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Ok, I Did It - I Got Free From Masturbation And Porn Addiction But... Need Help ( Seriously) .


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No,No,no........... you DON"T go and get married to a wife to fulfill your desire ! :nono:

Far too many girls lives have been ruined by lust-thirsty apney.

The only one thing i can say to paapi dude is, go try and meditate to help find your real-self.

Your mind and hands are taking control and making you think they know what the best satisfaction is for you !!- You have to rise above this only if you can become AWARE of your real self.

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I know this was posted about a month ago but I'm still going to reply. And i'm going to be honest here, its one your sisters speaking. I do not agree with some of what Doc-Singh said. Just because you've got the blue balls because you got aroused and didn't "do anything" doesn't mean that you should to ease your discomfort. And I really hope you didn't. That was bad advice from the Doc. When we fall back into Masturbating with the mind set that "this is the last time" then i'll stop, Its not gonna work like that. You need to get to the problem of why you were in the first place. Take note of what internal thoughts and distress you were having if you do end up giving in. Recognize the underlying issue whether of feeling lonely, neglected, unloved.. etc. Then you need to do an ardaas to Guru Sahib. Ardaas is key here. Keep doing ardaas, and don't stop even if you think its not being heard because it is. The teacher is always silent during a test. And I realize I have gone a little off topic. The pain is going to be there when you're stopping. This bit be some TMI, but I've struggled with kaam too, and I felt pain around in my ovary areas. Its because the sexual energy is used too much and its causing us physical pain. You can change your sexual energy into something different like for exercising, painting etc. Once your abstinence increases the pain will go away because if you stay away from kami thoughts and actions, then you shouldn't be getting aroused. Jap naam, as much as you can and through the day. don't listen the radio and instead turn on some Kirtan. Try always having Kirtan playing in your house and especially in your room. The more and more you do simran, the less these kami thoughts will occur. You won't get over kaam without ardaas to Guru Sahib. just remember naam, naam. naam. Trying saying it outloud because if its just in our heads, we are more inclined to let our thoughts wonder. And I agree with Luckysingh99. Best of luck Brother!

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WJKK WJKF,

well, I didnt "realease" anything - my main intention was to stop masturbating - thats why I asked - I knew that people here would comment "its ok" and stuff - because they are themselfs struggling - But I did it - it was very hard - i wont lie. But I had the will - and guru jis Kirpa - I didnt do any ardaaas - because it wouldnt help in any way - why would Guru ji help me for such an tiny and unreasonable problem - furthermore it was all up to me - I only do Ardaas for Sarbat da bhalla not for myself. You just have to be a "man" and control yourself. And yes I can say everything bettered - the first 1 month was really difficult to master - but it worked out with discipline - i knew i had to do it on my own and i knew that none could/would help me.

I think I have control over it now - every day is a battle but now my shield and speer has the same scope /length like the on of my sparring partner ( Kaam). I keep battling with him.

BTW: BritishSingh - your advice wasnt good.. really .. really? I should find a wive thats your solution? Dude.. learn about Sikhi please - why should I marry someone ? Only to satisfy my sexual desires? Thats abuse..

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WJKK WJKF,

well, I didnt "realease" anything - my main intention was to stop masturbating - thats why I asked - I knew that people here would comment "its ok" and stuff - because they are themselfs struggling - But I did it - it was very hard - i wont lie. But I had the will - and guru jis Kirpa - I didnt do any ardaaas - because it wouldnt help in any way - why would Guru ji help me for such an tiny and unreasonable problem - furthermore it was all up to me - I only do Ardaas for Sarbat da bhalla not for myself. You just have to be a "man" and control yourself. And yes I can say everything bettered - the first 1 month was really difficult to master - but it worked out with discipline - i knew i had to do it on my own and i knew that none could/would help me.

I think I have control over it now - every day is a battle but now my shield and speer has the same scope /length like the on of my sparring partner ( Kaam). I keep battling with him.

BTW: BritishSingh - your advice wasnt good.. really .. really? I should find a wive thats your solution? Dude.. learn about Sikhi please - why should I marry someone ? Only to satisfy my sexual desires? Thats abuse..

My point was that if you do have any sexual desires it is best in the confines of a marriage. Eg I am amritdhari so is my wife we both love each other very much. We both do simran and path together, anything sexual I/we want to do we do together as a couple. We have never had any sexual relations with anyone else only with each other as husband and wife. This is part of gristhi jeevan. We are human we do have desires but we cannot let these desires control our lives. This is where gristhi jeevan comes in (desire in moderation). Sikhi marriage puts naam simran and gurbani at the centre of married life. All other desires and wishes come second. Guru comes first. I don't know what more to write to explain what I meant. So I hope this helps. I am glad you have overcome your problems. May WAHEGURU bless you with naam.

Bhul chuk maaf.

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WJKK WJKF -

as someone here requested an Update - here it is:

Well its almost 8 months now ! I cant believe! 8 Months dman time is running so fast. But anyway I can say that I stay true to myself! Over the last 8 Months I didnt even touched myself ! AND HELL it feels SO GOOD! Everything changed! I know this sounds weird. But yeah , this is really what happened. I FEEL so FEARLESS. I cant describe - there is no more fear of loss or anything. I see everything from differnt angles. And the best thing is that I dont even have that urge anymore - I know its just abit more than half a year but my view on females changed as well! I dont see them as objects anymore and there isnt any urge to have sex/masturbate when talking to any female. But I have to be honest sometimes the bad thought still strike back even in the weirdest situations. The only thing you can do is to control them . And as the time passed I learnt how to control them. These animalish instincts are fading slowly. And to mention, not only my (inner) mentality changed but further my outer apperance and physiolgy changed as well! Since I stopped my complexion totally changed - I feel MUCH stronger and HEALTHIER and my endurance increased almost like 50 % +. I dont feel tired anymore and have much more free time. I stoped wasting time on porn and all that stuff and my early-morning-hard-on is much stronger! I dont have that addication for that "dopamine" release anymore. A further Side effect i noticed is that I have much more empathy now and this "agressive" urge is gone as well! I am much calmer and it is harder to make me angry. The Lust is still there but its in control - and that all due to NAAM.

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hello OP,

your thread motivated me to fight kaam too. I will also post my update here.

This is Day 6 of lust/kaam/porn/masturbation free for me :) hope to keep it going with gurus kirpa.

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