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Anand Karaj...is This Acceptable?


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I was at an anand karaj at weekend in midlands.

Before lava the bride and groom were asked to stand in maharajas hazoori and the registrar asked them to repeat the 'wedding vows'.

Then the couple exchanged rings right there while al sangat was sat in darbar hall.

Then the anand karaj was performed.

I have been thinking about it all weekend. I"m thinking of contacting the Gurdwara to consider holding this farce in another room after the anand karaj.

Any thoughts on this...am i making it a big issue for nothing?

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I was at an anand karaj at weekend in midlands.

Before lava the bride and groom were asked to stand in maharajas hazoori and the registrar asked them to repeat the 'wedding vows'.

Then the couple exchanged rings right there while al sangat was sat in darbar hall.

Then the anand karaj was performed.

I have been thinking about it all weekend. I"m thinking of contacting the Gurdwara to consider holding this farce in another room after the anand karaj.

Any thoughts on this...am i making it a big issue for nothing?

This use to happen in a separate room either before the laava or after. Never heard of anyone conducting it there and then. Seems a bit strange. But ask around it could be the norm these days. Have a word with someone at the Gurdwara before kicking up a fuss.

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x Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ke Fateh x

Not saying this is Right or Wrong...

But I've seen this plenty of times in a Darbaar before.

Yes...back in the day, the Civil Ceremony would be conducted in a room within the Gurdwara Sahib Complex.

Now though...I've seen the Full on Civil Ceremony (as you've seen this weekend) in the Darbaar.

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^^^ one of main differences Veerji with some of these secular modern Punjabi ones is that even the Christians don't waste $100,000 on a wedding when it could be used for better purposes like helping the poor Sikhs with nothing in Punjab or even a deposit on a home would be better than just flushing it away as alcohol, dead chicken and dj expenses

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Leaving the Sikhi aspect out of it for the moment technically what happened makes the marriage null and void. In other words there would be no need for a divorce, decree nisi, anullment or anything. In the eyes of the law no marriage took place that day because the strict rule of a civil marriage (i.e not one conducted in a church) is that it cannot have any religious overtone whatsoever. For a civil marriage to be considered valid by the law it must by definition be 100% in a non-religious setting. The fact that it took place in the darbar hall makes it null and void. Its only a matter of time before one of these cases comes before the Family courts and sets precedence. With local authorities habitually granting registrar licences to unpadh pradhans of Gurdwaras who have little or no understanding of the law, its an accident waiting to happen.

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Its wrong to try and copy Christian wedding ceremonies, but as long as the bride and groom were Sikh that's what matters. I recently went to a wedding between a Hindu girl and Sikh boy and although I disagreed on them getting married in the gudwara in front of SGGS, I didn't say anything because sadly it was my family's close friend (the Hindu girl).

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