What offer did she make? 

Sorry for like 7 year old reply. Searched "Paradox" n landed here. Thing with doing Naam Jaap, your karma reduce down drastically. A few bumps n grinds in yer jivan will take place. Gurbani tells us to have faith in Guru Ji, benefits of Naam Jap and Karma d nasht ho jande aa.

Imo, Bhinderwale is hated for refusing to come out the Darbar Sahib when Indira made the offer. I believe he could see the future n coming out to save Sikhs / Innocents clearly meant infringement of Guru Sahib's Hukam. He could've thought "I walk out, surrender, Hukam has changed." BUT! Seeing the political complications maybe he saw surrendering as slavery thing? I walk out, STILL no equal rights for Sikhs, still same suppression, still Government ruling our a55es.

Your kes seems damaged? You need a good source of diet for them t get stronger.

If the Bachola's a true saint, u feel, put yer trust in him (Sant who introduced u both).