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6 hours ago, Guest Hukam said:

Why would you even want to marry and make someone’s life a living hell in the first place? Life is NOT ONLY about marrying and producing dozens of coarse, ill-mannered buffoons.  Let’s face it, kids these days are totally immersed in maya and light years away from sikhi.  Stay single,  don’t even bother looking for anyone, and dedicate your life to Sikhi. Live your life according toi vaheguru’s bhana and see light in everyone.

There is light in everyone, don’t deny it.

These are your own thoughts bai ji, I respect your thoughts 

but I disagree ji.

thanks

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On 12/17/2018 at 11:15 AM, Guest ChangingMindset said:

 

Whether its peoples immaturity in terms of; they are still transitioning from child to adult but most guys refer to women as girls. 

Don't be a gora. It's common for Punjabis to refer to male matches as "boys" and female matches as "girls". 

Your prefrontal cortex is not even fully developed until age 25.

Traditional cultures intuitively know that. Westerners don't know it until they have a 100 scientific studies.

The fact is that both boys and girls need the guidance of their parents or in-laws in the time after marriage.

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On 12/18/2018 at 5:46 PM, GuestSingh said:
On 12/17/2018 at 11:15 AM, Guest ChangingMindset said:

Your marrying a woman, who is going to become centre of your life

woah..these are dangerous words bro - theres a reason why genuine amritdhari couples revolve themselves around guruji, not each other, four times during anand karaj..

a lot of apne, amritdhari or not, still think like this and end up being controlled and manipulated for the rest of their married lives - might as well see themselves as a little dog on a leash.. imo a so called 'singh' can be tamed by their so called 'kaur'..in good times and bad..but they should never be controlled by them.

There's a funny story in the Sau Sakhi where Guru Gobind Singh ji asks some Sikh where his Sikhni is, and then he asks the woman where her Sikh is. Thereby demonstrating that the man is a Sikh (follower) of the woman. And vice versa.

So, point taken.

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On 12/19/2018 at 12:18 PM, Guest Hukam said:

Why would you even want to marry and make someone’s life a living hell in the first place?

Where did you get that he wants to make someone's life a living hell? He specifically wants a compatible, Amritdhari girl in order not to make her life a hell.

He could just marry some random non-Amritdhari girl, he could marry a girl from Canada, but, no, he's trying to get a compatible girl.

What's wrong with that?

On 12/19/2018 at 12:18 PM, Guest Hukam said:

Life is NOT ONLY about marrying and producing dozens of coarse, ill-mannered buffoons.

Wow, what's wrong with you?

Leave out the "dozens" and insulting phrasing rephrase as:

"Life is not only about producing children"

Wrong.

That's ALL life is about. That's the reason you're here today.

The reason the West's population is decreasing is because they've forgotten that. 

So horrible that Sikhs are aping Westerners in this regard.

I do agree that you should dedicate your life to Sikhism, but our religion explicitly is a religion for householders and does not encourage celibacy.

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As an Amritdhari woman, I found it difficult to take the first step into Sikhi by keeping my kesh and changing my rehat just because I wanted people to accept me. I feel like times are changing and there are fewer and fewer women that are wanting to take Amrit due to the fact that society has changed the standards of how a woman should live. Music videos, social media and schools are teaching kids to be a certain way and it's becoming difficult. 

I hope you find your life partner. Stick to Sikhi and rehat, and let Guru Ji handle the rest.

Good luck!

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I think when your into sikhi then everyone faces this kinda dilemma.  everyone is now banging on about me getting married  parents, relatives, random punjabis from the area lol    every day  I get asked when I'm gonna get married.  Got Sukhmani sahib paat at cousins house in Wolverhampton nxt week and I can already hear everyone asking me

Thing is when your kesdhari sikh but not amritdhari then who are you supposed to marry! ?    

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SSA ji I am from Jalandhar Punjab I am also facing same problem for my girl since last 2 years she is amritdhari and tieing keski so it's very difficult for us to find suitable match for her. Sometimes our relatives suggest her  not to tie the keski but she always refuses and said j waheguru g ne sanyog likhe ta hoju par main keski nai vadani. 

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On 10/11/2019 at 3:36 PM, puzzled said:

I think when your into sikhi then everyone faces this kinda dilemma.  everyone is now banging on about me getting married  parents, relatives, random punjabis from the area lol    every day  I get asked when I'm gonna get married.  Got Sukhmani sahib paat at cousins house in Wolverhampton nxt week and I can already hear everyone asking me

Thing is when your kesdhari sikh but not amritdhari then who are you supposed to marry! ?    

Panjabis. Or girls from sikh families where the grandparents are amritdhari but their kids and grandkids are not. 

You can also marry amridhari girls. If you promise to take amrit soon. 

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