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7 hours ago, californiasardar1 said:

 

There is nothing we can do.  For every young Sikh woman who keeps her kesh, there are maybe 5-10 young Sikh men who keep their kesh.  So except for the lucky Singhs who find life partners who have kept their kesh, most Singhs will be left with one of three options:

1. Try to convince a hair-cutting girl who most likely prefers a mona to marry him

2. Give up and remain single

3. Trim his beard and/or cut his hair

 

Indeed, there is a problem with the community mindset.  And this problem is only going to get worse with time. 

99.9% of Sikh kids who grow up in hair-cutting families view Singhs as weird extremists and want nothing to do with them.  Of course, there are the 0.01% from this group who will move towards Sikhi, despite all the odds. 

What about Sikhs who grow up in "keshdhari" families?  Most of them will cut their hair and raise children who adopt the views of the children described in the previous paragraph.  90% of the boys will at some point trim their beards and/or cut their hair.  And 95% of the girls from such families will cut their hair and only marry monay. 

I am the lucky one then ?

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On 2/17/2019 at 5:01 AM, Guest Kill Infanticide said:

A big part of why Singhs are finding it hard to find marriage partners is the skewed gender ratio in Punjab

So there is a significant and immoral imbalance of the male population which is higher than the female population in Punjab due to female infanticide which has resulted in the Sikh population being millions smaller as a result today due to people ignoring the guidance of Gurmat condemning this inhumane and barbaric practise. This is a self-inflicted Genocide that too many are silent about.

And in the West at least around 20% of young men and women have marriage partners from other backgrounds (leaving a smaller population pool for the remaining Sikhs). This means that unless Singhs are pragmatic about marrying good women who respect them (regardless of the female's background) then an increasing number of Singhs will find themselves still unmarried at older ages up to their 30's and 40's if they insist on finding women from a decreasingly smaller population pool of women who have both parents from a Punjabi Sikh background.  

The Arabs are a minority of Muslims and Arab men will regularly marry whoever they choose without fear of Islam dying out as a result. In contrast, despite Sikhi being the 100% truth we have Sikhs who fear that Sikhi will somehow die out if non-Punjabi's become a majority of future Sikhs. Which is a crazy way of thinking given that almost 90% of ethnic Punjabi's in Pakistan, Punjab, Haryana, Himachal etc are non-Sikhs.

 

Don't forget selff-hatred from Punjabi's

17 hours ago, DailyMail said:

Spot on

So if you agree with California are you saying that the Punjabi Sikh population (and in particular Kesdhari's) are destined to die out more and more in the West with each passing generation? If so that means Singhs who cannot find women of matching spiritual/adherence levels will be forced to marry out.

10 hours ago, TinnkerBell said:

I am the lucky one then ?

22g but what all the rest of the Qaum given the demographics in Punjab and the West

8 hours ago, puzzled said:

I wanna marry a girl who keeps a joorah, does paath, doesn't eat meat, is virgin, and comes from a traditional family like mine.

So if you don't happen to find a Punjaban like that you'd rather stay single or hope that you get lucky marrying late in your 30's and 40's by which time the Pakistani's children have passed their driving tests? Suppose there's a Jameeki who really likes you and spiritually understands God the same way you do. And as far as I can tell wouldn't stop you from practising Sikhi or transmitting Sikhi to the next generation. What makes you think that Sikh males are inferior to Muslim men in that we cannot transmit to the next generation if a wife is not Amritdhari or non-Punjabi but they seem to manage just fine. There to seem to be quite a few Sikh children of mixed heritage at my Gurdwara nowadays.

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16 hours ago, TinnkerBell said:

I am the lucky one then ?

Teach us the way brother. Within weeks from not knowing any Punjabi girl to engaged. And that too decent clean girl, who is into Sikhi. 

You could start your own seva and help many others?

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On 2/18/2019 at 12:19 PM, californiasardar1 said:

 

There is nothing we can do.  For every young Sikh woman who keeps her kesh, there are maybe 5-10 young Sikh men who keep their kesh.  So except for the lucky Singhs who find life partners who have kept their kesh, most Singhs will be left with one of three options:

1. Try to convince a hair-cutting girl who most likely prefers a mona to marry him

2. Give up and remain single

3. Trim his beard and/or cut his hair

 

Indeed, there is a problem with the community mindset.  And this problem is only going to get worse with time. 

99.9% of Sikh kids who grow up in hair-cutting families view Singhs as weird extremists and want nothing to do with them.  Of course, there are the 0.01% from this group who will move towards Sikhi, despite all the odds. 

What about Sikhs who grow up in "keshdhari" families?  Most of them will cut their hair and raise children who adopt the views of the children described in the previous paragraph.  90% of the boys will at some point trim their beards and/or cut their hair.  And 95% of the girls from such families will cut their hair and only marry monay. 

and if/when their marriages with a mona dont work out then thats when almost all of em wanna settle for a singh...cuz theyre safe, a 'fallback', a 'get outta jail card'....

a true singh should never accept being second best for anyone - if u werent good enough for em from the start then in my eyes u never will....

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3 hours ago, GuestSingh said:

and if/when their marriages with a mona dont work out then thats when almost all of em wanna settle for a singh...cuz theyre safe, a 'fallback', a 'get outta jail card'....

a true singh should never accept being second best for anyone - if u werent good enough for em from the start then in my eyes u never will....

Someone finally said it.

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6 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

Someone finally said it.

personally know of a singh who was in a relationship with an apni back in his mona day for about 9/10 years but when he took an interest in sikhi during the bhai rajoana movement and start keeping kesh, she didnt wanna know him anymore - she just couldnt handle and accept his new appearance - so they split...makes u wonder how many others out there 'love' their partner for who he really is doesnt it? a decade spent together and nothing to show for it - call it 'quits' and thats it finished... anyway he ended up sponsoring an apni from back home, taught her how to drive etc. and now they have their own house together.

there seems to be more younger-generations doing the same thing - my thinking/feelings are the same too but still got a little hope left...it aint much at all but its still there burning like a flickering candle ..otherwise my worry is not conducting enough 'due diligence' and a native ending up doing a runner....

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The sad thing is when the "Second Choice" Singh thinks he's getting the goods based on his personality or his general appeal, whether it be the status his education and career affords him, or the general reputation of his family, etc., when in fact he's being played because the girl was sleeping with everything male that possessed a pulse; she got found out, and then decides to dress up as a simple bebeh and venture into a Gurdwara to make a display of her shardaa in order to ensnare a foolish, thirsty Singh who doesn't know the ways of the world. That's pure maari kismat on the Singh's part. She isn't repentant for her mistakes or her past; she just wants to use the supposed respectability offered by a decent Sikh as a shroud to veil her own indiscretions. Eventually, when they do get married, she either gradually and subtley (through a combination of sex and a pleasant demeanour) moulds the Singh to her own mentality, or if the Singh is particularly resilient and refuses to compromise on certain things, she ends up divorcing him. And still Singh Ji doesn't learn his lesson!

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2 hours ago, MisterrSingh said:

The sad thing is when the "Second Choice" Singh thinks he's getting the goods based on his personality or his general appeal, whether it be the status his education and career affords him, or the general reputation of his family, etc., when in fact he's being played because the girl was sleeping with everything male that possessed a pulse; she got found out, and then decides to dress up as a simple bebeh and venture into a Gurdwara to make a display of her shardaa in order to ensnare a foolish, thirsty Singh who doesn't know the ways of the world. That's pure maari kismat on the Singh's part. She isn't repentant for her mistakes or her past; she just wants to use the supposed respectability offered by a decent Sikh as a shroud to veil her own indiscretions. Eventually, when they do get married, she either gradually and subtley (through a combination of sex and a pleasant demeanour) moulds the Singh to her own mentality, or if the Singh is particularly resilient and refuses to compromise on certain things, she ends up divorcing him. And still Singh Ji doesn't learn his lesson!

its the responsibility of those who really know the game being played to educate and wake em up...and it may take more effort with a few depending on how indoctrinated or just stupid/gullible they are by nature....

bros before 'hose' always.

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With the above discussion I think singhs from amritdhari or religious families tend to be more naive and less aware when it comes to the type of women dicussed above     while guys who come from non religious families but later become singhs tend to be more aware and woke in a world sense 

Obviously that's not always the case but it's something iv noticed. 

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