The power of Chandi di vaar physically can’t be contained by this human body. Only saints like Baba Deep Singh Ji can handle that level of power. This bani is what Baba Ji used to fight while carrying their head.
What you mention of something trying to harm you at home, Chandi di vaar will solve that easily. Once it’s solved generally stick to SGGS bani because this predominantly gives peace and bliss vs bir ras from dasam bani (which is not really required for householders)
Waheguru ji ka khalsa, waheguru ji ki Fateh
Gurpurab di lakh lakh vadiyan veer ji.
something that you would actually use on your hair , like argan oil, olive oil , I would add a few drops of lavender oil to preventive moulds/yeast and to help keep dandruff at bay . Warm the oil to about hand warm then submerge the kanga leave for least four hours or just leave overnight , wipe off excess oil and start using .
I think you feel that things haven’t worked out so that means Waheguru has not listened. As much as it’s painful for you, a result wouldn’t be Maharaj forcing your husband to be with you if it’s not what is meant to be. Stay strong, you’ve been wired to think marriage is everything, it isn’t. This attachment you have isn’t healthy either.
Do you do simran?