Masturbation:

[Guest Jacfsing2]

Maybe stop watching so much porn Jacoff bro? Good luck Veer. It was brave of u to admit your masturbation problem.

There is a problem, I don't really watch

porn. It just happens.

[SheikhYoBooty]

^ But bro u shudn't blame yourself so much either if it's just wet dreams as that's just natural.

Plus once u finish a degree then u cud get married. As that will be good for u + good for the Sikh Panth

[MisterrSingh]

Plus once u finish a degree then u cud get married. As that will be good for u + good for the Sikh Panth

Bro, you make it sound like he's going to start producing the population of his own little pind after he's married.

[Kira]

If you want my advice treat Masturbation like a drug. cutting yourself off all at once will just make matters worse, slowly chip away at it. Try and work out how much you do in a weak and start lowering it slowly. Eventually to the point you don't need to do it anymore.

[Balkaar]

Maybe stop watching so much porn Jacoff bro? Good luck Veer. It was brave of u to admit your masturbation problem.

Jacfsing Sheikh, not Jacoff.

I'd be careful about calling somebody jac-off on a thread about their masturbation problem, lol.

[MisterrSingh]

If you want my advice treat Masturbation like a drug. cutting yourself off all at once will just make matters worse, slowly chip away at it. Try and work out how much you do in a weak and start lowering it slowly. Eventually to the point you don't need to do it anymore.

Spot on. Whenever we must wean ourselves off destructive, negative, or unwanted habits, a gradual reduction leading to complete cessation is the best approach IMO. Going cold turkey overnight usually leads to lapses somewhere down the line unless one has incredible willpower.

[Guest Jacfsing2]

I assume before I can fight this battle with lust, I must fight the battle of at least doing nitnem everyday and attempting Amrit Vela.

[Balkaar]

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[TigerStyleZ]

Whats the key problem? The problem is MANY PEOPLE do not REALIZE that Porn /Masturbation is the SYMPTOM not the CAUSE.. .. You have to go deep within you and THINK ABOUT what really is the PROBLEM. What realy bothers you..? Do you feel lonely? Do you feel unloved etc..? Once you get there and you realize that... You are succesfully starting to FIGHT YOUR ADDICTION: Porn /masturbation excessively is AN ADDICTION. That why it is hard to quit. That why people keep failing OVER and OVER again after they start.. "no more fap"..

[Guest Gursikhni]

Reading through the SGSS, the goal of sikhi is to to realise the dasam dhuar. This is the opening which connects us to Waheguru.

On page 122 it says Indri vas sach sanjam jugta. Gur ke shabd sada har dheyae eha bhagat har bhavneya.
They control their sexual desires and thier lifestyle is the self discipline of truth. Through the word of the Guru's shabad, they meditate forever on the Lord. This devotional worship is pleasing to the Lord.

On page 124 nao dhar thake dharat rahae. dhasve nij ghar vasa paye.
Those who close off the nine gates, and restrain the wandering mind come to dwell in the Home of the tenth gate.

The nine gates are our nine bodily openings which are the 2 eyes, 2 ears, 2 nostrils. mouth and 2 excretory organs. When we can control all our senses fully then the tenth gate which is the dasam dhuar will open and we can sense waheguru. This is what we should be working for. If we give in to lust then we will have difficulty establishing a true and pure relationship with waheguru.