Dealing with a horrible past

[dallysingh101]

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about 4 years ago I realised the reason behind my habit of getting into relationships, letting men take advantage of me and cheating to get attention. I didn't get the love from my cousins/relatives and mom. The only person who stood by was my dad and my relatives never cared about me, their behaviour towards me just proved that they believed me to be the "extra" child since I was a daughter. 

This is unusual. I've always found that absent father figures can make young females become promiscuous, but here it sounds like your father was a decent, supportive guy. 

I'd suggest, exploring within yourself and facing up to your behaviour honestly, without deflecting the blame elsewhere. Attention and physical excitement can be addictive, many people (male and female) have fallen victim to them. You aren't the first - and i doubt you'll be the last. 

What I'm wondering is why you want a really religious partner like this? I hope (and I'm not saying that it is!) - it is not an attempt to try and somehow clear up your own reputation by associating with someone else. That wouldn't be fair on them. 

I just find it more productive if a person acknowledges their own part in what has transpired (even if it was down to human weakness) rather than absolve oneself of everything by putting it on everyone else.  

In the meanwhile just carry on cleansing yourself with naam. A lot of us have to do this to address past behaviour: Be true to yourself without beating yourself up about it. 

 

[Guest Sher]

Answer is yes I will marry her as long as love is there between 2 , past is past no one can do anything about it.