Sexual Grooming Methods Revealed

[jkvlondon]

How did this man blackmail you

Had you guys dated?

no he raped me as a teen then left the country ...I went on with my life with the intention to not marry but work and do sewa because I felt what kind of Singhni was I that couldn't look after myself ...believe me I would be so disgusted and harsh at myself, I didn't believe I could pollute someone else's life with my cowardice . When he came back he phoned me early morning at halls ...it was a voice that made my blood run cold but I was determined not to let him blackmail me , I would destroy myself before he could destroy those I cared about so I told my folks everything and let the curses and swearing rain down . Then the net time he called he threatened to phone them and tell them about my bad character , you cannot believe how satisfying it was to tell him , 'go ahead , they already know I would look to your own safety' then when I talked to those two muslim girls and told them what his game was they initially didn't believe me then I said 'do you really think a girl like me is going to make her own name badnaam ?' then they believed ...the guy phoned back livid , cursing 'I only told them the truth'. Guru ji has my back ...always; I know it now .

[jkvlondon]

Bro you should't ask these personal questions in the open. If you need you should use PM

don't worry ...I didn't and I am not ashamed because I fought his control and won with Guru ji's advice to live in truth.

[harsharan000]

don't worry ...I didn't and I am not ashamed because I fought his control and won with Guru ji's advice to live in truth.

Pen Jee,

I am so sorry to know about your past painful state and about the other case on this thread also.

You have all my moral support, may God bless you.

These things just boil my blood, I would just like to get hold of them and thrash them, and give them that much pain, that they would beg for death rather...

How can these demons play with someone´s sentiments and have the cheek to live?

They need to get a severe answer for their unhuman acts, so that next time if anyone dares to behave like that, he will have to think 100 times before...

Sat Sree Akal.

[jkvlondon]

Blackmail is how they do it. This happened to my sister and my whole family fell apart, never been the same since then. I went through a phase where I wanted to kill them but now, I just want them to know what their acts have done to my family.

Please stay alert people, theres always things we can do better and always improvements we can make within ourselves. Keep families close, build relationships and spend time with your children. I wouldn't wish what I've been through on anyone

Veer ji,

The thing I learnt over 8 years of self-hate is that I was giving that guy power over my whole future not just that one point in my past , please it's hard I know but you have to trust Guru ji to do sodhna of those people. Forget about making them aware of how you all are hurting they do not care, that's why they did it- to destroy your family ties and peace of mind . You have to stop giving your time , health and power away to these scumbags , and Please please tell your sister that she still is the same worthwhile person she always was , because she will need to hear that to heal herself properly.

My folks suffered for a month but then they realised what I had done was keep my family safe and together instead of being selfish and looked for revenge via them. We had a mutual respect after that , even my Dad tried reassure me that it wasn't my fault just my trusting open nature, and he is not the touchy feely type. It made a huge difference and Guru ji would talk to me when I would feel low ...lean on Him

[jkvlondon]

Pen Jee,

I am so sorry to know about your past painful state and about the other case on this thread also.

You have all my moral support, may God bless you.

These things just boil my blood, I would just like to get hold of them and thrash them, and give them that much pain, that they would beg for death rather...

How can these demons play with someone´s sentiments and have the cheek to live?

They need to get a severe answer for their unhuman acts, so that next time if anyone dares to behave like that, he will have to think 100 times before...

Sat Sree Akal.

the best way to help is to convert that anger to the positive and use it to create safe spaces for your friends and family to talk about such issues , to support not judge our girls often they are naive and do not know how depraved men can be ... I think all Kaurs should be reading Dasam Granth ji to know what power lies within and how low people are without getting into danger.

[simran345]

You are a brave strong soul penji jkvlondon. You are right it's easy for one to judge somebody's past or experiences they go through as not everybody is wise or intelligent as others maybe, so it's easier to be taken advantage of. In some cases it's very difficult to tell who is genuine caring person and who is not, as when the trust breaks once it's very complicated to trust another. Nobody wants to be taken advantage of and if one knows at the time what's happening obviously they would do the best to stop it. But some circumstances one does not realise until it's too late or already happened. Halaat and majboori also add to it.

People think by calling the girls and women that have been through a bad experience is wise. But it only shows immaturity from their side, as they could never understand what they went through. Instead of belittling and disowning one should support, everybody makes mistakes and if one wants to change and needs support, then God is all forgiving and the only one that does not judge, then others do not have a right to judge anybody for being naive or trusting, as it's not happened to them.

Some peopl just don't care how they hurt somebody as long as they get their own way. But God watches all.

[simran345]

I also have come across many that would intentionally want to hurt my soul and would not care if I'm dead or alive, but Waheguru ji is the only one that one can trust properly. I went through a bad experience too much to cope with, but penji jkvlondon u helped me I remember when I needed somebody, I'm not sure if u remember but that time made it easier for me to cope with what I went through. And I thank Waheguru ji for that advise u gave me too. God bless u ji.

[jkvlondon]

I also have come across many that would intentionally want to hurt my soul and would not care if I'm dead or alive, but Waheguru ji is the only one that one can trust properly. I nearly did suicide as life became to much to cope with, but penji jkvlondon u helped me I remember when I needed somebody, I'm not sure if u remember but that time made it easier for me to cope with what I went through. And I thank Waheguru ji for that advise u gave me too. God bless u ji.

Truly I know Waheguru has inspired from somewhere to say something to someone in need but for the life of me I cannot remember the words I say afterwards. It has happened more than a few times and I am glad that it helped you but I cannot claim anything it is all His Kirpa I'm nobody special . Trust in Guru ji he is our only hope in this world

[Big_Tera]

Jkvlondon I am shocked to read that, you should have informed the authorities

I would have knocked that guy out cold!

[MisterrSingh]

...but you have to trust Guru ji to do sodhna of those people.

I hope you're right.