I Really Need Your Advice...

[savinderpalsingh]

penji inorder to over come it

you need a strong inner voice that says "NO" and you heed to it .

[Guest Help Ji]

Fateh i appreciate you guys replying

Someone violated my trust, so it makes it 10 times worse. Do you know what kind of self help books would be avaible for something like this?

@ to luckysingh, i really appreciate that reply, you are right its very difficult for me to concentrate on any one thing. my mind is always else where, i will deifnitely try to log down how i feel, becuase i dont know if i can speak to a preofessional about this. i do try to concentrate but my mind always strays. its very fustrating.

[savinderpalsingh]

penji ,

Sorry to hear that

only place trust in Guru sahib none other

try reading life history of Gurmukh Bhramgiani's

example

Bhai randhir singh ji

sant attar singh ji

Bandginama-bhai raghbir singh bir

get motivated , never look back at your old thoughts throw your head in Guru's Charan .

im sure there would be other books non sikhi related on this but theres nothing Gurbani or Guru sahib cannot solve

engulf yourself in naam simran .

[luckysingh99]

Fateh i appreciate you guys replying

Someone violated my trust, so it makes it 10 times worse. Do you know what kind of self help books would be avaible for something like this?

@ to luckysingh, i really appreciate that reply, you are right its very difficult for me to concentrate on any one thing. my mind is always else where, i will deifnitely try to log down how i feel, becuase i dont know if i can speak to a preofessional about this. i do try to concentrate but my mind always strays. its very fustrating.

I know you feel unsure about speaking to a professional counselor, but you shouldn't worry. Remember, that whatever you tell them will ALL be in the strictest confidence and besides, you don't have to tell them everything at first.

You can just approach and tell them whatever you feel comfortable talking about.

I'm not sure whereabout you are in the world, so I'm not sure about the credentials you should look for at first, but it's import that you are in the personal comfort zone, no matter who you see. Also remember, that if you don't feel comfortable whilst there, then you are not obliged to continue !

I know people will say do simran and do path, but this won't be easy if you have that initial problem of trying to get motivated.

I don't know what experience you have with this previously, but i may be able to suggest accordingly with regards to what other self-help materials you can try and approach.

[Questioner]

How old are you? There are all sorts of self help books, from books specifically for those who were abused as children (example: http://books.google.co.uk/books/about/Surviving_Childhood_Sexual_Abuse.html?id=M8-RzPQGQesC&redir_esc=y) to books helping you deal with depression, anxiety, build confidence, and so on, through cognitive behavioural therapy. It's really about what you're looking for, but I'm sure it'll be really helpful, I've just got some books from my university too. Make sure when you try to find a book, you go for something that's the best in its category.

[SeekingTheLight]

simran

[tuhintuhin]

try....Satwant Kaur by Bhai Veer Singh ji... it's a novel... a story of a girl how she keeps her chasity in diificult times...

[S4NGH]

Penji you need to see a professional before this matter truely takes over. Tell them as much or as little as you like thats up to you. But trust me, it helps.

Wish you all the best

[Guest Help Ji]

Fateh

I know i really do want to see a professional, but my family are really difficult to talk to about this kind of stuff. Its very difficult and they need to know if i am going to see a psychiatrist or something. its very very difficult to talk to them, one of the hardest things! i do feel very nervous and scared becuase its such a big issue for me. i need to build myself up into telling my parents, but i ust dont know how. i am very fearful for my life because i dont want to be stuck like this forever.

Im am 19 years old whihc makes things alot more difficult as my life is on hold. I just dont understand whats happening, i have so many thoughts running through my head, its very difficult to control. i do really want to be in control of my lufe. but its litrelly i take one step forward and then three steps back.

i do have faith in mahraj, but sometimes i just find it difficult. i am trying to meditate also, so maybe that will help

thank you for the book, i will see if i can find it

Thankyou you Guys

[Guest Su gar]

Obviously Naam Simran, Paath and Rehat are the most important things to do but you still need to go and see a Psychiatrist. If issues aren't addressed now you could be stuck with issues of low mood, anxiety and intrusive thoughts for a lot of your life. The early you ask for help the more likely you will be able to get back to as close as normal as possible. People who leave or ignore these issues for long periods of time can be left with chronic mental health issues.

Providing the person who molested you isn't currently molesting others, there is no reason anyone would break confidentiality and there is no reason that your parents would even need to know. You could see your GP, or contact a counselling service directly who could refer you for specialist assessment.

BTW I am a doctor currently working in a psychiatry clinic and see people with similar issues on almost a daily basis.