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Gurfateh Jio,

I have been wanting to get this off my chest for a while - and wondered if sangat could help.

I have been trapped in a circle for a long time - I do not know how to escape it.

Essentially - I feel the more Simran I do - the more I dedicate my life and thoughts to Vaheguru - I become very submissive.

In the sense, whenever someone asks me to do something I will do it. Or if I get shouted at, or sworn at or bullied I will just accept it as Gods will and do not want to upset that person. I will let my spouse and family get away with anything - even if its hurtful.

However when my Simran/paat decreases I then gain the "power" to stand up to people - I do not let anyone get away with anything If they try something. I will stand up for my rights and others.

How do I achieve an equilibrium? How do I continue to give my head but stay strong and focused.

I love Vaheguru more than anything. I Know I may sound weak and pathetic, but this is a real issue for me.

Do I give 100 percent to GOD and just nod my head - or do I give 50 percent and stand up for all.

Thank you ji for any help.

Paapi.

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For me, when I started reciting Chaupai Sahib and other bani of Dasme Paatshah I found it made me a lot more resilient, strong of heart, and dare I say, I developed a bit of anakh (minus the ego).

I completely and utterly understand where you're coming from though. At first I found doing just Simran and basic Nitnem was wonderful, but it mellowed me out too much. I was, like you, rather ambivalent about life; the whole "God's will" is wonderful, but if you're not careful you could talk yourself into becoming quite defeatist and almost a passive spectator in life.

I rationalised it the following way to myself: If our Guru Sahib's had been passive and mellow to the point of "Don't resist, everything is God's will" then we'd all either still be Hindus or we'd have been steam-rollered into Islam, lol! Balance and wisdom.

It's a balancing act for sure, and I'm still trying to figure it out. For more concrete advice if you can consult a Gurmukh you admire and trust, you could get their perspective on this matter.

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My family has been hassling me for Years. I moved away to get away from them because they couldn't handle me doing naam (and they're a bunch of shameless primitive sociopaths and have been since i was a teenager lol).

I have now decided to become estranged from them and it feels like the best decision I've ever made.

If someone says something wrong to u, stick up for yourself, fight back and don't be a pushover. if it's someone on the street slandering u though, I would leave it, and just lay low in truth u dont know them, they dont know u so their jealousy of u and obsession with u is their own problem not yours, and no one can judge u if they don't know u.

When u do naam and people outside sense ur confidence and the jyot, it'll probably drive a lot of them Mad with jealousy because they r primitive.

But this is God showing u the Winners from the Losers, so it's a blessing.

Don't wrry about the losers, let them live their own maya (illusions), teach when the opportunity arises but don't let the Losers get u down and don't ever believe a loser- they're just insecure, jealous and unhappy. Ur bhagti, ur Guru always come's first and is unoverridable- even if millions oppose u, always stay true to who u are, stay steadfast in Truth and let the haters hate.

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mister sings lost is good- Guru Gobind Singh Ji was Master of Miri and Piri. We are Spiritual and Temporal warriors,we pick up the sword in defence, but are Spiritual and are good compassionate, non judgemental, loving, self sacrificing etc, but we are not pushovers. the Sikhs of the olden times didn't cut their hair when they were asked to and tortured because of, they didn't give up their faith, u don't compromise who u r to please others and because it's Easy-u do what's right and true.

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Gurfateh Jio,

I have been wanting to get this off my chest for a while - and wondered if sangat could help.

I have been trapped in a circle for a long time - I do not know how to escape it.

Essentially - I feel the more Simran I do - the more I dedicate my life and thoughts to Vaheguru - I become very submissive.

In the sense, whenever someone asks me to do something I will do it. Or if I get shouted at, or sworn at or bullied I will just accept it as Gods will and do not want to upset that person. I will let my spouse and family get away with anything - even if its hurtful.

However when my Simran/paat decreases I then gain the "power" to stand up to people - I do not let anyone get away with anything If they try something. I will stand up for my rights and others.

How do I achieve an equilibrium? How do I continue to give my head but stay strong and focused.

I love Vaheguru more than anything. I Know I may sound weak and pathetic, but this is a real issue for me.

Do I give 100 percent to GOD and just nod my head - or do I give 50 percent and stand up for all.

Thank you ji for any help.

Paapi.

Sikhi teaches you to be a leader who not only fights for himself but others too. It teaches you to hold your head high and give a suitable response not nod your head to people you try to demean you.

Sikhism expects you to be a lion who leads not a sheep who is lead by others.

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sounds like you are lacking in rehat and/or gurbani. Without full package of rehat and gurbani we may start developing sadhu like tendencies which are fine if we are living in jungles but not if we are living in the world. check if you are following rehat or are you missing anything, you can also increase your dasam bani like jaap sahib, akaal ustat, chandi di vaar etc. so that the energy generated from naam is balanced between naam rass and bir rass.

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