Need Help Regarding Family Member

[sikhni777]

Interfaith marriages held at the Gurdwara are also in the will of Vaheguru, does not make them right though. It's not upon looking down on anyone but sticking to Sikhi asools.

Even if we take Sikhi out of the picture for a sec, it is a kick in the teeth for any parent when children blatantly go against their wishes and leave them between a rock and a hard place for life.

A true sikh child would attend such a wedding and see for their own so that it sticks in their heads. The pain and dissappointment and shame on the parents' face still shows even if they look happy. When you don't go to close weddings then the blame later on can easily shift on you as being the person who jinxed it if it doesn't work. Factors which are beyond your control need to be taken as the will of God to pacify the mind. This is of course not in the support of interfaith marriage as somewhere in the rehatnama it clearly states that a sikh should marry a sikh. Non sikhs can marry who ever they want. If her parents are happy then it's the maya reason not the marrying a hindu reason. My mum always came back from such a wedding and told us if would have been better if xyz did marry an xyz person. This example however was however from a muslim getting married to a hindu.

[jkvlondon]

A true sikh child would attend such a wedding and see for their own so that it sticks in their heads. The pain and dissappointment and shame on the parents' face still shows even if they look happy. When you don't go to close weddings then the blame later on can easily shift on you as being the person who jinxed it if it doesn't work. Factors which are beyond your control need to be taken as the will of God to pacify the mind. This is of course not in the support of interfaith marriage as somewhere in the rehatnama it clearly states that a sikh should marry a sikh. Non sikhs can marry who ever they want. If her parents are happy then it's the maya reason not the marrying a hindu reason. My mum always came back from such a wedding and told us if would have been better if xyz did marry an xyz person. This example however was however from a muslim getting married to a hindu.

sometimes though the parents act OTT happy , because they haven't a clue about what they are doing ,surely making the waters muddy?

[harsharan000]

Brorher,
I can very well understand your feelings , but you must bear in mind that many a times, more than one's wishes, likes or dislikes, what prevails is one's adjustments of karmas in the form of destiny with certain people, in certain envoirements...and against this settlement nothing can be done.

Just as you for example, you were born in your actual family and nowhere else.

Also we should remember we are all independent individuals, mostly interelated by karmas.

Our true permanent relation is with Wahiguru alone, no matter in what joonee, in what dharam, or mazab we are born.

So brother cheer up and bless your sister with happiness wherever she maybe.

More than that, we humans can hardly do much more.

Sat Sree Akal