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would play Devils Advocate here ;-)

There are two sides of every coin, similar to the concept of Khanda - double edged sword.

As we all know "necessity is the mother of invention" so when society became Greedy n Corrupt, people stopped marrying their children in their Late teens.

In order to avoid Chaos (rapes) Porn industry was established.

singhbj, whilst your contribution is greatly appreciated, I strongly feel that it is the wrong column to place your views. We all admit to watching a little porn here and there. However it is of paramount importance that you be sensitive to the purpose of this column. Its main purpose is to help someone who is distressed and addicted to the effects of having to turn to porn. Whereas we turn to it every now and then, this persons whole personality and future is getting ruined by it.

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Loneliness can sometimes be a blessing because it is when you are alone that you can hear Gods voice. So turn it to your advantage by engaging in simran. When there is no interruption, you are able to devote your time and concentrate better.

Its all in our thinking. You have a relationship with everyone, even your dad. Its a product of the idle mind. Its your imagination. Simran will help you beat negative thoughts.

That is because no one in this world can become your best friend. Only God can, if you let him. Satgur is the friend who will stand by you even after death.

This is what your empty soul is telling you to search for. We are all hungry - we constantly need air, water food and attention and most important positive thoughts in order to keep going. That positive thought is the name of God. You get it through simran, sadh sangat, listening shabads and it is the one which gives you peace and satisfaction( after you have eaten it)

All this is from Gurbani. I cannot find the lines, but all this spiritual wisdom has been explained in the Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji.

Finally after gaining your spiritual wisdom, the line below explains how you can trample all the demons which are kam, karodh, lobh moh and ahankaar.

ਦਲਿ ਮਲਿ ਦੈਤਹੁ ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਗਿਆਨੁ

दलि मलि दैतहु गुरमुखि गिआनु ॥

Ḏal mal ḏāṯahu gurmukẖ gi▫ān.

The Gurmukh tramples the demons underfoot with his spiritual wisdom.

Turn to Naam to distract yourself and your problem will be solved. Keep turning to naam. Get addicted to reading, hearing and listening to the name of God through apps, videos, going to the guradwara and reading good books.

Focus on the positive. The most important thing is that you have recognised your problem. Give yourself credit for that. Go to the guradwara and dust the shoes of the sangat there. Recite Waheguru in your mind as much as possible when you are there.

Yes having a bath with Amrit is powerful, but you have to drink in the real Amrit too which is the name of God.

Finally keep in mind small steps make great changes. It is walking in the right direction which is the most important. You will surely reach your deestination if you keep walking and also taking care to face the right direction all the time. Half the cure is in knowing and admitting you have a problem.

Good advice by penji Sikhni777 and Jacfsing2 Paji. This problem doesn't just affect males, but also females. It's just that the females don't have the strength to admit it, as to what society would think of them, especially in Asian society, where a lot of judging goes on. Yet the males would not be judged as much, which is a real shame.

The advice given may benefit, both males and females with similar problems associated with Kaam, and emotional problems, however mild or strong it maybe.

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singhbj, whilst your contribution is greatly appreciated, I strongly feel that it is the wrong column to place your views. We all admit to watching a little porn here and there. However it is of paramount importance that you be sensitive to the purpose of this column. Its main purpose is to help someone who is distressed and addicted to the effects of having to turn to porn. Whereas we turn to it every now and then, this persons whole personality and future is getting ruined by it.

My post is to meant to help OP understand that he shouldn't feel guilty or singled out.

Society at large is responsible for creating & fuelling porn industry not individuals.

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I appreciate I could assist in a little bit? (Hopefully.) I'm going to assume you usually watch porn on your computer or phone, so I'd recommend you try making your phone activities as well as computer activities in a *public setting, (with someone other than yourself doesn't have to be a friend or anything). It's not too late to make some sangat; however, I do understand your solution as it's a bit hard, so instead of trying to make friends try to be close to those who you still associate with, (basic conversations), let other people do most of the talking, (since you believe you're boring). You could get a pet? They can provide loyal support especially when you have nobody with you except Vaheguru Ji. Try being the best you possibly can in your hobby; whatever it is, it's going to be very fulfilling and you can actually have conversations about it. Vaheguru bless you with Amrit bathing, (that's something I really can't help with, sorry). It's nice that you started going to the SSA; however, you've got to be really committed to break the habit. But to finish this off I know masturbation isn't the same problem as porn; however, they are both heavily related so I recommend reading some of what Sangat said here. http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?/topic/77288-masturbation/?fromsearch=1 P.S. (*Me not being gupt was very awkward for and I thought I was being gupt, so whenever I speak on Haumai, just know I was lying)*

Thanks. I have a pet. I also don't believe I'm boring anymore (I thought people thought I was boring as I overheard this once about me and lack of people wanting to be friends with me proved it in my head) as I can express myself better than I used to.

In terms of masturbation, that is what started it all, I had and still have a masturbation addiction. The Porn fuels it and vice versa. They bounce off each other.

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Thanks. I have a pet. I also don't believe I'm boring anymore (I thought people thought I was boring as I overheard this once about me and lack of people wanting to be friends with me proved it in my head) as I can express myself better than I used to.

In terms of masturbation, that is what started it all, I had and still have a masturbation addiction. The Porn fuels it and vice versa.They bounce off each other.

Vaheguru bless you from here on out on your journey, (I would say more things; however, I have nothing more to assist with).
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Do: Stay away from external Triggers(Visuals,places,times,people etc) & internal triggers(HALT-hunger,anger,loneliness & tiredness)

Meditation nd mind selfcontrol, do virtuous cycle and record things. See your Success visualized.

Dont: Hide from accountability and transparency with near close ones. Get stressed in viscious cycle. Blame discourage yourself for relapse. Focus on failures.

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