Feeling Down Due To Kaam

[Guest guptsingh]

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa

Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

How do control my kaam ? Recently I've been getting afflicted by kaam a lot its making me lazier and depressed. My mind just wants me to do bad stuff, sometimes I slip and start falling to kaam, but Guru Ji kirpa sometimes i realise what im doing and stop. But I still feel guilty, and sometimes I can't sleep sleep properly because I feel like i betrayed Guru Ji.

Its getting kind of depressing now, I shouldn't be falling weak all the time. So i was looking for advice on how to avoid following my mind.

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[Bundha]

Bhaji,

You must not get depressed.

You come across as being young, so don't worry, this is all part of life. When you grow up Kaam becomes very strong, this is the way it is. As you progress Krodh becomes stronger and Moh and Hunkaar. So it is part of life but that does not mean we succumb to it all the time. Remain in chardi kalla and do ardass.

There is a shabad by Guru Arjan Dev Ji that warns off Kaam, so that is really useful. But the main thing is that you must not cut yourself up inside about this. Do not feel guilty, enjoy life and be happy, that is what your Guru wants you to do. Be happy do paath and kirtan and stay on Guru Ji's path and enjoy life.

Do not fall into depression, kick it in the butt!

[harsharan000]

Brother,

Gurbani is the remedy.

Does not the Bani say : Sarab Rog ka Aukhad Naam...or, Prabh Ka Simran, man kee mael jaae.

So ask yourself, where is this vikaar of kaam in us?

Like all other vices, it is in the mind.

So it is in the mind, where the medicine has to be applied. And the only effective medicine to defeat or conquer all the vikaars is His Naam, through His chintan, His Dhyan...

You see, the mind is fond of pleasures. It constantly seeks them, and runs after them madly ....in the way, it crosses the limits of morality also, so naturally it incurrs in karmas, which have to be paid without any doubt.

And the worst thing is, it makes us to do wrong intentionally, and then makes us feel guilty also....

In my opinion we have to attack and surround the mind in various ways: keep good company, do sewa at the Gurdwaras, read and study Gurbani, develope deep love for Wahiguru, and then regulary engage yourself in His Bhajan Bandagee as much time as possible, the more the better.

And as Wahiguru is within us, you will definetely get the help from Him, within. In due time, you will by yourself see changes taking place in you ...

As said before, the mind is fond of pleasures; so, in order for the mind to abandon these vikaars, it needs to be given a superior pleasure to hold on, and that brother, is the rus of His Name only.

May Wahiguru bless you.

Sat Sree Akal.

[Guest Ninja90]

Make sure your mind is always occupied with other things. Your mind will wander to kaam when you are bored or have nothing to do. Keep busy. Read bani, listen to kirtan, do homework, play sport, pick up a new hobby