I don't think your question is correct. Becoming close to Waheguru is a long path in general, though there are exceptions to this. Both person 1 and person 2 are on different paths. I do see your point about looks being deceiving though.
To the OP, generally I'm just another wannabe Sikh but having a non judgemental stance has helped me greatly. Giani Kulwant Singh jee Ludhiani wale have touched on this characteristic numerous times in their katha.
I mean before SGPC, the Akali Nihangs used to do jhatka in front of Akal Takht/Bunga (admin please don't get annoyed just stating history!!!). But I guess in a way ordering meat in is still kind of shameless since it isn't parshad like jhatka!
I am not vegetarian, but I have lactose related intolerance and allergies. So I avoid milk however butter, (clarified) ghee and yogurt are ok to eat due to low lactose content, real lassi is ok to drink too as long as regular milk hasn't been mixed. Some people can also handle Raw milk as opposed to pasteurised supermarket milk.
Also Guru Gobind Singh really recommends ghee to eat.