It's very subtle but they seem to resent us purely because of the accident of us being born overseas. I'd understand if the person in question is a clown, but not so much if he or she are fairly decent and respectable.
There's a palpable yet very subtle hostility even between cousins from the same family when Beletiyeh return to their family home on an excursion. This type of mentality is a telltale sign of a primitive intellect, and it's those people who require minimal prodding to turn into actual and dangerous threats.
Get off the Internet as other people are suggesting. I think you might have reached a point where all the stuff around you has reached a limit and you're (involuntarily) switching off emotions just to cope.
I totally disagree. Dasam Granth is different from SGGS ji for sure, with a heavier focus on social matters, literature, language, politics, culture, Indic mythology etc. etc. Repurposing traditional narratives to suit contemporary Sikh needs has also been done.
If Guru ji used narratives to explain things to Sikhs, it's on you to try and grasp the underlying themes and points of the narratives, not discard them because of your own preconceptions and mental conditioning go against this.
And they probably don't find it remotely difficult given the types of 'apnay' that we are talking about......
I'd guess it might be along the lines of largely, simpleton, docile useful idiots. Ones you can use and abuse and fail consistently, and then condescendingly pat on the head and bring on board again without any serious threat of comeback. People you can readily rely on to turn on each other once you throw a few pennies their way.