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Some important points made by a counsellor  about parenting in the modern age and how to deal better with the insidious destruction of childhood by porn . Put lajja to one side and educate your kids before the kids get taught by school and porn.

 

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Only solution is teaching our kids , our ways and giving them self-confidence and knowledge to not let themselves be abused . If they have a strong identity they are visible ,  they don't have to follow the sheep into the 'hooker' look  and they will know they look great because we will tell them rather than some leery middle aged groomer.

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I started watching porn when i was 11!  and i became addicted from the very first time i watched it. She is absolutely right, i does take your innocence away. I still remember the first time i watched it! i didn't even know what most of the stuff was!  You become desensitized to it and then start searching for worse and worse stuff! i can see how it can cause problems in marriages.  

Its too easy to access that's the problem...   sex is everywhere, posters, films, adverts, clothes 

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1 hour ago, lostconfussedsingh said:

Then shortly came the suicide death vids which made me look at real people with death anger thoughts as i look at peoples necks rather than face eyes etc.

How are you with suicide vids now?

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On 9/14/2018 at 10:47 PM, puzzled said:

I started watching porn when i was 11!  and i became addicted from the very first time i watched it. She is absolutely right, i does take your innocence away. I still remember the first time i watched it! i didn't even know what most of the stuff was!  You become desensitized to it and then start searching for worse and worse stuff! i can see how it can cause problems in marriages.  

Its too easy to access that's the problem...   sex is everywhere, posters, films, adverts, clothes 

veerji u commented on my post when i said i was addicted could you please help me if u have experienced it to bro

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Hard for parents these days, how can they ban TV? Entertainment is littered with sexual content, even in music videos.

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On 1/5/2019 at 8:55 PM, jathasingh1978 said:

veerji u commented on my post when i said i was addicted could you please help me if u have experienced it to bro

i suffered from that problem too...

Just Start Getting Busier and Busier in life ( with sports or anything )  and You wont have the time for that and the Habit will wear off...

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On ‎9‎/‎14‎/‎2018 at 9:40 AM, jkvlondon said:

Some important points made by a counsellor  about parenting in the modern age and how to deal better with the insidious destruction of childhood by porn . Put lajja to one side and educate your kids before the kids get taught by school and porn.

 

its not even that big a deal

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On 1/8/2019 at 1:58 PM, mahandulai said:

its not even that big a deal

having talked to a few young lads professionally who are trapped in suicidal depression because they cannot respond to live females in their lives because of PIED (porn induced erectile dysfunction, I disagree it is destroying lives

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2 minutes ago, jkvlondon said:

having talked to a few young lads professionally who are trapped in suicidal depression because they cannot respond to live females in their lives because of PIED (porn induced erectile dysfunction, I disagree it is destroying lives

can be resolved easily , simple rewiring, other reasons I am thinking are present, not the p word

cmon doc

thank yu,

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It erodes the soul over time. I don't say this from a religious perspective just a general humanist pov. 

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what if this is what they want to do ? to tell kids about sex ?

Perhaps this was their ultimate aim and they knew you would do that. and that pornified culture is just a red herring .

Thank god I stay in india . But i know its already pretty bad here since indians like to ape westerners and have thrown their own culture in trash

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1 hour ago, AjeetSinghPunjabi said:

what if this is what they want to do ? to tell kids about sex ?

Perhaps this was their ultimate aim and they knew you would do that. and that pornified culture is just a red herring .

Thank god I stay in india . But i know its already pretty bad here since indians like to ape westerners and have thrown their own culture in trash

You're a smart guy, so can you explain to me as objectively as you can as to why the Indian intellect labours under such cognitive dissonance, that it resents and derides the Westerner yet simultaneously holds his culture in esteem (whether knowingly or otherwise) and ultimately holds the western mindset in a form of reverence, and perhaps also one day hopes to reside in these lands? If the distaste for their ways was genuine and total, then surely even the merest of associations would be considered unpalatable?

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