A Secret I Have To Keep

[Shamshere]

I would say keep away from this friend. I had a similar friend who ruined 2 girls lives by cheating and lying. I stopped hanging out with him.

Eventually the girl will find out.

[buddasingh]

Your friends are obviously far too immature to be in relationships. You may have to consider that she may have a pretty good idea and choosing to let it go, so may not be as 'wise' or 'innocent' as you think. Putting all that aside for a moment, tell him something along the lines of the following:

I consider you a friend and you have a responsibility to not hurt and abuse the trust of another person. You are also hurting yourself, but not aware of that at this time. The only proper thing for you to do is tell her yourself and move forward with consequences. I tell you this as a friend. I know this is not easy for you so you have a deadline of one week to tell her. If you want me to tell her for you, I will.

Regardless, everyone has a positive duty to protect innocent people from harm, so if you don't tell her in one week, I will tell her on my own initiative. I will support you but if you choose to break our friendship over this, that is your choice, not mine.

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At 17 years old, either you must ensure you are well rooted in excellent value system to surround yourself with friends like this and influence them, or find better company. It usually does not mean you have to entirely abandon others. Frankly your friends behavior sounds like that of an immature *** who has much to learn.

[innergear]

Grow sum n tell her. If u cant then instead write it in a letter n post it in her letter box then run quickly so no 1 see u

[sunnyji]

Your friends are obviously far too immature to be in relationships. You may have to consider that she may have a pretty good idea and choosing to let it go, so may not be as 'wise' or 'innocent' as you think. Putting all that aside for a moment, tell him something along the lines of the following:

I consider you a friend and you have a responsibility to not hurt and abuse the trust of another person. You are also hurting yourself, but not aware of that at this time. The only proper thing for you to do is tell her yourself and move forward with consequences. I tell you this as a friend. I know this is not easy for you so you have a deadline of one week to tell her. If you want me to tell her for you, I will.

Regardless, everyone has a positive duty to protect innocent people from harm, so if you don't tell her in one week, I will tell her on my own initiative. I will support you but if you choose to break our friendship over this, that is your choice, not mine.

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At 17 years old, either you must ensure you are well rooted in excellent value system to surround yourself with friends like this and influence them, or find better company. It usually does not mean you have to entirely abandon others. Frankly your friends behavior sounds like that of an immature *** who has much to learn.

True words, as a Sikh it's your duty to protect the innocent, whatever form that may be in, and this is one example of that! It would be the morally correct thing to tell her, before things get even more out of hand or she finds out of her own accord further down the line.

[GKaur1315]

I would tell him that youre going to tell the girl and then i'd tell the girl.

Its up to us Sikhs to stand up for each other and to protect one another.

Do the right thing...he may moan about it - let him! She may not believe you (girls have a habit of this) but thats her choice. You just need to do the right thing.

As for the person who made the first world problems comment - I understand what youre saying BUT these are still problems. They may not seem to be important but theyre still problems that the youth have to face.

[imhosingh]

Friends come and go in life (maybe sounds a bit harsh), doing the right thing stays with you for life (not listening to that inner voice also stays with you for life).