Sikh Girls Marrying Muslim Boys

[MisterrSingh]

That is a true statement, I am not fully Sikh but I still wait for the day when Guru Sahib blesses me with Amrit. It is my own Haumai that I haven't done so yet.

Why would Guru Sahib go out of his way to bless you with anything considering you aren't following his rehat?

[Big_Tera]

What I find with Sikh women is that they are very stuck up. When a Sikh guy approaches them they are very cautious and will give him a hard time.

But if good old ahmed approaches them its all smiles . and i wanna fast with you and celebrate eid ect :stupidme:

[Balkaar]

That is a true statement, I am not fully Sikh but I still wait for the day when Guru Sahib blesses me with Amrit. It is my own Haumai that I haven't done so yet.

I can't say I agree. You seem a decent bloke, humbler than many Amritdharis are. I think you've every right to consider yourself a Sikh.

There are a great many Amritdharis who are paragons of morality, and a great many Sehajdharis who are scumbags.

But there are also plenty of non-Amritdharis who embody all the virtues preached in the Sikh religion, and plenty of Amritdharis who are the antitheses of these virtues. Why should the first group be denied the right to call themselves Sikhs, but the second group be granted this right simply because they took Amrit?

[Guest Jacfsing2]

Why would Guru Sahib go out of his way to bless you with anything considering you aren't following his rehat?

I do try to practice Rehat to the best I can, I don't attempt the Bhujer Kurehits and try to do Paht everyday, I know I'm not perfect but with his grace alone I know I can be better.

[MisterrSingh]

I do try to practice Rehat to the best I can, I don't attempt the Bhujer Kurehits and try to do Paht everyday, I know I'm not perfect but with his grace alone I know I can be better.

I was pulling your leg, brother. I know you're working hard. I was just using your logic against you.

[Kira]

I can't say I agree. You seem a decent bloke, humbler than many Amritdharis are. I think you've every right to consider yourself a Sikh.

There are a great many Amritdharis who are paragons of morality, and a great many Sehajdharis who are scumbags.

But there are also plenty of non-Amritdharis who embody all the virtues preached in the Sikh religion, and plenty of Amritdharis who are the antitheses of these virtues. Why should the first group be denied the right to call themselves Sikhs, but the second group be granted this right simply because they took Amrit?

Indeed, the true Amrit is the lord's name.

[Big_Tera]

It would be interesting to get some statistics to see how many highly educated academically superior Sikh women marry non-Sikh and if they do marry non-Sikh what the reasons are for it.

Yes it would be interesting to know the statistics. From what I gather is that people who are intelligent enough to get medical or other high prestigious degrees are generally smarter people in all areas of life beside being academically intelligent. These people have worked hard all their life to progress to their chosen profession. They have have made it . so to speak so they have more to lose from having these relationships or marriages. they dont want to throw their lifes down the pan by marrying a Muslim.. ie they will probably get disowned and be an outcast of the family I know many Sikh and Hindu doctors and most of them do not associate with Muslims.

On the other hand you have those girls that come from dysfunctional families where the father is maybe an alcoholic and other family problems. they maybe less well off. and have less to lose.

[sikhstudent99]

What should we do???

[simran345]

Yes it would be interesting to know the statistics. From what I gather is that people who are intelligent enough to get medical or other high prestigious degrees are generally smarter people in all areas of life beside being academically intelligent. These people have worked hard all their life to progress to their chosen profession. They have have made it . so to speak so they have more to lose from having these relationships or marriages. they dont want to throw their lifes down the pan by marrying a Muslim.. ie they will probably get disowned and be an outcast of the family I know many Sikh and Hindu doctors and most of them do not associate with Muslims.

On the other hand you have those girls that come from dysfunctional families where the father is maybe an alcoholic and other family problems. they maybe less well off. and have less to lose.

But that's just what u gather. I know very intelligent n very educated people that have married other religions, so it's not one sided.

I wouldn't say they have less to lose if their father is an alcoholic or any problem they may have in their family, because every person regardless of their family members loves their own blood, it's the halaat (situation) that changes a persons karm too. In society's eyes yes they may have less to lose, but like I said before if there is love for God and their faith then the girls will not have much to lose, if it's written in their karm to overcome those problems and go on right path. It can work both ways.

[kharkusingh1996]

What should we do???

We need Sikh counsellors in Gurdwaras. Granthis are supposed to play that part in Gurdwaras but sadly most are in for the money and nothing else to help out with sangat. In UK, there are Singhs from Gurdwaras who do some family support help for Sikh families as every gurdwara should be doing this all over the world. This will help solve the problems of girls leaving out and getting dishonored and so on and on...... its not a complete solution but a good start to solve this problem.