Let's End All Suffering - Our Own And Of People Around Us

[nehkeval]

All of our suffering is of our own making ! This dawned on me from within one of my deeper meditations.

Lets see how our mind gets caught up in meaningless , petty things and prevents us from enjoying life to the fullest

(i) Financial Suffering

Buy only what you need and what you want - limit your needs , helping a kid go to school for example will bring you much more happiness than buying the latest gadget .

The most stupid thing to try to do is to keep up with others and put up a show of wealth - its called rat race for a reason - rats start scrambling when they see one rat running , we have a more evolved brain - don't we ?

Learn to take pride in your simplicity and even boast about it and others around you will find themselves shamed about their showy/flashy ways.

ਏਕੋ ਨਿਹਚਲ ਨਾਮ ਧਨੁ ਹੋਰੁ ਧਨੁ ਆਵੈ ਜਾਇ ॥

(ii) Physical Suffering

Again almost all chronic diseases - obesity, cancer, heart disease, diabetes etc are a direct result of indulgence - consuming way more calories than our body was ever meant to handle .

Keep a simple vegan diet (no milk , fish , dairy , meat) and fast one day in a weak - see your weight come off and all your diseases . Being vegetarian is not enough as we are nevertheless stealing milk that was meant for the calf.

Our health has a karmik link like all things in life - when we stop causing suffering to other sentient beings, in return our own well being is tremendously boosted -

Dukh an deyi kise Jee Pat Seo Ghar Jaye ||

Do not harm any being and you will go to your home with honour

And

Jehre khange Choprey Ghane Sehange Dukh ||

Those who indulge in lavish food will suffer a great deal.

(iii) Emotional Suffering

We all have a tendency to carry grudges - someone did or said something bad to us ....take some deep breaths and thank them for it for taking some or our karmic debt off...what happened to us was just a result of our own karma and this person was only the messenger ..in other words akal purakh himself wanted this to happen to us ,if not them it would happen through another person or another means.

ਲੇਖੈ ਬੋਲਣੁ ਬੋਲਣਾ ਲੇਖੈ ਖਾਣਾ ਖਾਉ ॥

लेखै बोलणु बोलणा लेखै खाणा खाउ ॥

Lekẖai bolaṇ bolṇā lekẖai kẖāṇā kẖā▫o.

As it is pre-ordained, people speak their words. As it is pre-ordained, they consume their food.

ਲੇਖੈ ਵਾਟ ਚਲਾਈਆ ਲੇਖੈ ਸੁਣਿ ਵੇਖਾਉ ॥

लेखै वाट चलाईआ लेखै सुणि वेखाउ ॥

Lekẖai vāt cẖalā▫ī▫ā lekẖai suṇ vekẖā▫o.

As it is pre-ordained, they walk along the way. As it is pre-ordained, they see and hear.

Remember there is enough in this world for every being , worry and jealousy are just wasted emotions - we are not truly happy until our happiness is infectious i.e. we make everyone around us happy.

Feel free to pm me or on this thread if you need any gurbani tuk for a particular dilemma / suffering you are facing in this maya infested world .

[harsharan000]

Sarab rog ka aukhad Nam.

As long as we do not submit our haume and drink the Amrit of Nam, through its Simran and Dhyan, we can never ever become free from sufferings in the form of karam.

Through Gurmat we have to arise above the spheres of karam, mind and maya, and with the aid of Shabad Guru drink the Amrit of Nam.

For as the Bani says: Sur, Nar, Mun Jan, Amrit khojtay, so Amrit Gur te paaya.

Sat Sree Akal.

[nehkeval]

Very well said veerji !

Houme nave nal virodh hai doi na rahe ik thaye ||

Through constant meditation and listening to Guru's amrit bani I'm trying to rid myself of my ego and have succeeded to some extent

[harsharan000]

Houme nave nal virodh hai doi na rahe ik thaye ||

Through constant meditation and listening to Guru's amrit bani I'm trying to rid myself of my ego and have succeeded to some extent

Nehkeval Jee,

in these 2 lines underlined above, and mentioned by you, lies the secret for our emancipation, and to get rid of all our sufferings.

Thanks for pointing them so simply.

God bless you.

Sat Sree Akal.

[ramghariasingh]

during meditation diffrent thoughts constantly comes to my mind. how do i control my thoughts.

[harsharan000]

You just forget about the thoughts, and only pay attention to your job during meditation, which is, His simran.

Creating thoughts to distract us and prevent us from doing this real bhakti, is the job of the mind, but you too as a faithful sikh, cling on strongly to Guru Jee, no matter, what may come....because to subdue the mind is not in our hands at all, but in His power, His Daya Meher, His apaar Kirpa.

And when He sees our determination to remain in His hukum, He just extends out His powerful arm and pulls us out from the gravity of mind and maya, and keeps us at His Lotus Feet.

Sat Sree Akal.

[nehkeval]

during meditation diffrent thoughts constantly comes to my mind. how do i control my thoughts.

Two things -

• Start with thought labeling everytime a thought starts to bubble up label it - like 'planning' , 'past' , 'grudge', 'craving (such as to check email)'
• Focus on your nostrils or your belly - choose one and stick to it for several days (wherever you find incoming and outgoing breath sensations are the strongest).

We all go through excessive thinking in the initial phases , but slowly these thoughts will loosen their grip on you - so don't lose heart.

Also if breath meditation is not your thing you should try music meditation - pick a rag based kirtan such as this one and just focus on the shabad with your eyes fully or half closed (try to stay focused on the entire experience including the non vocal beats and muscial notes ), here is an example kirtan

ਗੁਰ ਕੀ ਬਾਣੀ ਨਾਮਿ ਵਜਾਏ ॥

ਨਾਨਕ ਮਹਲੁ ਸਬਦਿ ਘਰੁ ਪਾਏ ॥

On a sidenote stop identifying with being a "ramgarhia" - in fact any label that was meant for our body and we tend to identify with (not just caste, it can be profession, religion, gender, economic status etc) is an obstacle to your deeper understanding of your real self - the fat that you are spirit and not the illusory mix of body and mind -

Man too jot saroop hai Apna mool pehchaan ||

Also for all meditations (music or breathing) do 5- 7 minutes of alom vilom as a warmup .