Marriage

[Guest Harjot]

Wjkk wjkf I really need advise I have been talking to a Amrit Dhari Singhni & we get on Preety well our interests & hobbies match. I have never met her it's just chatting on social Media. We both are looking for future marriage partners. We both are Amrit Dhari however our families follow different jathbandis. She's AKJ & I'm Taksall. Do you think this will cause future problems? Does anyone have any experiences & how do we approach our families.

[sikhiseeker]

WJKK WJKF

Brother, there is only one Amrit and one Khalsa and there should only be one rehat. The jathebandi you should be apart of should be that of Dhan Dhan Shiri Guru Granth Sahib Ji Mahraj.

If you and this sister were to have Anand Karaj, you should make what I stated above fact and teach your kids of this jathebandi and of the one and only Khalsa.

The guru gave us sovereignty within ourselves and Khalsa raj first starts within us individually so brother, lead the way the guru and your Khalsa panth intended you to!

[Guest Jacfsing2]

Wjkk wjkf I really need advise I have been talking to a Amrit Dhari Singhni & we get on Preety well our interests & hobbies match. I have never met her it's just chatting on social Media. We both are looking for future marriage partners. We both are Amrit Dhari however our families follow different jathbandis. She's AKJ & I'm Taksall. Do you think this will cause future problems? Does anyone have any experiences & how do we approach our families.

I'll be practical and say it probably will cause problems if you aren't practical about it. Taksal, (if it's something you are serious about), believe that Raagmala is Gurbani, while AKJ won't even consider it. AKJ believes women are allowed to be in the Punj Pyare, while Taksal is against changing any ithiaas. Taksal believes in a totally unique maryada from the Panth, while AKJ follows another unique maryada from the Panth as well. Keski vs Kesh,(though this is the smallest concern). I'm not trying to disappoint you, but you should acknowledge that these conversations will happen. Only an idealist would say it wouldn't cause problems, especially if you think in terms of Jatha.

[Guest Harjot]

Thank you is there anybody on here with similar experiences to mine or is married & both follow different jathebandis.