There is a infantileness about our people.
They seem to be into their extended adolesence even into their thirties and forties.
This is the age to take on more responsibility and to show more maturity but they expect their parents in their 60's and 70's to do all the mature stuff.
Normally, there is a right of passage but it does not seem to be there.
I was invited to a Sukhmani Sahib paat at the Gurdwara a couple of years back for the first time in ages, and I was blown away by the total shambles of the sangat assembled. Full-blown conversations on both sides; people playing with phones and watching football highlights; kids running around like it was daycare, etc. I was disgusted. I got up to tell the stage secretary to make a polite announcement to inform the sangat to keep it down and have some respect, which he did, but that lasted for barely 5 minutes. Pathetic.
This was me at the end:
I see that every sunday when people have akhand paats, people book akhand paat but then don't sit down and listen, then what's the point? The men sit along the perimeter with legs stretched, chatting away and the women do the same on the other side of the hall. Funny thing is when their kids run around screaming they be like "Symran, darling, shhh people are praying" and then they turn around and start chatting.
The only people paying attention are normally the outsiders not the actual family that booked the paat.