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So I’ve been introduced to someone that has the same last name as my moms maiden name.  I’ve always thought that this was frowned upon but everybody around me feels it’s not a big deal.  Any thoughts? 

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A kind of a similar question can the bride and groom nanke surnames be the same if they want to marry?

Quite a pity no body answered the above Singh's query 

I hope mine gets answered 

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The reason elders did this was because of genetic variation in the off spring, personally living outside of india these things don't matter, a Singh marries a Kaur simple as that. 

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I have heard people marrying with same nanke surnames now a days but is it correct ethically or religiously or medically. when bride and groom are not relatives but the nanke surnames are same now is this correct ?

 

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No you should not marry a girl from your mother's side because it would be likemarrying a cousin sister. In Punjabi it is called "vutta satta" - meaning when your mother married your father it was a acceptable rista but if you now marry a girl from your mum's side it will be almost like an "exchange." It is difficult to explain but if I was you I would not marry anyone with the same surname as my mum's maiden or dad's (own) surname. 

To avoid incest (ultimate problem) dobt marry anyone that has the same surname as your mum's maiden and your own surname.

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It's not a 'religious' thing as such and not strictly 'cultural' either. It's common sense. The answer to your question then depends almost entirely on how big your clan is. If, for example, your clan is something like Dosanjh, Bassi or Basra then, even though they may come from different villages you can be sure that they all share the same great great grandfather. If, on the other hand, it is one of the bigger clans such as Dhaliwal, Bhullar or Sidhu then there is less chance of some recent blood mixing. The common sense answer then, is 'no'........marrying someone from your nanke is akin to marrying your kin.

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