Need Suggestion

[Guest Kuldeep]

Sat Sri Akal Ji,

Please suggest & guide me that can any body else (husband or wife) be Amritdhari without informing to one's life partner (Husband or Wife) at any stage ? Is it right way as per the guidelines/ instructions of the Gurumat?

KULDEEP

[GKaur1315]

I'm certain the Husband/Wife would know or figure it out...

[luckysingh99]

No, it should be kept secret. It's the only way the marriage would work. :lol2: :excited:

[ekgurjaskhalsa]

Sat Sri Akal Ji,

Please suggest & guide me that can any body else (husband or wife) be Amritdhari without informing to one's life partner (Husband or Wife) at any stage ? Is it right way as per the guidelines/ instructions of the Gurumat?

KULDEEP

it is not advisable. why would someone want to hide their relationship with Guru from others? Is that person afraid of something? As per Gurmat, both husband and wife must be amritdhari

[Guest Kulddep]

I'm certain the Husband/Wife would know or figure it out...

It is clarified that my wife has been AMRITDHARI without informing/asking me. No doubt, It is a good news, happinesss for me that she has done become AMRITDHARI but i am feeling sorrow that she has not informed/asked me before to be AMRITDHARI. She has been Amritdhari with the consultation of her parents only, she has not understand right to inform/ask her husband in ego. My question is that is it correct step taken by my wife without informing/asking me in ego as Per Gurmat?

[Guest Kuldeep]

it is not advisable. why would someone want to hide their relationship with Guru from others? Is that person afraid of something? As per Gurmat, both husband and wife must be amritdhari

As per Gurmat husband and wife must be amritdhari but my wife has been amritdhari without informing/asking to me in ego. I am very happy that she has become Amritdhari but disappointed as she has not informed/asked me before amritdhari in ego. She has informed/asked only to her parents. Is it correct step taken by her?

[Guest Kuldeep]

No, it should be kept secret. It's the only way the marriage would work. :lol2: :excited:

Is it should be kept secret between married husband/wife?

[S1ngh]

As per Gurmat husband and wife must be amritdhari but my wife has been amritdhari without informing/asking to me in ego. I am very happy that she has become Amritdhari but disappointed as she has not informed/asked me before amritdhari in ego. She has informed/asked only to her parents. Is it correct step taken by her?

Surprise her by taking khanday bahtay deh phaul and give yourself to waheguru jee !

[ekgurjaskhalsa]

As per Gurmat husband and wife must be amritdhari but my wife has been amritdhari without informing/asking to me in ego. I am very happy that she has become Amritdhari but disappointed as she has not informed/asked me before amritdhari in ego. She has informed/asked only to her parents. Is it correct step taken by her?

If you are happy, then why are you asking this question here? I think she has hurt your ego by not asking you. Maybe, it is time for you guys to sit together and talk it out. Ask her what kind of jeewan she wants? Why she did it without asking you? There must have been a pretty good reason she did it. Again, if your wife wants to live an amritdhari jeewan, then maybe you should also look into it. Start by going to sangat and doing as much naam simran as you can..

[luckysingh99]

It is clarified that my wife has been AMRITDHARI without informing/asking me. No doubt, It is a good news, happinesss for me that she has done become AMRITDHARI but i am feeling sorrow that she has not informed/asked me before to be AMRITDHARI. She has been Amritdhari with the consultation of her parents only, she has not understand right to inform/ask her husband in ego. My question is that is it correct step taken by my wife without informing/asking me in ego as Per Gurmat?

OK, let me talk a little seriously here after giving you the jokey response above !

Let's get one main thing addresses at first here- and that is that this is NOT an issue as per gurmat or an issue about sikhi.

This is about the relationship and discussion status between you and your wife.

Your relationship and the 'being open to each other' is what is at the bottom of this and not about whether one is being more Sikh or not.

Whether this is a good thing or a bad thing, No One can actually say because they can't speak for you.

YOU have to find out the reason why she decided to not tell you and THAT reason is what you need to address.

It could be a good thing in that she may not have waned to bother you since you would not have stopped her but her parents may have persuaded her otherwise, which is why she informed them.

But it is obvious from your post that she has hurt you and you feel she went behind your back.

- This is what you need her to know , so that both of you can have a better understanding of each other.

The secret to a strong relationship is always 'open discussion' with each other and not by asking others what they may think is right or wrong.

I hope this event brings you both closer to each other and closer to God at the same time because that is what the true meaning of Anand Karaj actually is.