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Frankly, I think you are a poor human being.

Let me explain.

In the beginning you said you had pre - marital relations, I'm assuming you had sex. And it was ok with you. Now you have met a wonderful partner, everything is perfect except she is not a virgin and it bothers you. How about her? Does she feel comfortable that you are not pure either? And then you have the audacity to justify your breathtaking hypocrisy with 'that's me'. I think you are getting exactly what you deserve for the life you have led. You cannot behave in such a reckless and selfish manner without it coming back to you.

If one day you attain enlightenment as described by our Guru Ji's, you will put break the bonds of ego, reclaim humility and thus treat yourself and those around you with respect.

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Frankly, I think you are a poor human being.

Let me explain.

In the beginning you said you had pre - marital relations, I'm assuming you had sex. And it was ok with you. Now you have met a wonderful partner, everything is perfect except she is not a virgin and it bothers you. How about her? Does she feel comfortable that you are not pure either? And then you have the audacity to justify your breathtaking hypocrisy with 'that's me'. I think you are getting exactly what you deserve for the life you have led. You cannot behave in such a reckless and selfish manner without it coming back to you.

If one day you attain enlightenment as described by our Guru Ji's, you will put break the bonds of ego, reclaim humility and thus treat yourself and those around you with respect.

FULLY agree with you. i am a poor human being for expecting this. and i feel like for feeling like this. but i cannot help it? it was one of my wishes pre marriage that my partner be a virgin. she doesnt care about my past, and it doesnt bother her AT ALL. and i know its hypocritical of me. but i just cannot help it. i wish i could. genuinely. and thank you v much i agree i dont deserve any better, truthfully i do not even deserve her the person who describes it as the biggest regret in her life. but i just cannot help it. argh

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FULLY agree with you. i am a poor human being for expecting this. and i feel like for feeling like this. but i cannot help it? it was one of my wishes pre marriage that my partner be a virgin. she doesnt care about my past, and it doesnt bother her AT ALL. and i know its hypocritical of me. but i just cannot help it. i wish i could. genuinely. and thank you v much i agree i dont deserve any better, truthfully i do not even deserve her the person who describes it as the biggest regret in her life. but i just cannot help it. argh

then stop wasting everyone's time here, you already know its only your fault ,

not the girl , go straighten your mind

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Frankly, I think you are a poor human being.

Let me explain.

In the beginning you said you had pre - marital relations, I'm assuming you had sex. And it was ok with you. Now you have met a wonderful partner, everything is perfect except she is not a virgin and it bothers you. How about her? Does she feel comfortable that you are not pure either? And then you have the audacity to justify your breathtaking hypocrisy with 'that's me'.

This is what I wanted to say. But you know that it's hypocritical; the problem here is not that you can't see that. It's that you need to let go of an unreasonable expectation/ desire. Ultimately, such desires are simply a reflection of your own ego/ pride. Need to gradually become more detached from that ego (through naam simran, seva, continuous contemplation) and your perception of the situation will begin to change. Ultimately you will love her unconditionally for the being that she is; a love that is not dependent on something she did or did not do in the past.

Don't let yourself sabotage something good. Your ego does that to you. Unless, of course, you will be one of those males who will latch on to this for the rest of your lives. In which case, let her go - she doesn't deserve that.

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You have every right to feel this way and want a girl who has not had premarital relationships.

Once a girl told me she talks to men and randomly stuck it in the conversation. I did some digging and she had multiple partners. It was her way of saying im still talking to them and you cannot stop me from talking to them. She was amritdhari and came from a family that held gurmat programs.

The girl you are dating said I had a serious relationship but she is telling you more. She is telling you the fact she is still emotionally tied to him and I might reveal more with time.

By telling you on the first date she was testing your tolerance level to how much she can tell you about her past relationships without you blowing up on her and leaving. You did the right thing by playing it cool. Never get upset or give the impression you are upset. Collect enough information and make an informed decision.

Leave this one behind because she is hiding more baggage behind the make up and fake smiles. I am speaking from experience. Rest of these posters are clueless of the real world dramas taking place today.

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You already spent 6 months is that not wrong? If u leave her now it be like she had 2 boyfriends instead of 1? And your future wife what if she feels sad that u spent 6 months with a girl? Will she forgive u I don't think so!! Always stick with good honest people. Chicks uselly lie about this stuff trust me!

Forgive my Canadian sister past is past it will only separate u two. No magic answer bro. Only u know what's rights for u

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