without hurting anyone's feelings.

[Guest -seeking Answer-]

Who is sarabjeet singh ?

I assume he was someone with similar issues

do you people seriously believe there is only one gay sikh

[Wingz23]

Have you spoken to an elder about this? Maybe they can help

[kullykhalsa]

not really a place for any of the sangat to help, if your not religous stop pretending to be, if your scared about coming out as gay then no one can help you its inner strength you need brother

Simple as this - tell your family dont hide away! whether the people on this forum think its right or wrong you need to be content within yourself and that means not leading a double life!

[Guest _seekingAnswer_]

But I dont even know how I will be content .by accepting my sexuality or by not accepting it .

Sometimes I feel like marrying a lesbian but I am not sure

I was a sissy kid when small and we used to play with tea sets and all . I never liked sports I hated it

So I am very skeptical whether my attraction fot guys is because of that or is it really inborn

I feel ashamed sometimes

[Guest -seekingAnswer-]

But jst because I played witj girly toys doesnt mean thats what madr me gay . It could also be possible that I played with girly toys because I was gay . I dont know whats the causal link here

Some study that went by the name of *gay male brain* said brain of gay men was diffeeent than brain pattern of heterosexual men and similar to those of heterosexual women .

I dont know whats the truth though .

Is attraction for men and feminine lisp in voice and feminized thinking process a result of the feminind brain . Our brain makes us what we are

[kullykhalsa]

the only way to find out is to ask yourself do some paath and see what u think, dont be stressed by what other people think or societies rules, be true to yourself whichever way it turns out good luck but only u can know yourself noone can help you here!

dont think of the past or the present just now, never take it as gospel what some person says read bani for yourself and figure out yourself!

good luck

[tuhintuhin]

waheguru ji....

you can, if you want to, sukhmani sahib's path for 40 days and do ardas ke waheguru ji tuhadi birti badal den, so your life comes at ease......

rest is all upto waheguru ji.....

[Guest -seekingAnswer-]

Even if I dont change I can see myself married to some lesbian girl

Why ? Because my parents want a bahu and poti/pote . I feel its my obligation to give it to them . Otherwise I feel like I cheated them . What surprises me most is how come my parents still have no suspicion of me being gay all when all those childhood years I played with tea sets rather than show liking in anything virile like cricket or football even though I had a bat . Its shocking at times my classmates who havr come and gone in my life a lot of them were able to know I m gay even before I knew myself that I was gay .

I asked my friend

He said he was able to tell I was gay the first week we met , he said because of the accent I spoke unconsciously and most importantly because of my thought process which he said was that of girls

Makes me wonder where is the origin of all this