Was Pirthiya indistinguishable in temperament and spirituality from Guru Arjan Dev Ji, his own brother? Heck, do any of their descendants have the same level of character and demeanour? Human nature finds a way to the surface. This wasn't a secret in Guru Sahib's lifetimes. Some of the people they associated with made mistakes; betrayed them, etc. That's not a reflection on the Gurus. We aren't even in the same ballpark. I wouldn't dare to consider myself "of" the Gurus just because I'm trying to follow the path they prescribed, it doesn't matter what anyone says.
girls eloping with boyfriends ,often non-sikhs , seem to be not uncommon in sikhs
The daughter of local granthi singh , who himself seems quite a pious and gursikh man, had some affair with her non-sikh bf . It caused quite a gossip in local sikh circle . Poor father had to bear the bezti , so he's marrying off her to some sikh guy in punjab.
There was another family , 2 daughters, one of them would rarely leave house, was a "homely" girl , quiet and reserved , even did masters in commerce, but apparently ran away with a christian boyfriend . Her family digged her back from that relationship and married her off to some sikh guy in UK and themselves left mumbai. Our immediate neighbors, both daughters, ran away with musleh .
This seems to be not an uncommon theme in sikh families . I won't say its common, but its not that rare either.
Do our daughters see bad models of sikh men in their fathers ? we need to introspect
You don't know the family situation and who her bf was and what his motives were. Best to keep the assumptions to yourself, this goes for every punjabi munching on fast food as they analyze something they have barely any info on. What if, her bf was a groomer and making a cry for help from the family scared the groomer from trafficking her to another country? This is a big if, but it has happened. Whether she is 23 or 35, there are many scary ways to traffick women in the country and take them to a muslim country where she would be gone forever. Wouldn't you feel really stupid for judging the family if this was the case? Majority of punjabis are safe, tucked away from the dark side of the world. The cruelty that rest on the other side is kept separate by a paper thin wall by your parents. Be glad, be grateful this wasn't you (speaking to everyone who became sherlock Holmes). Daddy and mommy don't tuck you in (again speaking to everyone who became sherlock Holmes) at night but their protection layer is around you.
It took a panthic effort to maybe put her on the right track. I doubt it her mom and dad would want to put their daughter on blast over social media just for having a boyfriend. Punjabis are big on izzat.