Please See This! Important! - Gursikh Amritdhari Parents Abusing Teenage Daughter

[Guest kaur1]

wjkk, wjkf.

my best friend's parents beat her constantly and this has been going on for a while. she is amritdhari but committed a mistake last year and they have been beating her constantly after wards for no reason after it. Even though she has accepted her mistake and become better. Now, she is continually depressed always and suicidal. but they do not care at all. I have had to pull her through so much. They physically and verbally abuse her again and again. She has recently found out she is at risk for cancer and her parents still do not care even though she goes through so much pain. her older and younger brothers verbally abuse her as well.

I have no idea what to do. It hurts not knowing what to do. CAN SOMEONE PLEASE HELP? This has been going on for too long. and I can't take it seeing her pain. I love her. She's the sister i never had.

This is a urgent benti to sangat. Please.

wjkk, wjkf

[simran345 2,500]

wjkk, wjkf.

my best friend's parents beat her constantly and this has been going on for a while. she is amritdhari but committed a mistake last year and they have been beating her constantly after wards for no reason after it. Even though she has accepted her mistake and become better. Now, she is continually depressed always and suicidal. but they do not care at all. I have had to pull her through so much. They physically and verbally abuse her again and again. She has recently found out she is at risk for cancer and her parents still do not care even though she goes through so much pain. her older and younger brothers verbally abuse her as well.

I have no idea what to do. It hurts not knowing what to do. CAN SOMEONE PLEASE HELP? This has been going on for too long. and I can't take it seeing her pain. I love her. She's the sister i never had.

This is a urgent benti to sangat. Please.

wjkk, wjkf

Contact this organisation, they may be able to guide you. There numbers are in the links:

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[Guest GetHelpNow]

I think you need to send all this info and contact details of your friend to social services and the police.

You also need to tell the girl to go to a police station and report physical abuse asap. Then inform them that her return to that house may result in further abuse. They will give her a safe place to stay.

its against the law. No one should be beaten . Culture, religion, traditions or family honour are no reason to accept any of this behavior. Do not let her go home .send her to get help asap. Not a finger should be laid on her.

We all get to accepting of this. I was beaten all my life and just accepted it. It is absolutley wrong. I cant stress it enough. The worry is the girl starts thinkin its normal and then ends up with an abusive partner and lives in misery. We need to do something asap

[Guest Jacfsing2]

wjkk, wjkf.

my best friend's parents beat her constantly and this has been going on for a while. she is amritdhari but committed a mistake last year and they have been beating her constantly after wards for no reason after it. Even though she has accepted her mistake and become better. Now, she is continually depressed always and suicidal. but they do not care at all. I have had to pull her through so much. They physically and verbally abuse her again and again. She has recently found out she is at risk for cancer and her parents still do not care even though she goes through so much pain. her older and younger brothers verbally abuse her as well.

I have no idea what to do. It hurts not knowing what to do. CAN SOMEONE PLEASE HELP? This has been going on for too long. and I can't take it seeing her pain. I love her. She's the sister i never had.

This is a urgent benti to sangat. Please.

wjkk, wjkf

The best advice for her is just to leave, and depending on what the mistake was: go pesh.

[MisterrSingh 3,240]

The best advice for her is just to leave, and depending on what the mistake was: go pesh.

That's probably the last thought on her mind whilst her mum and dad are beating the crap out of her. Depending on her mindset, when someone as young as that experiences something along the lines of what's happening to her, it's a huge knock against their sharda and general beliefs. I hope, when she's out of immediate danger and things have calmed down, she doesn't blame Sikhi for the actions of her family.

I'm not saying parents shouldn't discipline their children or punish them when they make mistakes of a serious nature, but a concerted and prolonged period of abuse is not how it should be done.

[S4NGH 743]

Leave home, seek help. Best thing she can do.

[singhbj singh 1,266]

I think her parents should send her to grand parents home for change.

Nanke or Dadke.

This will put time & space between them which can help to forgive n forget.

[Guest Sat]

My parents and brothers were a-holes to me aswell and I got beaten badly by my brother also.

I left home and it was honestly the best thing I ever did. I don't have a huge amount of money and guys may not like the fact that I'm not with my parents, but at least I don't live in constant abuse in my home.

[simran345 2,500]

My parents and brothers were a-holes to me aswell and I got beaten badly by my brother also.

I left home and it was honestly the best thing I ever did. I don't have a huge amount of money and guys may not like the fact that I'm not with my parents, but at least I don't live in constant abuse in my home.

Sorry to hear this, I hope you are coping and that Waheguru gives you success in your future. . Only you know what you went through and you are a brave woman for having the courage to do what you had to do.

[ms514 422]

VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH

You may have two options to approach:

A) Police

B) Elder, learned, Gursikhs

[Jeevan 175]

Contact Sikh Awareness Society, with Maharaja Kirpa and understanding Sikh issues within can be resolved

Police & Social Services will only prostitute you off to groomers read Professor's Jay's report.

[Guest Jacfsing2]

Police & Social Services will only prostitute you off to groomers read Professor's Jay's report.

Do you have any proof of this?

[Jeevan 175]

Do you have any proof of this?

http://www.parliament.uk/business/committees/committees-a-z/commons-select/communities-and-local-government-committee/inquiries/parliament-2010/jay-report-rotherham/

5.9 In two of the cases we read, fathers tracked down their daughters and tried to remove them from houses where they were being abused, only to be arrested themselves when police were called to the scene. In a small number of cases (which have already received media attention) the victims were arrested for offences such as breach of the peace or being drunk and disorderly, with no action taken against the perpetrators of rape and sexual assault against children.

5.10 There are numerous historic examples (up to the mid-2000s) of children being stalked by their abusers, and some extreme cases of violent threats or actual assaults on the victims and their families.

5.11 One parent, who agreed to her child being placed in a residential unit in order to protect her, wrote to children’s social care expressing her fears for her daughter’s safety. She described her despair that instead of being protected, her child was being exposed to even worse abuse than when she was at home:

“My child (age 13) may appear to be a mature child, yet some of her actions and the risks to which she constantly puts herself are those of a very immature and naïve person. She constantly stays out all night getting drunk, mixing with older mature adults, and refuses to be bound by any rules.”

5.12 One child who was being prepared to give evidence received a text saying the perpetrator had her younger sister and the choice of what happened next was up to her. She withdrew her statements. At least two other families were terrorised by groups of perpetrators, sitting in cars outside the family home, smashing windows, making abusive and threatening phone calls. On some occasions child victims went back to perpetrators in the belief that this was the only way their parents and other children in the family would be safe. In the most extreme cases, no one in the family believed that the authorities could protect them.

5.13 Many of the victims were unable to recognise that they had been groomed and exploited, and some blamed themselves not just for their own abuse, but for what happened to other victims.

5.14 There have been a small number of successful prosecutions for offences against individual children. The courage required of children to give evidence against their attackers has been rightly commended, but the challenges cannot be

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underestimated. Many other children refused to give evidence and/or withdrew statements as a direct result of threats, intimidation and assaults against them or their families. Overall, the small number of prosecutions and convictions has been disproportionate to the numbers of children abused and the seriousness of the offences committed against them.