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Hi,

I'm just wondering if any of you have used Gurdwara matrimony lists?

Have they been any any good?

Are there any other Sikh places that people can recommend?

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yes they do

first the families talk amongst themselves then, the guy and girl are asked if they need some time along to talk amongst themselves

So if the two families have gelled, then it isn't entirely necessary for the girl and boy to be married to have a chat?

I'm well aware in most South Asian cultures the process of marriage is not just about bride and groom compatibility, because our unions also encompass two family units coming together, but I'd imagine it's common sense to allow the prospective bride and groom (who will, ultimately, be sitting in Maharaj's hajoori come the time of the Anand Karaj) to gauge whether it is worth proceeding with any further discussion of marriage, way before the parents from both sides get a bit too attached to each other. Hey, but if it works then fair play. I've honestly never heard of it been done this way in all my years.

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It's not as scary as it sounds. The parents can chat to get an idea of each other - the girl's family will want to know what kind of family their daughter might be going into and the boy's family need to know what kind of background the girl's come from.

As a boy, I've been grilled by the father, mother, grandparents and siblings of the prospective girls. It's more scary to meet and chat with the girl in my experience.

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