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Is It Ok For A Sikh Male To Marry A Non-Sikh, But Not A Sikh Female To Do Vice Versa?


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Are your in-laws non-Sikhs? Not judging you if they are or aren't, I just don't understand this particular Hukam, even if they're born into a Sikh familiy are they Sikh? No, a Sikh is by practice not by words or blood.

if we take hukam that without pahul/rehit binaa na sikh kaheva then most people have non-sikh inlaws/parents you cannot be sikh by just being born into a sikh household ...you have to make the step towards Guru ji yourself by give sir da bheta and taking pahul ...and living the life of a Gursikh ...

Salok in Japji Sahib gives you balance in terms of viewing others ... Karmi apo apnee , ke nehrde ke door... even in Guru ji's ghar there are examples of that ...

My inlaws are not of our culture, country or dharam but I don't hold it against them , I just stick to my lifestyle and asool in line with gurmat my household is a gursikh one. funny thing is they are getting exposure to gurbani from other quarters too , my bro in law came to me to ask the meaning of something ...the mool mantar ...apparently his yoga teacher in Brasil is using mool manter as a meditation before session . My cousins in law have been to the gurdwara in Sao Paulo.

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I'm not sure you've seen a lot of matrimonials, where it says clean-shaven please(so called "Sikh" matrimonials) even within this website, I've seen people say that they would prefer non-Sikh at birth women. Sikh men are also to blame for their preferences in a woman who waxed(which by itself creates discrimination towards Gursikh women).

idk... but it depends individually ... I believe in majority not minority .... for ex:- if one Sardar drinks I know rest of the 99 sardars are going to be judged as Drunker too .... I can still Bet when it comes to the nicest guys The turban guys Will prevail on the top......... I was monah before....I guess I have seen almost every situation in the society .. How Turbans change the attitude of someone ...Its really like a magic........

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if we take hukam that without pahul/rehit binaa na sikh kaheva then most people have non-sikh inlaws/parents you cannot be sikh by just being born into a sikh household ...you have to make the step towards Guru ji yourself by give sir da bheta and taking pahul ...and living the life of a Gursikh ...

Salok in Japji Sahib gives you balance in terms of viewing others ... Karmi apo apnee , ke nehrde ke door... even in Guru ji's ghar there are examples of that ...

My inlaws are not of our culture, country or dharam but I don't hold it against them , I just stick to my lifestyle and asool in line with gurmat my household is a gursikh one. funny thing is they are getting exposure to gurbani from other quarters too , my bro in law came to me to ask the meaning of something ...the mool mantar ...apparently his yoga teacher in Brasil is using mool manter as a meditation before session . My cousins in law have been to the gurdwara in Sao Paulo.

that's nice to know.
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if we take hukam that without pahul/rehit binaa na sikh kaheva then most people have non-sikh inlaws/parents you cannot be sikh by just being born into a sikh household ...you have to make the step towards Guru ji yourself by give sir da bheta and taking pahul ...and living the life of a Gursikh ...

Salok in Japji Sahib gives you balance in terms of viewing others ... Karmi apo apnee , ke nehrde ke door... even in Guru ji's ghar there are examples of that ...

My inlaws are not of our culture, country or dharam but I don't hold it against them , I just stick to my lifestyle and asool in line with gurmat my household is a gursikh one. funny thing is they are getting exposure to gurbani from other quarters too , my bro in law came to me to ask the meaning of something ...the mool mantar ...apparently his yoga teacher in Brasil is using mool manter as a meditation before session . My cousins in law have been to the gurdwara in Sao Paulo.

I m confused a bit.. As you said you became amritdhari at the age of 10... So you Married a guy who became sikh later? I mean he took khande di paul? Or just keshdhari? Sorry but I want to know how did you marry him? curious.

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he's keshadhari hasn't had pahul I'm waiting for him but the kids have all had choola/pahul

but as u said above somewhere gursikh should marry only gursikh... so wasn't that beadbi? I m askin this bcz my father often sends me Gujrati rishte where Girls seem to be interested in marrying with sardar but my heart does not allow me to accept those girls bcz i find it beadbi if i have to go through anand karaz...

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but as u said above somewhere gursikh should marry only gursikh... so wasn't that beadbi? I m askin this bcz my father often sends me Gujrati rishte where Girls seem to be interested in marrying with sardar but my heart does not allow me to accept those girls bcz i find it beadbi if i have to go through anand karaz...

OK in my life something happened beyond my control which made me due for pesh ... so I wasn't doing beadbhi as I did ardas for resolution one way or the other and waited two years before Anand Karaj I entered Anand Karaj with full intention to live as a GurSikh, but as my husband hasn't got there yet I support him and my kids in their journey and do my best to progress also ,my faith in Guru ji is complete and I KNOW that special time will come in our lives soon.

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