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Hi all

New here but had to come on to ask question to check on my sanity.

I can't understand how gurdwaras in UK are now allowing Anand Karaj between a Sikh and Muslim to take place inside the gurdwara. Has all been forgotten and how come parents seem ok with this?

I have been invited to a wedding soon and it's one of my Sikh colleagues at work who I had no idea was dating a Muslim girl. The wedding will take place in gurdwara and then they are taking off to a reception party eleswhere....needless to say I will not out of principle be going. Neither will I ever walk into that gurdwara again due to how strong I feel about this. Anyone feel the same?

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This day and age, it's hard to find right partner as it is then add the fact finding a partner of Sikh background, it's almost impossible.

I think low Sikh population will mean we will see more Sikh men marrying non-Sikh women. Let's hope in your case, Muslim woman is keen to embrace Sikhi and teach her children Sikh values.

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Hi all

New here but had to come on to ask question to check on my sanity.

I can't understand how gurdwaras in UK are now allowing Anand Karaj between a Sikh and Muslim to take place inside the gurdwara. Has all been forgotten and how come parents seem ok with this?

I have been invited to a wedding soon and it's one of my Sikh colleagues at work who I had no idea was dating a Muslim girl. The wedding will take place in gurdwara and then they are taking off to a reception party eleswhere....needless to say I will not out of principle be going. Neither will I ever walk into that gurdwara again due to how strong I feel about this. Anyone feel the same?

is your friend mona or keshdhari? Since the Muslim girl is breaking Islamic rules by doing anand karaj and Sikh guy is technically breaking Sikhi rules too, the situation isn't good. But if your friend is some what of a practicing Sikh, who knows if the Muslim girl will follow Sikhi in the future.

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no the colleague is a mona sikh. But I think you have all missed my point.....why oh but WHY? why are our gurdwars allowing this??..It is surely sending out the wrong message to our future....

On a given Sunday our gurdwaras preach to us one thing and the following weekend they are blessing the wedding of a Sikh to a Muslim.

In this case I do not think the girl will embrace Sikhi.

I just find it very disheartening and sad that our religion is stooping to this low and encouraging this.

Please not this is not to say that ALL gurdwars allow this.....they DO NOT

I pray and pray this practice is not adopted by all gurdwaras..

But how do our people and religion allow this???...Given our history?..

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is your friend mona or keshdhari? Since the Muslim girl is breaking Islamic rules by doing anand karaj and Sikh guy is technically breaking Sikhi rules too, the situation isn't good. But if your friend is some what of a practicing Sikh, who knows if the Muslim girl will follow Sikhi in the future.

just wanted to say it is not only muslim girl breaking rules....

IT IS THE GURDWARA

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ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ ਕਾ ਖਾਲਸਾ, ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ ਕੀ ਫਤਿਹ

Bhaji, you have made an important point. Some Gurdwara masands are continuing to break maryada for short term profit.

However, there is a legal issue that needs to be considered. Is money being obtained by false pretense or fraud? therefore illegal as well as illegitimate?

http://www.discoversikhism.com/sikh_news/sikh_weddings.html

"The elements of false pretenses are: (1) a false representation (2) of a material past or existing fact (3) which the person making the representation knows is false (4) made for the purpose of causing (5) and which does cause (6) the victim to pass title (7) to his property."

"In law, fraud is deliberate deception to secure unfair or unlawful gain. Fraud is both a civil wrong and a criminal wrong. The purpose of fraud may be monetary gain or other benefits, such as obtaining a drivers license by way of false statements."

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What is the root problem of such issue? We need to find the real problem which is ddriving our folks for inter-religious marriages/relationships.

I think small Sikh population is root cause of this issue.

It's tough out there to find right person to get married with. It's even harder for Keshdhari since a lot of our girls (both in the west and Punjab) don't want marry a sardar. So I personally understand why Sikh men end up marrying non-Sikh women especially in the west.

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