Looks over heart

[jkvlondon]

1 minute ago, mahandulai said:

when someone says ugly, that don't mean definition you idiosa,

when people talk, they say words, their minds feel, and not reciting the dictionary.

Most people associate the word ugly, with something looking gross,

BUT

the impression of an 'ugly' woman, who is always doing charity, has the impression of being sweet or kind.

Psychology 101.

ugly is not plain , is not darkskinned it is a complete package where someone is repulsed and the truth is she did not qualify for being called that neither behaviourally or physically

[mahandulai]

1 minute ago, jkvlondon said:

ugly is not plain , is not darkskinned it is a complete package where someone is repulsed and the truth is she did not qualify for being called that neither behaviourally or physically

agreed.

so other people out there, SIkhs, non-Sikhs need to be educated when helping others, how people are described, and what they really mean.

[GuestKaur2]

21 hours ago, puzzled said:

End of the day as humans we are naturally attracted to nice/pleasant looking things. And the same goes for potential partners. Most people desire to marry a nice looking person. Most Punjabi parents want a nice looking daughter in law. its just the way we as people think ... 

Yeah that is true I suppose but imagine how hollow it sounds to choose someone's looks over virtues. Personally, looks would be a last priority. If you have a beautiful heart then it doesn't matter how "ugly" you look but people will only see your goodness.

[S1ngh]

On 11/9/2018 at 3:04 PM, Singh1989 said:

As Sikhs youngsters are told "When going for wedding and you're Amritdhaari, be sure your spouse is too." Unfortunately like the education over Nitnemi spouse (as explained in last post), THIS IS NOT TRUE! Grown ups, same grown ups who utter "Nitnemi hovai, Oocha soocha jivan hovai," will say "Have you seen how ugly he/ she looks?"

During my trip to engagement in India this year, my uncle took me to Baba Deep Singh Gurudwara.* My Uncle said "Son, we're going to see this potential Amritdhaari girl for you. But be warned! She don't look nice..." On visiting the Gurudwara my mum saw her. Uncle was desperate to leave, on exiting mum stopped us n said we SHOULD meet her! So we went to one side n we all met. Ok, she had dark skin n bit o facial hair (unnoticeable from far). When she spoke she had this sweet amazing voice. I knew her jivan was that of Chardikala. I thought I met one girl now for next then I can decide between two.

Then dad rang, asked n he was like "Naa puth! Chungi tra dekhi? Rehndi yaar. Audhe dandh wi ooche si" (No idea where he got that from. No pics of her were sent from anyone so my uncle exaggerated). I was right though! She does immense seva. Infact she GAVE UP HER TEACHING JOB TO DO SEVA AT THE GURUDWARA! Then my mum spoke on phone n said "She matches my son! She's simple he's simple. She is also somebody's daughter." Then dad spoke to me n said make sure you look carefully at next girl b4 deciding. Don't just carry on liking any old body.

BROTHERS N SISTERS! THIS... Is the truth. If it happened with me I bet it happened elsewhere! Many are swearing at me, thinking "No mate, you're only one Sikh guy representative" BUT... I know for a fact their are more Sikhs who been through LIES by adults of "Nitnemi over looks" and "Oocha soocha over education." In fact it is Looks/ education over Amritdhaari!

After my engagement to another girl and return back to my home town mum rebuked dad about wha he said n talking me outta saying "Yes" to her. All I say is whoever marries that girl, that guy will be a Heera.

*Names of places and locations are changed.

Need more youngsters like you in our community. 

[Jaggaa]

On 11/11/2018 at 7:21 PM, GuestKaur2 said:

Thats so sad, girls should recieve extra encouragement and praise for wearing a dastar.

Why should they receive extra encouragement and praise?

[GuestKaur2]

2 hours ago, Jaggaa said:

Why should they receive extra encouragement and praise?

Because it is not seen as often.

[RajKaregaKhalsa1]

3 hours ago, Jaggaa said:

Why should they receive extra encouragement and praise?

Look at the world today. If your not wearing make-up, shaving your body or whatever people do these days you are not seen as beautiful. The media have completely taken over the idea of beauty and now as Gursikh (woman) if you are making a stand, people are going to give you looks because you seem strange and out of societies norms. So as Sikhs we should encourage one other to look beyond what people think and just remember that Guru doesn't care about outside looks but the looks on the inside. Are we being compassionate and righteous at the end of the day.

[puzzled]

Is it wrong to want to look nice? smell nice?  wear nice clothes? Doesn't everyone look into the mirror every time they walk past one?  

[jkvlondon]

7 hours ago, puzzled said:

Is it wrong to want to look nice? smell nice?  wear nice clothes? Doesn't everyone look into the mirror every time they walk past one?  

one is basic hygiene and grooming the norm that is running now is narsacisstic preening  for instagram /fb whatever

[mahandulai]

On 11/14/2018 at 4:44 PM, Jaggaa said:

Why should they receive extra encouragement and praise?

lol exactly. bs feminism