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On 12/9/2018 at 2:19 PM, TinnkerBell said:

I am 29 and my family is finding an amritdhari girl for me.As all my family members and relatives are non Amritdharis so we hardly know anyone in gursikhi line. we tried giving ads in newspapers almost 10-15 times. We got almost 60+ responses each time I put matrimonial ad, out of which 98 percent phone calls are those who are not amritdharis. Since I always expected an amritdhari and nitnemi girl as my life partner so I only consider those who are blessed with amrit and the remaining 2-3 percent matches are those who don’t have good education or lacking in height. As a result, after 5 months of continue search- I didn’t find any good rishta. Now my parents are suggesting me to marry a girl who is willing to take amrit, or marry a girl who is vegetarian and slowly she will take amrit and become gursikh      (it doesn’t seems fair to me- I don’t want to force anyone to take amrit and I don’t want Amrit as an agreement for my marriage, I don’t want to marry a nonAmritdhari and than influence her to come to gursikhi, its not right, right?).

On the contrary, some amritdhari matches weren’t interested in me because they want  my all family to be Amritdhari ( None of my family members are gursikh except mom)

Apart from newspaper, I tried shaadi.com, akj.org, bharatmatrimonial.com, jeevansathi.com, and some other matrimonial websites as well. I went to Canada about 7 yrs ago and settled there, Since I spent my childhood and adulthood in Punjab, therefore my mentality,nature, reasoning, thinking and behaviour is developed in a complete different way than CanadianBorns girls. So I don’t want to marry Canadian/US/UK borns girls either.

I am a little disappointed with not finding any suitable match for me and equally  worried for our next generations. Its 2018-it will be hard to find gursikh rishte in next 15-20 years.

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how pakka are you in your rehit, how regularly do you practise shastar?

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On 11/16/2019 at 9:40 AM, Guest SSA ji said:

SSA ji I am from Jalandhar Punjab I am also facing same problem for my girl since last 2 years she is amritdhari and tieing keski so it's very difficult for us to find suitable match for her. Sometimes our relatives suggest her  not to tie the keski but she always refuses and said j waheguru g ne sanyog likhe ta hoju par main keski nai vadani. 

seriously?  i have seen women with keski from panjab who are married.  try AKJ matrimonial like Ajit suggested above.

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On 10/11/2019 at 11:36 PM, puzzled said:

I think when your into sikhi then everyone faces this kinda dilemma.  everyone is now banging on about me getting married  parents, relatives, random punjabis from the area lol    every day  I get asked when I'm gonna get married.  Got Sukhmani sahib paat at cousins house in Wolverhampton nxt week and I can already hear everyone asking me

Thing is when your kesdhari sikh but not amritdhari then who are you supposed to marry! ?    

you can marry regular sikh girls (non amritdhari).

alot of girls comes from families where the men are all keshdharis but not amritdharis, and marry the same.  i have seem it (where both were UK born).  if you look at Gurdwara matrimonial listings, they males list if they are turban wearing or not, so the women  can chose as their preference.

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Well, I agree it's getting difficult for me as a girl to find a Amritdhari, professional guy too....

I think we need to bring together Gursikhs for matrimonial purpose through a good site well connected to wide network. Shaadi.com definitely can't do justice to that.....

These days even clean shaved guys call themselves Gursikhs on shaadi.com disgusting.....alas we don't have a suitable platform. 

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On 1/22/2020 at 7:44 AM, Guest Kaur said:

Well, I agree it's getting difficult for me as a girl to find a Amritdhari, professional guy too....

I think we need to bring together Gursikhs for matrimonial purpose through a good site well connected to wide network. Shaadi.com definitely can't do justice to that.....

These days even clean shaved guys call themselves Gursikhs on shaadi.com disgusting.....alas we don't have a suitable platform. 

The best method is via newspaper ads if u want rishta in Punjab

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