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Daas is amritdhari and at work we are having many events at pubs for christmas get together. I am getting much pressure to attend these events as my work says they are for professional development to spend time with coworkers. I don't want to single myself and make a big deal why I can't go, but i am also wondering if it is wrong for me to go? It doesn't feel right to go...

I go to restaurants all the time, but pub seems like its more dedicated to alcohol/beer...

Any input in how to deal with these situations...

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Daas is amritdhari and at work we are having many events at pubs for christmas get together. I am getting much pressure to attend these events as my work says they are for professional development to spend time with coworkers. I don't want to single myself and make a big deal why I can't go, but i am also wondering if it is wrong for me to go? It doesn't feel right to go...

I go to restaurants all the time, but pub seems like its more dedicated to alcohol/beer...

Any input in how to deal with these situations...

same situation, I never attend.....I went once long time ago, that was just watching others drink and drunken dancing..food mostly non-veg.....then they ask you to dance with them......too much to take..........just tell them you are not a party goer....

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Just make an appearance for work's sake but when people start getting drunk go home.

I agree here !

It sounds like you in UK and I can imagine the pressure and talks going on.

The christmas party/pub culture or hotel bars...etc.. is VERY popular at this time of the year, and because it is the whiteman's culture,-everybody feels inclined to attend.

It's a good way to meet the people higher up and even potential clients.

In terms of professional development, It's sad to say that if you don't attend then it may have a negative impact in the future. This is because, people in power can easily single you out and kind of omit your presence in any future plans.

Therefore, it is wise to attend, obeserve, interact and like Shamshere says above,...leave when they start getting drunk.

It's usually in the first 45min/1hour, that any sensible conversation takes place have and after this they just want to have some intoxicated fun.-SO, it's also a very wise time to make your exit.

Everyone will appreciate that you made the effort to attend even if you didn't stay too long, compared to losing 'office respect' for not bothering.

P.S.- You should NEVER lie or make some excuse about looking after so and so, as someone mentioned above. I know it's a harmless excuse, but a sikh should never have to make excuses or exaggerate some event for the sake of explaining.

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Invite those in management position to your house for dinner or some kind of event, if management might see you not interested in the organization. Regardless of whether they accept the offer. Management will know you are interested in getting to know more about the organization and build better relations.

There are other ways to show initiative in an organization.

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Dont go. Would you go to brothel though you have no intention of getting involved with the acts that are commited there?

Also, you as an amritdhari, represent a nation. People see you walking into a pub, they'll assume sikhs drink. People see you with coke in your hand, they'll assume ur drinkin coke n vodka. Etc.

As for professional development, im sure you do plenty of that in a professional environment. Not a pub.

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