Love Or Lust Confused

[MHS]

Go and say hello to her, even if it makes you look like a fool. You know the old adage, 'only fools fall in love' don't you? Go and make a fool of yourself first. If your effing ego can withstand it, then make polite conversation, keep it short. Talk about the weather, plants and shrubs that are parenials, deciduous or evergreen! Observe her reactions, whether she is too shy or reserved or not responsive enough to your advances. If she is interested, she will make convesation with you, if not, she will tell you where to go. It always works. Once she SHOUTS at you and tells you to b.gg.r off you will soon land on planet earth from 'cloud 9' with a loud ear-splitting thunderous sound which will soon bring you to your senses! What a effing loser.

Did your parents ever teach you anything about 'Love' ever? If so, did they also teach you what would be a decent thing to do in case you are diagnosed with the thing called 'LOVE' as well?

The lady in question has pride. She has her own 'space' too, in case, you have not noticed. You have to learn to respect both and move rather gingerly if you have any respect for her. You definitely, wanna avoid shocking her. Judging from your post. it seems to me, you have no clue what the hell you are feeling. Have you ever heard of a thing called 'infatuation?' No, never, isn't it??????

Which part of you feels your 'lust or Love' if you don't mind my posing this question to you? It is all in your mind, isn't it? You don't really have an answer, do you? No, not really. Take my word for it, only Fools fall in love and if you are prepared to class yourself as that then by all means, give her a RED ROSE!!! What a Fool!

I once read a guide on how to get that special person of your dreams and it said exactly what you have said in different words! What a coincidence.

[MisterrSingh]

i don't drink. but yes i eat meat. regarding keeping kesh i want to keep kesh but my family didn't allow me to keep kesh.

i read bani. i had learned some of the banis. yes one day i will be a proper amritdhari.

right know i cant ask her hand for marrage because I am just 17 and she is 19.

You'll get over it. Don't be a typical Indian loser thinking Bollywood love stories are reality.

[MHS]

i don't drink. but yes i eat meat. regarding keeping kesh i want to keep kesh but my family didn't allow me to keep kesh.

i read bani. i had learned some of the banis. yes one day i will be a proper amritdhari.

right know i cant ask her hand for marrage because I am just 17 and she is 19.

You are only seventeen year old who is infatuated with a nineteen year girl! It is part of growing up nothing to do with the girl.

[jkvlondon]

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh, how do you know it's not infatuation? Daas thinks this is overly barbaric and savage. Daas opposes such things; (nobody should be this desperate of a loser) Have you even talked to this person if in the most regular way? Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

veer ji , he was being silly ...of course naive may feel he was being serious that's why i said what I said ...some guys don't know when to keep it reigned in ...

[muscleman]

i had a crush on a girl but problem is that I am not sure weather i really love her. what to do i don't undetstand.

If you have a crush Bollywood style then do the Bollywood thing and that is throw yourself at her feet and sing a bhajjan or two. You are only a kid for heavens sakes, where are your seniors to guide you. They are suppose to know how you feel and think. Are you at school? Talk to your teacher. You are asking for help from total strangers here when it should be your parents who should be helping you. If you are only 17 you are a minor and it should be your parents and senior siblings you should be approaching for help. People are telling you to keep Kesh, start reciting the Baanis blah blah.....do you know for sure that they are practicing what they are preaching??? Will you revert to your previous self if things don't work out in your life? It is a sin to cut your Kesh, stop reciting Baanies, start eating meat after you break up with her! So, stop wasting our time here. Besides, you have been watching too much far fetched, pornostyle Bollywood <banned word filter activated>. Stop watching them. If you don't even know how to approach the girl, how do you intend to sort out your 'mess?'

Seriously, people really need parenting classes. Once you take the Amrit there must not be any going back if someone breaks up with someone or the marriage breaks up. This is what gawaars do.

[ramghariasingh]

If you have a crush Bollywood style then do the Bollywood thing and that is throw yourself at her feet and sing a bhajjan or two. You are only a kid for heavens sakes, where are your seniors to guide you. They are suppose to know how you feel and think. Are you at school? Talk to your teacher. You are asking for help from total strangers here when it should be your parents who should be helping you. If you are only 17 you are a minor and it should be your parents and senior siblings you should be approaching for help. People are telling you to keep Kesh, start reciting the Baanis blah blah.....do you know for sure that they are practicing what they are preaching??? Will you revert to your previous self if things don't work out in your life? It is a sin to cut your Kesh, stop reciting Baanies, start eating meat after you break up with her! So, stop wasting our time here. Besides, you have been watching too much far fetched, pornostyle Bollywood <banned word filter activated>. Stop watching them. If you don't even know how to approach the girl, how do you intend to sort out your 'mess?'

Seriously, people really need parenting classes. Once you take the Amrit there must not be any going back if someone break up with the person or the marriage breaks up. This is what gawaars do.

i will take amrit not to be in relation with her.

[muscleman]

i will take amrit not to be in relation with her.

Then don't change your mind afterwards when things don't work out the way you wanted them to.

Amrit is not a khed, it deserves total commitment. It is a one single serious decision in your life that needs a lot of thinking about. When we take Amrit we have surrendered ourselves to our Guru. No one should come in between us and our Guru, as long as you understand this.

[jkvlondon]

i will take amrit not to be in relation with her.

I am happy for you , remember that no one will be there for you in the end only Waheguru ji, work on yourself first , trust Waheguru to handle your affairs , if it meant to be it will happen; just work on your spiritual development and your studies/career as you are just at the start of your life . Plenty of years to get wed and all that. In other words , make yourself a better sikh focus on that and everything else will come together. Forget what scaremongering other put before you , Waheguru never makes mistakes, you are here for a reason, find it , understand it and get on with it , be a winner not a whiner.

[ramghariasingh]

I am happy for you , remember that no one will be there for you in the end only Waheguru ji, work on yourself first , trust Waheguru to handle your affairs , if it meant to be it will happen; just work on your spiritual development and your studies/career as you are just at the start of your life . Plenty of years to get wed and all that. In other words , make yourself a better sikh focus on that and everything else will come together. Forget what scaremongering other put before you , Waheguru never makes mistakes, you are here for a reason, find it , understand it and get on with it , be a winner not a whiner.

thanks. yes i am fully focused on my career and my spritual development. my love is a diffrent topic it is not related to my studies and sprituality not it is disturbing them

[KhoonKaBadlaKhoon]

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh, how do you know it's not infatuation? Daas thinks this is overly barbaric and savage. Daas opposes such things; (nobody should be this desperate of a loser) Have you even talked to this person if in the most regular way? Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh!

Bro, Im sure he was joking lol, lighten up.

OP have you even talked to this girl?